Being cocky vs. being confident: where is the line drawn?

[JonnyFantastico]

I can't be the only one questioning this.

There seems to be an epidemic reaching catastrophic proportions in the gay community... as if there wasn't enough to deal with.

As of late, I have been noticing that certain young gay boys, or as I like to call them, "gaybies" have been taking hold of the fact that they're "hot". Don't get me wrong; we notice it, too. We may smile your way, give a kind word or two or even, if we're feeling lucky, step up to you and attempt to "kick some game".

But it's the way that it's being taken in by these boys that's becoming a bit of a problem.

In a community where there is usually so much to already fear, rather than a gentle letdown or even just a "thank you", there is an air of conceit that seems to follow these boys. Not only do they know they're pretty cute, they aren't afraid to let you know that you know this... and that they do as well. There's a stuffy bit of nature in their tone as if they are Earth's gift to gay sex or the common masturbatory fantasy.

To put it bluntly: that shit is not cute. :no:

Where has this sudden air of "I've got it all and you can't have it" come from? Don't get me wrong; there is nothing wrong with being confident. A confident young man takes a comment or a flirtatious encounter with stride and politeness. They may not be interested in an advance from another person, but they smile, say "thank you" in the best possible way and keep it moving. At the end of those encounters, the rejected party feels more like, "OK, that didn't work out, but maybe the next one will feel differently" rather than "Wow. Am I that damn disgusting?" Confidence is passed with warm gestures, no matter the cirstance. Conceit is passed with the ugliest of actions and I'm tired of seeing it. :angry:

Take this as you will, young gaybies. I, for one, won't stand for this anymore. Just because you may be more attractive, your body may be in more shape, your dick may be bigger... doesn't mean you know the ways of the world better than I do, that you have more sex appeal than I do (trust me; I've seen it: some of these things don't know how to work with what they're given. A cute smile and a "hair flip" ain't what you think it is, young one) or that you're a better person than the one before you or after you. Give me a "normal" guy with "normal" attributes and the kind heart any day; I'd rather deal with the realistic nature than the ugly fantasy that you are.

I can't be the only one who agrees with this, right? Give your thoughts here.

- Jonny Fantastico

 

[gb2000ie]

What goes around comes around - arrogant gits tend to get their comeuppance sooner or later. Being a jerk is not going to get you love or fulfilment in life in the long term. I feel sorry for people like this. I hope they grow up quickly, for their own sakes.

Best anyone can do is avoid these people. If you see someone being a cocking git, blank them. Spend your time with real people.

B.

 

[diklik]

I agree that what goes around definitely comes around. In my experience, cocky guys are almost always scared of something, and use their arrogant and cheeky attitudes to hide their insecurities.

I recall one of the hottest looking guys in high school; he had girls falling all over him and boys looking on with envy at both his apparent magnetic chick attraction, and his body too. To be truthful, he was very well built with muscle and curves in the right places. His attitude was totally cocky and arrogant, the exact model of "hey look how cool I am and you're not!". Well, someone called his bluff one day and it was discovered that he was a total virgin who had never done more than jerk his own dick. He got caught doing that in the locker room toilet, and when a couple of football jocks called him out they managed to elicit the truth about his virginity.

I would never diss a guy who is a virgin, everyone has their own time and space for that first experience. But in this guy's case, it was a fitting come-down that the news flashed like wildfire throughout the male population of the school. Buddy couldn't look anyone in the eye after that.

 

[brmstn69]

The revenge is that sooner or later age catches up with them and by the time they realize that they wasted their youth and beauty being superficial, it's too late because they have already alienated everyone would have given a shit about them .

Then they become just another lonely, bitter old queen...