about my recent experience

[asderbrx]

Hi everyone, so about a year ago, I wrote this thing about my straight crush and the society which, from my point of view, is pretty upsetting. But recently, I experienced something pretty wonderful. :blushing:
It was like a month ago. I met this really hot guy and he let everyone knows that he is gay. Pretty amazing, right? Well I guess its becasue he got a lot of confidence about himself, which is a good thing. If I am as hot as he is, I won't mind coming out at all. (You can say I am shallow, I admit I am)
The thing is, he is not shallow at all. He once told me that, 'I dont really care about looks, it's what the inside that matters' Pretty sweet, huh? As a result, without any careful consideration, I fell in love with him. I won't get into the details, but I am enjoying it very much.
Sound great, right? I thought so! Until I start to worry about this 'sex' thing. Just to clarify, I am a virgin. So without any experience, the idea of sex can be quite daunting rather than exciting, I would say half half. As a very hot guy, I am not surprised that he always want sex. But I am not well prepared, both physically and metally I mean. Well maybe this is my only problem that I am not sorting it out quick enough. But I feel really pressured as he is pushing me quite hard. Makes me think about the question, 'Does he only want sex from me?'
I personally think this is quite a common question to be asked by any couples around. But it is quite a big concern. When it comes to gay couples, it becomes a more severe problem. I understand he got sexual urge, I do too. But is it right to always put the 'sex' thing first? Is a gay relationship based on sex really?



***Thank you so much for reading this. I love you all. I'd love to read all your lovelt comments as well!!! please feel free to comment! Also what do you guys think about me making a blog or tumblr or something like that? I really like sharing stories and other's as well. PLease make me know how you think. Lots of love and have a great day :big hug:, Brx***

 

[bigsal]

I hope I have translated well the message, and have grasped their meaning(unfortunately in my case it happens sometimes), and if so I apologize in advance.

In my opinion, but that's just my opinion, do casual sex or for pleasure, is different from doing it with the one you love.
In the second case should be more spontaneous, but it is not always so simple.
One of the most common reasons that prevents it from being spontaneous, is the fear of disappointing your partner.
If so, well talk about it and try to dissolve psychological blocks.
In all cases, you should not wait too long, because even love can decrease in intensity.
Good luck.

 

[SimplyJakeAndAlex]

I hope I have translated well the message, and have grasped their meaning(unfortunately in my case it happens sometimes), and if so I apologize in advance.

In my opinion, but that's just my opinion, do casual sex or for pleasure, is different from doing it with the one you love.
In the second case should be more spontaneous, but it is not always so simple.
One of the most common reasons that prevents it from being spontaneous, is the fear of disappointing your partner.
If so, well talk about it and try to dissolve psychological blocks.
In all cases, you should not wait too long, because even love can decrease in intensity.
Good luck.

Very well translated BS

 

[topdog]

What I get from your message is that you are unsure of crossing the line into sexual activity. It sounds like this is not an issue specifically with this guy, but was bound to come up eventually with anyone to whom you are attracted.

If you want him, and he wants you, then I don't think that timing is a problem. It is important that you are honest with him about your fear, and that he respect you and be willing to go along at a pace that will be comfortable for you. If you feel like you are being pushed into it, then you may resent him later.

Also, nobody does it all right the first time. Forget about some big romantic "first time" experience. Better to take things slow. Get used to touching and being touched. Get used lying naked in your boyfriend's arms. If you are not ready for a big deal, maybe it would be sexy to watch him masturbate. Or to masturbate together.

Sex should be about giving and receiving pleasure, not any specific sexual act.

One last thing - communicating what you want to your partner and talking honestly about sex is a skill that you will want to develop for the rest of your life. This is a good place to start.