a question !!!

[cute-zozo]

so
how can u be so sure that u are a top or bottom ?
that question came to my mind moment ago
do u have to make love to be sure or it's just the way u think ?
i am Virgin ,
i am not sure that i am completely top , maybe cuz i am virgin
tell me guys how can u be so sure

 

[XMan101]

Well you don't know till you try

It's one thing that is a preference, but having said that many like both, and in some cases many will change and go against their usual preference when in love with that special person.

For a first time make it slow and with someone you trust. If you don't like it they will understand, not everybody does like to bottom.

I didn't like it, and it's been many years since I did it, but I experimented to find out. I would try again but only with someone very special That's just me, some I've found take to it straight away and love it.

 

[cute-zozo]

Well you don't know till you try

It's one thing that is a preference, but having said that many like both, and in some cases many will change and go against their usual preference when in love with that special person.

For a first time make it slow and with someone you trust. If you don't like it they will understand, not everybody does like to bottom.

I didn't like it, and it's been many years since I did it, but I experimented to find out. I would try again but only with someone very special That's just me, some I've found take to it straight away and love it.

so u say i will have to try first with someone . thanks
what about the others ?...

 

[zortek]

when you see a hot guy, what do you fantasize about ?

do you want to fuck him ?
do you want him to fuck you ?
do you want both ?

before i started having sex, my fantasies were all about mutual oral sex and me fucking the guy.
... so being the top fitted me fine, is my preference. and most of the guys i have been with want me to top.
i tried bottoming early on, but just didn't work.

BUT .. then you meet someone special, just as XMan101 says, and you want them in you as much as you want to be in them. with these guys i became versatile.

id say experiment and find out what you like, in whatever time it takes, with the guy it feels right with.
you do not have to define yourself anyway. why limit yourself ??


these days my ideal partner (and relationship) would be versatile ...

 

[Tjerk12]

Your feelings will guide you in the right position when the time is there.

 

[tonka]

Good gay sex is a skill. It's especially true for bottoming (at least for most people). It's very common for boys to start off as tops, but end up as versatile or bottoms.
If you're just starting out...oral and topping are pretty easy. It really helps to have a considerate partner when you start bottoming.

 

[takeitall456]

Your feelings will guide you in the right position when the time is there.

I couldn't say better ... :agree:

 

[garth33]

Hey Zo - this is going to sound weird and I don't mean it like that but do you think your "feeling" you're a top might be a little cultural or like, the guy should be the one DOING the action (told you it might get weird:blushing but I think you know what I'm saying. You live a very male dominated part of the world.

Just a theory anyway - like some of the others have said you never know until you try. (and ANOTHER reason to keep pursuing your dreams buddy!)

peace,
g

 

[squiggle]

I couldn't agree more with garth33's comments. In Thailand, gay men frequently have sexual roles thrust on them; you are either Kings or Queens. The Queen tends to be more effeminate, gives oral sex and is the bottom. Kings do not perform oral sex and are tops. The distinction is also frequently by age with the top being the older.
Avoid trying to classify yourself as either top or bottom, or being culturally forced into a category. Some men get no physical pleasure from bottoming and may even find it uncomfortable or even painful, and I don't mean just the first few times. Consider yourself to be "versatile" until experience tells you which you prefer...or that you prefer both. This is one occasion when "don't yet know" is perfectly valid.

 

[cute-zozo]

Hey Zo - this is going to sound weird and I don't mean it like that but do you think your "feeling" you're a top might be a little cultural or like, the guy should be the one DOING the action (told you it might get weird:blushing but I think you know what I'm saying. You live a very male dominated part of the world.

Just a theory anyway - like some of the others have said you never know until you try. (and ANOTHER reason to keep pursuing your dreams buddy!)

peace,
g

hey G
i think u are right
i would never know till i try
but i never thought like what u said
i am very open mind
even in my country

 

[sergueibxl]

Just let yourself go and discover yourself. Try different things, this is the only way!
And fuck the words "passive/active" - or "feeble/strong" - or "femalish/malish".

We are what we are (or one is what one is)....I'm French, that may explain this phrasing....

 

[Sinnerr]

Personally I'm versatile. I enjoy both if other one can do it perfect (btw. guys who can it is really few). I would say every gay is versatile from nature. Being only top or only bottom seems to me bit sellfish. Well it's not my bussines what others do but I can say that my potentional partner has to versatile.
But don't forget that there aren't only dick and ass. You know, every part of body is worth attention. Anal fuck is great finnish. If i compare sex and another pleasure which is food I would say anal fuck is a dessert.
Perfect menu might be:
First long kiss - aperitive
Hugging - strater
Caress - soup
Sucking, jerking each other, ass fingering - main food (if you want to continue with dessert you must reserve space for it, so without getting off)
Ass fuck - dessert
But realizing something like that it's not very easy. There is need coordiantion. So if want try it you need permanent partner who would work on it with you. Personally last time I sometimes go to eat some cake. But I'm already overfeeding. Especially when some bottom guy encourages me like I would do pole-jumping or something like that.

Uf, I've sidetracked a bit. So simply don't pigeonholing you top or bottom. Every time listen to your momental appetite.

 

[XMan101]

You're actually making me hungry - do you do takeway ?

 

[Rozas]

I hope you find it good guys i clarify Sinnerr's menu with pictures of the dishes .... tasty.

1 long kiss aperitive



2 hugging starter



3 caress soup



4 main food....ass fingering



or... jerking each other....



or....sucking a dick.



5 ass fucking dessert.....



6 and of cours a delicious "pousse café"!!



PS: special for Cute zozo

 

[ERICOOL85]

experience and self Exploration my friend

 

[topdog]

Well, top and bottom are just sexual positions. They are not states of being. Sex is a big world out there with lots of things to sample. Start with what you are comfortable with. Get good at that, then experiment a little. There's always something new to learn. Even for an old dog like me!

 

[garth33]

You're actually making me hungry - do you do takeway ?

Get a room you two!!

g

 

[garth33]

I hope you find it good guys i clarify Sinnerr's menu with pictures of the dishes .... tasty.

1 long kiss aperitive



2 hugging starter



3 caress soup



4 main food....ass fingering



or... jerking each other....



or....sucking a dick.



5 ass fucking dessert.....



6 and of cours a delicious "pousse café"!!



PS: special for Cute zozo

Hey Zo - Rozas has ALWAYS been known as a bit of tease around here

but yeah - he did a good job laying out the "options' for you in the global community we live in....wow...and it is true!

In 2012 - Anything you want or desire is in your hands, my friend But it does depend on you...if you live in a country that represses...why not move? Especially if you're a student or just making your way in the world...find a place where you can succeed financially and sexually!

TODAY everyone in any country has the ability to talk to others all around the planet easily and like NO TIME in our past....TAKE ADVANTAGE of it! Loyalty to borders and countries (and other dicey things like religion or ideology) melt away when individuals realize they can be happy and thrive and actually ENJOY THEIR short lives on tha planet Earth when they can do what they WANT and FEEL and not be judged for it.

I love GH because I can find people all over the world and tell them ways to just BE HAPPY!

Good Luck Zo! Break the mold and LIVE YOUR LIFE to the fullest buddy! It's the only one you get!

 

[Rozas]

PS:I meant not to tease...

 

[lovetosuckcock]

Everybody is different and the only way that you're going to know for sure what you like is to try everything you can. In my case I tried being a top and didn't really get the right feeling from it. Then I tried bottoming and I knew right away that I had found what I like and what I am. Ever since that first time I've been a bottom only.