Hey Guys:
Its been a while since I've shared a post with you all and I hope that all is well within your lives. From the beginning of this year, I had decided to open myself up more into the world of dating. Unfortunately as to be expected, I've come across some assholes that at the end of the day, all you can do is laugh at their tired and stupid tactics and on to the next one of course with caution.
However, I want to share a portion of what I've endured with this guy who had an approach that was totally different from all that I've met so far and so full of charm and intelligence that I began to wonder if there could be a future with him in my life. This guy is well educated and comes from a very wealthy family. After being introduced to him back in April, we had a very nice conversation and decided to exchange contact information. After several conversations until the early morning hours with this guy, he began to open up a lot with me in regard to his personal life and family issues. He also informed me that he was in a relationship but its crumbling a part and its coming to an end soon. I've heard this story several times within my life and I decided at that point that our relationship would be strictly platonic. First of all, I believe that anytime someone claims to be in a troubled relationship and is still living or spending quality time such as partying, and vacations, etc. that couples do, then there is so much more going on in that relationship than what they are saying.
As time moved on, I found out that after revealing he was in love with me, a few days later, he slept with someone else beside his partner. The fact of the matter is that he did not volunteer this information to me on his own. What happened was that when we were in conversation one night, he started telling me this story of how he had went to visit one of his close friends who were going through some problems within his relationship and once they got to sharing their problems, things took a turn and got pretty intense between them and they did things that he later regret and wish what happened never did. Now, with that information, it was not hard to read between the lines, but in order not to assume, I gave him a chance to clarify what he meant and he got upset with me and hung up with no explanation given.
A day later, he contacted me and started asking me what I thought about cheating within a relationship. After I gave him my response, I never heard from him again until a couple of weeks ago since July. What really surprised me was that he started posting pictures on his social account of him and his partner and their friends out and about on the town appearing as a loving couple. Therefore, I had just looked at the situation with him as a mistake and I moved on without giving it another thought because due to all that we shared with each other, I came to the conclusion that he is not worth my time and this is a blessing in disguise for me not getting involved with him.
I also found out that one of the pictures that he shared with me that was "for my eyes only" which was rather risque was being used by someone as their profile who had contacted me about accepting a friend request. I recognized the picture as soon as I saw it and I contacted the guy and asked him where did he get the picture. All of a sudden, the guy deleted the account altogether. Since my "friend" and I were not speaking anymore, I kept this information to myself but this also helped me move forward even more because he lied again about not sharing intimate photos with no one but me.
So, as I've mentioned earlier, a couple of weeks ago, he contacted me and approached me inquiring why he hasn't heard from me anymore and what happened for me to stop talking to him? This annoyed me a little to know that he wanted to play the "I don't know what happened between us" act when he knew damn well what occurred. Instead of getting pissed, I became very proud of myself of knowing that his actions did not ruffle my feathers at all because years ago, I would have been very upset at someone trying to play me for a fool but I handled him from a platonic perspective. What I've learned is to not get upset or angry and display kindness towards people like him when I'm approached because I now know how to handle them and what boundaries to set when they are in my presence now that they've shown their "cards" so to speak.
Throughout these two weeks, whenever he contacted me, I converse with him like an acquaintance instead of a friend and kept the conversation basic even though he had tried to take it to a sexual place several times. So, the other night, he went on to tell me how much he misses me and how he is still in love with me and how he shared special pictures with me that he have not shared with no one...lol...This is when I stopped him and asked him first of all, how can you say you love with me when you are still with someone that you've claimed that you are in not in love with anymore and yet, you posted pictures of you and him looking very happy together. Secondly, if I'm so special and you shared "special photos" with me then how did this guy get a hold of a picture that you sent me and used it as his profile picture?
At this point, he became very upset and shocked with what I was saying and still, for the first ten minutes, he kept lying that I was the only one who had that picture and he had deleted it after he gave it to me. Everytime he presented a new lie, I had a comeback for him that made him silent with no comeback. He finally said that this was his fault and he should have never posted the picture on one his other social network pages...lol...but initially, he had told me that he did not post it anywhere else ..it was deleted and just for my eyes only...lol...lol..
Instead of just letting me go since he face was on the floor...he sent me a full naked shot of him on the bed...so I responded with a "thanks" and why say this picture is for me when eventually it will be seen by others?...of course he was not pleased with my response. To conclude with this story, he got really upset over what I just revealed and stop talking to me. In other words, I'm not upset over this because I now see him in a total different light where things are going to turn for the worst for him by playing these games. So, what you guys think and thanks for those who took time to respond.:thumbs up:
Its been a while since I've shared a post with you all and I hope that all is well within your lives. From the beginning of this year, I had decided to open myself up more into the world of dating. Unfortunately as to be expected, I've come across some assholes that at the end of the day, all you can do is laugh at their tired and stupid tactics and on to the next one of course with caution.
