Dating a guy who has a disability

[jw4833]

Hey Guys:

Someone asked me the other day if I would date a guy who has a disability and I thought this would be a great topic of discussion for the forum.

I don't think there's nothing wrong with dating or being in a relationship with a disabled man. There was this guy who had an awesome body, rugged handsome looks..but had a disability with one of his legs where when he walked ...he needed a really sturdy cane. The thing is from what I've assumed from this guy's behavior...he would come off non-approachable and always a had a mean look on his face. While jogging through the nearby park...I came across him and I spoke. He mumbled something as if he did not want to speak or was surprised that I did. Since we stayed really near to each other...I would run into him all the time while out running errands, etc. Then one day...while at the lake..he started a conversation with me. From then on...he would look for me and even started to greet me with a hug. This guy was so handsome and built and I discovered that he had an awesome personality as well. I was not sure if he was gay and therefore...I did not come on to him and just focused on having a platonic friendship. To say the least...one day while in the local supermarket...I ran into him and since I haven't seen him in a couple of weeks...he grabbed me and gave me this huge hug that lasted for a least a couple of minutes...I DID NOT MIND AT ALLL!!!!!..LOL...SHOW ME SOME LOVE...LOL...then while in conversation...I said something that made him laugh hysterically...and then he stared at me for a minute ...and I asked him if anything was wrong and he told me no ...but he really would like if I gave him another hug...which I gladly did...BINGO!!!!....WE ARE FAMILY!!!!...LOL...I came to this conclusion when he started moaning softly and mentioned how I give great hugs...and then he asked me if we could get together for dinner soon. My mouth almost dropped. He then mentioned how he had been dying to ask me to spend some time with him but hesitated so many times and could not get the words out..and then he winked at me...BINGO!!!! ITS ON!!!!....I told him of course..let's do it..unfortunately...it never happened because the place I was living in had to get remodeled and I left to stay with a sibling until the remodeling was completed which took about two weeks. I failed to give this guy my phone number because I knew since we stayed near each other that I would more than likely run into him. Weeks passed and I saw no sign of him nowhere. I went to one of the local drug stores where this elderly woman worked who knew him pretty well. I asked her if she saw him around by chance and that is when I found out that he moved to Hawaii. Since I knew he was pretty close to her...she said that he was looking for me too and had asked her about me. I figured she would have contact with him but she told me that she did not. He was supposed to had contact her once he got settled..but at that time ..she never heard from him. So...I know I'm rambling on...but I did not let his disability hinder any possibility of dating him...I would have welcomed it..and therefore I tend to believe not to let anyone with disabilities put you off from dating them ..especially if there's a mutual attraction. So...what do you guys think???:cheers:

 

[Otage]

Well a limp... I think limp is sexy. And a build guy with cane, mean look on his face, even more sexy!:dreaming:

But I imagine it would kinda hard to form a relationship with a guy who had a severe disability. It would be different if I had been in love with that guy a long time, and he got a some kinda severe disability. But just can't imagine, how could the relationship becan from a scratch. I can't even form a true relationships with people without disabilities. I look for bf, it leads to sex and nothing more than more sex. I look for sex, obviously with same result. I'm that cool guy, good looking, fun to have fun with, and friends love me, but I'm obviously not good enough for relationship.

But those long hugs, I mean it's great, it's different, honest etc. But I would really have a long chat with him in a public place before going in to his house, just to make sure he isn't crazy But sounds like a real cool guy

And jw4833, you have cool topics to bonder about:thumbs up:

 

[jw4833]

Well a limp... I think limp is sexy. And a build guy with cane, mean look on his face, even more sexy!:dreaming:

But I imagine it would kinda hard to form a relationship with a guy who had a severe disability. It would be different if I had been in love with that guy a long time, and he got a some kinda severe disability. But just can't imagine, how could the relationship becan from a scratch. I can't even form a true relationships with people without disabilities. I look for bf, it leads to sex and nothing more than more sex. I look for sex, obviously with same result. I'm that cool guy, good looking, fun to have fun with, and friends love me, but I'm obviously not good enough for relationship.

But those long hugs, I mean it's great, it's different, honest etc. But I would really have a long chat with him in a public place before going in to his house, just to make sure he isn't crazy But sounds like a real cool guy

And jw4833, you have cool topics to bonder about:thumbs up:

Yes he was and he and I used to have long chats at the local coffee house or at one of the local diners several times. Thanks for the compliment...many times I know I ramble on ...but basically...I just post topics in order to participate on the forum and I like reading others opinions on the topics that I post such as yours...Thanks so much....JW :thumbs up:

 

[lhardwick69]

with me if I was dating a guy with a disability--I would date him and accept him for it--and show him that his disability doesn't bother me in the slightest way-- because look at it this way--if you were dating a guy with no disabilities at all then one day he had an accident that left him disabled will your love for him change because of it--if so then how can you say you truly love him if you aren't willing to accept what happens when you are dating and living together

 

[Shelter]

with me if I was dating a guy with a disability--I would date him and accept him for it--and show him that his disability doesn't bother me in the slightest way-- because look at it this way--if you were dating a guy with no disabilities at all then one day he had an accident that left him disabled will your love for him change because of it--if so then how can you say you truly love him if you aren't willing to accept what happens when you are dating and living together

that is really true and I'll totally agree with you. Thank you - this was a very, very good post. You have put this thread in a nutshell! :thumbs up:

 

[Forgetmenot]

Is having one eye disability?
I, myself, have one eye (I stabbed the other one with scissors. It happen when I was very very young (3-4 yo).
For me, it's kinda scary to make a first move.
So many "What if..." happen in my mind.

 

[Shelter]

Is having one eye disability?
I, myself, have one eye (I stabbed the other one with scissors. It happen when I was very very young (3-4 yo).
For me, it's kinda scary to make a first move.
So many "What if..." happen in my mind.

Dear friend it will be a disability for you and only for you! But has this tragic accident changed your personality? I don't think so - you are always the same person as before - only with one eye. You can love you can have fun and you should be open to others. Don't be scary! Don't put yourself in your own jail!
You are worth to be loved! :thumbs up::thumbs up: :heart::heart::heart:

 

[jw4833]

Hey forgetnenot: The guy that I speak of in my discussion post had similar feelings/thoughts just like yourself. Once I got to know him better...he had mentioned to me his concerns about how others view him because of his leg disability as well as how he viewed himself. Therefore, he too felt that seeing himself in a relationship would never happen for him again which to me had resulted into having low self-esteem and it also explained to me why he was so mean looking and distance upon our first meeting. I'm just a believer that there is someone for everyone and in time ...that person will come into your life when you least expect it.

 

[Forgetmenot]

Many thanks to @Shelter and @jw4833 for cheering.

I have to confess that I never though about "my own jail" before. Maybe because I called it "Safezone".

Right now, I'm fine with it (get over it, but not completely). And I'm still working on making first move.

 

[jaykaytooooo]

I really like your story EXCEPT that you never spent time together.

I hope you find each other!!!

 

[ihno]

Many thanks to @Shelter and @jw4833 for cheering.

I have to confess that I never though about "my own jail" before. Maybe because I called it "Safezone".

Right now, I'm fine with it (get over it, but not completely). And I'm still working on making first move.

I can understand your problems. A friend of mine had siphilis and didn't really go to the doctor so he lost parts of his nose. It's really a problem for him. It's always easy from the outside to say that it should not matter.

Why don't you go to a place where gay people are (a gay bar, not just the internet). Make your first move for normal contacts. Take a friend along. That should be easier and lower your inner hurdle. You'll see, how people react. I guess they will react in a good way and you think "why haven't I done this years ago?".

I know people with "one eye". They have a glass eye and I never minded. Other things are more important! (I mean washboard-abs, long cock, muscular legs, not inner values or what people normally pretend to care for )

If you live nearby and have hot bodily features you can come along.

 

[tafkatrav]

i have no problem with dating guys with a disability, we are all humans

 

[chaitanya]

Other than being a part time prostitute (although I don't call myself one) and at present having a huge crush on my pedicurist (that I still hesitate to convey to him in the fear of being rejected and humiliated), I used to date a guy a year back who is visually impaired. He is from the same college as I am but a senior. I used to like him and I still do like him. But he is the one who turned down my proposal of more than friend kind of a relationship.
I don't have any problem admitting here that I sell my body to some people for money. But I have huge problem in conveying my feeling when it comes to the matter of heart. In spite of my disabilities, I proposed to him but he rejected me telling that he feels that I was doing that out of pity. He told me that he loves me too but some years later I'd be bored with a disabled man like him. I tried hard to convince him that what I felt for him was nowhere near pity, it was something else, something deeper, something which makes me feel special. Still he didn't try to understand my point.
We don't talk now. But I still see him passing by me every other day. My heart aches. I still do love him. I hope that one day he will understand and accept me.

 

[brmstn69]

Is having one eye disability?
I, myself, have one eye (I stabbed the other one with scissors. It happen when I was very very young (3-4 yo).
For me, it's kinda scary to make a first move.
So many "What if..." happen in my mind.

If I had only one eye, I'd have fun with it. I'd get myself a nice assortment of prosthetic or "glass" eyes. I think it would be a great conversation starter. Reptilian, demonic, maybe a couple of cyber punk...


And of coarse...

 

[havocs]

Honestly it depends on the disability, but I am a sucker for confident men. If they are secure with it I'd be more likely to be ok with it.

 

[topdog]

Nyle DiMarco is deaf, but I know enough sign language to answer his question. No hesitation.

 

[elbe00]

This an interesting subject. I am disabled. I am partially blind and am an amputee, (my left hand was amputated.) In my area it seems that any disability is a big turn off. It doesn't bother me though. It is great that I don't have to deal with these superficial jerks. And I have found that if you nice and kind that is who you attract. Most of my past relationships didn't notice the amputation at first. I guess I have very nice eyes. I am not disabled, I am permanently inconvenienced.

 

[Shelter]

This an interesting subject. I am disabled. I am partially blind and am an amputee, (my left hand was amputated.) In my area it seems that any disability is a big turn off. It doesn't bother me though. It is great that I don't have to deal with these superficial jerks. And I have found that if you nice and kind that is who you attract. Most of my past relationships didn't notice the amputation at first. I guess I have very nice eyes. I am not disabled, I am permanently inconvenienced.

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