College Boy Crush

[newage]

So yea i've been at college for a while now and i've had my eye on this boy in my english class. I pretty sure is gay, then again u never really know. He seems really nice and sweet..but is a bit distant. Always seats by himself, and frequently texting someone in class. Plus his dorm building is right behind mine. Anyways the last english class is tommorrow and i feel like i should go up and say somthing to him. I don't just want to hit on him right away, but like I also don't want to come up like a stalker or anything...we haven't relaly talked yet. I was hoping we would eventually get to talking but it just never happened. I get the feeling he must know something from the way i look at him. Ideas ? i need help and i have no experience what so ever!

Minor Update: i emailed him like an hour ago and he responded. I asked him to explain the final and I seemed all worried about it and he was nice and sweet and tried to put my mind at ease. I tried giving little hints that i like him, but i don't know if he's just being nice. Anyways, tomorrow i shall continue my voyage.

 

[Jamie]

I`m sooo unexperienced in these but I say: DO IT! What do you have to lose? Of course don`t hit on him from the beginning but you can start a conv. There are times when I regret so much not doing things when I should have done them in the past...like what you`re experiencing now...

There is a cute guy ...about 27-28 yo who works at a pizzeria just in front of my balcony...I always buy pizza from him...and everytime we meet I just salute and he smiles at me...and I sooo WISH i could have the strenght to talk to him...but talk what? WHat type of pizzas do they have ?? LOL! And I think he`s either gay or bi...but I just don`t know what I could tell him to start a conversation

 

[goejavin]

Just slowly assert yourself Newage...Eye contact, just "happen" to be in the same spot, say at lunch, go out of your way to say hi while of course he doesnt see you getting in position and then before you know it...BAM...you're in...

 

[newage]

yea and like as i was leaving class today i held the door for him and he was like thanks...but almost mute...like he was idk nervous or something. And i made it worse by not replying. And now im like so mad at my self.

 

[goejavin]

No, no thats beautiful, Newage...it wont happen all at once. Tomorrow is another day, so little by little you can make it happen bydoing things just a little more aggressive...and see, you might make him nervous already which is a good sign...

 

[Thor]

well, you could always just sit next to him in class and say HI!! and introduce yourself to him

 

[newage]

the sitting next to him is the weird part ...there is exactly enough sits for everyone in class. So for instance if u arrive a little late u have to sit in particular spots. And i have arrived early a couple of times...but he didn't sit next to me. So like i'd been waiting for a chance for a sit right nxt to him...but it just didn happen. Anyways...nxt class i'll make it a point to strike up a convo. I even have his email...but its better to see talk to him face to face.

 

[XMan101]

Just don't make the mistake of expecting things to work out like your dreams, often they don't, but sometimes they do

Little by litle does it, and if he's interested then you'll know, just mention something quite ordinary to start with, but something he will have to make a reply to, make sure you can reply back too. That's how a conversation starts.

He may be very shy, so if he is interested he may need a bit of coaxing, on the other hand he may be quite happy on his own, but at the least he sounds like he might be pleased to make a new friend

 

[glamfunk84]

Maybe y'all can catch a him during a school break and try to chat. I think his shyness is preventing him to talk. I had that problem I was so shy I didn't approach anybody so that could be what he's at.

 

[greekhot]

Go for it newage!!!

 

[nothan007]

hey you should absoulately try ! but be careful . i know this kind of people and if you try too much they got bored . so try to make him notice you not only in class also in outside. try to appear suddenly in some places that he doesnt expect you there . dont try to push him talk . and when he looks at you give him a very small smile . just dont worry . What do you have to lose? im sure that you will start a friendship

 

[mikawa]

my advice [ive done several times and im also gonna do this week]
start talking to him directly, show him you like him but try not to seem annoying or desperated
its as simple as introducing yourself and asking him for msn address, and you have all the day after that to regret if you want, but at least you will have talked to him and maybe you will do again

 

[Jamie]

my advice [ive done several times and im also gonna do this week]
start talking to him directly, show him you like him but try not to seem annoying or desperated
its as simple as introducing yourself and asking him for msn address, and you have all the day after that to regret if you want, but at least you will have talked to him and maybe you will do again

Show him he likes him in what way? In that way or...as a friend..or he likes him as a person who`s pleasant to the sight? What if the guy is not gay or bi? What if newage maks a mistake and says something and the poor guy will freak out? It`s better to start slowly...start a cnversation about school, classes,...about sports maybe or dunno...something that they have in common... and after they make a bond , he could ask about some intimate things...like if he has a girlfriend...) ) If instead you want a one night stand, go to a gay bar or go to a place where gay people gather...
These things take a bit of time...it`s not like in the str8 world...you go to a disco, see a girl dance, you go next to her, smile at her and start dancing and if she`s OK with it and smiles back and even talks to you she`s yours...(or maybe she`s just friendly and her big muscular BF is at the table watching at you and preparing his fists AHAHHA)

 

[iotbg]

......maybe she`s just friendly and her big muscular BF is at the table watching at you and preparing his fists AHAHHA)

thx Jamie,i love your humor

 

[mikawa]

if hes not gay the result would be the same going slowly or not... anyway, even if hes not gay [or say so] should be there any trouble in meeting? if the boy he likes agree, perfect, if not, it didnt worth and going slow would be a waste of time... anyway, the "method" is what i use when i fancy a boy, if i want something serious i dont do this [or i could, it depends] but what i understood is that he fancies a boy in his english classes

 

[Jamie]

yes but it`s something...different...different cultures let`s say And when I said to take it slow I wasn`t talking about weeks and months HAHA! Just a few days...first day hello! second day Need help @ English? 3d day: so, do you have a GF? 4th day: oh, last night was awesome! Thank you.

 

[newage]

yes but it`s something...different...different cultures let`s say And when I said to take it slow I wasn`t talking about weeks and months HAHA! Just a few days...first day hello! second day Need help @ English? 3d day: so, do you have a GF? 4th day: oh, last night was awesome! Thank you.

lmao jamie that sounds perfect. My problem is Tommorow is my last english class. Unless I am able to entice him, we probably will never meet again. But i dunno, i don't just wanna screw. I shoulda did something earlier...but i thought it was just a simple crush but now like he's on my mind a lot more than anyone usually is. My plan for tomorrow is, to get well out of my way to talk to him, see his reaction and perhaps try walking back to the dorms with him. Btw would it be weird if i asked why he's like always on his phone texting someone:worried:...cuz i feel that could tell me if he involved or not and perhaps more importantly who he is involved with.

 

[Jamie]

well, texting a lot doesn`t really mean he`s involved... I used to text a lot too in the past...they actually gave me a bonus for sending 300 sms in one month I was messaging with a friend from another town...but again..he might be involved...well, if I were involved, I wouldn`t like texting that much with my partner...I`d better wait and talk on the phone ..or better , face 2 face...
Anyways, my opinion is yes...somehow it would be weird asking him that! Well, you could just make a notice:"I saw you play with the phone a lot. You like sending txt messages? Or it`s a game you`re playing on it? "

 

[newage]

well, texting a lot doesn`t really mean he`s involved... I used to text a lot too in the past...they actually gave me a bonus for sending 300 sms in one month I was messaging with a friend from another town...but again..he might be involved...well, if I were involved, I wouldn`t like texting that much with my partner...I`d better wait and talk on the phone ..or better , face 2 face...
Anyways, my opinion is yes...somehow it would be weird asking him that! Well, you could just make a notice:"I saw you play with the phone a lot. You like sending txt messages? Or it`s a game you`re playing on it? "

that sounds innocent! im so using that
thanks

 

[newage]

If you're both living on campus just throw a house party and make sure he gets invited. Everyone will get very drunk, then there will be no inhibition about having a chat!

i've heard drinking is a great way to ease tensions. If only i was that social. I definitely need to be more forward with people. Its really weird cuz when i start talking i almost don't stop, the issue is getting started.