However, I want to share a portion of what I've endured with this guy who had an approach that was totally different from all that I've met so far and so full of charm and intelligence that I began to wonder if there could be a future with him in my life. This guy is well educated and comes from a very wealthy family. After being introduced to him back in April, we had a very nice conversation and decided to exchange contact information. After several conversations until the early morning hours with this guy, he began to open up a lot with me in regard to his personal life and family issues. He also informed me that he was in a relationship but its crumbling a part and its coming to an end soon. I've heard this story several times within my life and I decided at that point that our relationship would be strictly platonic. First of all, I believe that anytime someone claims to be in a troubled relationship and is still living or spending quality time such as partying, and vacations, etc. that couples do, then there is so much more going on in that relationship than what they are saying.
As time moved on, I found out that after revealing he was in love with me, a few days later, he slept with someone else beside his partner. The fact of the matter is that he did not volunteer this information to me on his own. What happened was that when we were in conversation one night, he started telling me this story of how he had went to visit one of his close friends who were going through some problems within his relationship and once they got to sharing their problems, things took a turn and got pretty intense between them and they did things that he later regret and wish what happened never did. Now, with that information, it was not hard to read between the lines, but in order not to assume, I gave him a chance to clarify what he meant and he got upset with me and hung up with no explanation given.
A day later, he contacted me and started asking me what I thought about cheating within a relationship. After I gave him my response, I never heard from him again until a couple of weeks ago since July. What really surprised me was that he started posting pictures on his social account of him and his partner and their friends out and about on the town appearing as a loving couple. Therefore, I had just looked at the situation with him as a mistake and I moved on without giving it another thought because due to all that we shared with each other, I came to the conclusion that he is not worth my time and this is a blessing in disguise for me not getting involved with him.
I also found out that one of the pictures that he shared with me that was "for my eyes only" which was rather risque was being used by someone as their profile who had contacted me about accepting a friend request. I recognized the picture as soon as I saw it and I contacted the guy and asked him where did he get the picture. All of a sudden, the guy deleted the account altogether. Since my "friend" and I were not speaking anymore, I kept this information to myself but this also helped me move forward even more because he lied again about not sharing intimate photos with no one but me.
So, as I've mentioned earlier, a couple of weeks ago, he contacted me and approached me inquiring why he hasn't heard from me anymore and what happened for me to stop talking to him? This annoyed me a little to know that he wanted to play the "I don't know what happened between us" act when he knew damn well what occurred. Instead of getting pissed, I became very proud of myself of knowing that his actions did not ruffle my feathers at all because years ago, I would have been very upset at someone trying to play me for a fool but I handled him from a platonic perspective. What I've learned is to not get upset or angry and display kindness towards people like him when I'm approached because I now know how to handle them and what boundaries to set when they are in my presence now that they've shown their "cards" so to speak.
Throughout these two weeks, whenever he contacted me, I converse with him like an acquaintance instead of a friend and kept the conversation basic even though he had tried to take it to a sexual place several times. So, the other night, he went on to tell me how much he misses me and how he is still in love with me and how he shared special pictures with me that he have not shared with no one...lol...This is when I stopped him and asked him first of all, how can you say you love with me when you are still with someone that you've claimed that you are in not in love with anymore and yet, you posted pictures of you and him looking very happy together. Secondly, if I'm so special and you shared "special photos" with me then how did this guy get a hold of a picture that you sent me and used it as his profile picture?
At this point, he became very upset and shocked with what I was saying and still, for the first ten minutes, he kept lying that I was the only one who had that picture and he had deleted it after he gave it to me. Everytime he presented a new lie, I had a comeback for him that made him silent with no comeback. He finally said that this was his fault and he should have never posted the picture on one his other social network pages...lol...but initially, he had told me that he did not post it anywhere else ..it was deleted and just for my eyes only...lol...lol..
Instead of just letting me go since he face was on the floor...he sent me a full naked shot of him on the bed...so I responded with a "thanks" and why say this picture is for me when eventually it will be seen by others?...of course he was not pleased with my response. To conclude with this story, he got really upset over what I just revealed and stop talking to me. In other words, I'm not upset over this because I now see him in a total different light where things are going to turn for the worst for him by playing these games. So, what you guys think and thanks for those who took time to respond.:thumbs up:
