Clueless

[warrenxx]

I always seem to miss the obvious. I never seem to read a situation correctly. I always seem to be the one who ends up in the worst position when the chips are down.
I don't know what is wrong with me. I seem to be highly gullible and taken in by others and used as a pawn. I've lost count of the number of times, I've become the sacrificial lamb or scapegoat for other people's mistakes. I seem to get dragged into situations without even realising it.
I think the problem is a combination of a low emotional intelligence and a deep seated loathing. I feel afraid to hold an opinion and have an inability to stand by it, irrespective of whether I am right or wrong. I am far too eager to please others and feel that my needs are unimportant next to theirs. I am ripe for exploitation and astute people are able to read this.
I don't know what the cure for this is. It's one thing being aware there is an issue. It is another finding a way of dealing with it.
I think it has a lot to do with the fact I have never experienced requited love. All the love I have felt has always been one way. The reaction I have been met with when the other person has found out has always been highly negative . It's always been a highly traumatic experience that has reinforced negativity. Each time it gets harder and harder to overcome and find the resilience to move forward.
Do other people experience this or do I just need to grow up, stop being a human door mat and accept life is like this if you let it? Please give an honest opinion

 

[Ioanna]

Hi warrexx I have carefully read your message (cry)and consider this as a sad cry for help and an ask for a little bit of attention ... human.
I can not give you advice, but have made this little montage for you, a small representation of probably you feel like .
Let it be my contribution so that you would feel a little better.
The final gif. image says "I love you" but actually should it be "we love you", I have posted this in the name of all the GHmembers .... this is okay with you guys?
I wish you all the best warrexx and certainly a good and warm feeling!

 

[Whisper]

Based on what you say there: to me it sounds like you need to learn how to respect yourself. If you don't respect yourself, the others wont do it either. Same thing with love. If you only think negatively about yourself, what do you think others would? I'm not saying that you should become conceited and egoistic asshole, but some self respect and accepting yourself, loving yourself in a good, healthy way could help a lot. Learn to stand on your own feet, you don't have to please everyone and try saying no sometimes. It is up to you what kind of life you'll have :big hug: