Crying to order

[wintertime]

Am I alone in the fact that as I age I can cry very easily.A record,film and many other things start it off.I have no reason to do this.It does not worry me in the slightest but is it an age thing?

 

[haiducii]

Sure it is normal...It shows that you have emotions...We're all human, after all.

Most of guys don't like to show their emotions, they feel it makes them seem weak. :blushing:

 

[Shelter]

Oh this is a theme I must say something too. Yes I'm crying as well because I'm fuill of emotions. A film-drama can make to flow my tears, and on many other occasions as well. And I think as a man I'm not weak because I can cry - I think it shows I can feel with others. If a man can' cry he will be in my eyes emotionless. And think what an emotionless man will mean to you!?

 

[bigsal]

Those who manifest their feelings and emotions are persons very strong, because their is not afraid to show what he has inside his heart.

So do not be afraid, let go well with your emotion, as I do when I find myself in similar situations.

 

[jw4833]

I am not sure if this is an age thing...but I also find myself letting go of my emotions the same as you. I had assumed that for me..this was an after effect that was coming from me overcoming a near death situation several years ago. However, you had just confirmed to me that I am not the only guy that goes through this .... In fact, last week, I was out on a date and the guy I was out with ...invited me back to his place for a nightcap. He went to put on some soft music and asked me to slow dance with him. As we preceded to dance to the song...he went in to kiss me long and deep...what took me by surprise was that as we engage into a kissing frenzy...all of a sudden...a tear strolled down my right cheek..I was so embarrassed ...nonetheless..he was so into what was taking place that he did not even notice it. A few days later...I had chalked this up to me more than likely having a memory flashback of being with my late partner because he too loved to slow dance and preceded into a long kissing session while dancing...

 

[fkboy1]

Nope.....Age has nothing to do with it. Humans are emotional beings, afterall!
Its just that in today's world the view is that a man who cries is taken as weak; a man has to be strong, not show emotions,.............all of these male egoistic views which in my humble opinion are C-R-A-P!

 

[Shelter]

Hi JW4833 - you told us here a beautiful emotional personal example. When I read it, I could see the scene, you are describing, before my very eyes. And as well my eyes would be bleary. My God that was a short scene like from a movie - GREAT and full of emotions.

 

[W!nston]

I've found that certain things may cause me to turn on the water works (tears) more than in the past. The inevitability of my own mortality or longing for youthful pursuits are a couple. Thinking of loved ones who are no longer or regretting things I've said or done are some others.

In some ways age has given me more control over my emotions. I'm less likely to cry when disappointment rings my bell. I've become accustomed to it I guess, lol.

All that said - I know what you are saying wintertime - life is so much shorter than I thought when I was younger.

 

[j515253]

We are all humans and we all have emotions. It is normal to express ourselves, including crying. Ignore those who tells you its not manly to cry.

Hope this helps.

 

[Dendood]

I have come to the realization that most negative things do not create a physical response in me. I am too hard wired for that. Faced with a problem, my brain searches out logical solutions and non-emotional responses. The result of this is negative experiences harbor deeply in my subconscious. I'm like a Vulcan. Logical on the surface with raging emotions buried deep, deep in my psyche.

In contrast, positive experiences immediately elicit physical responses. Show me something 'happy' and I will instantly tear up. And it doesn't have to involve me directly. Just the sight of seeing people happy and I am all tears.

I'm not sure if this is the proper response to things... I can sit stone faced at parent's funerals... and cry like a baby because a crowd is cheering a sport victory. At heart anything negative stirs up the 'fight or flight' instinct in me. And it makes me want to fight. Survive. Get through it. When things get tough there's no crying in baseball. Save the tears for winning.