do you have anal sex

[wardell]

I just read an article that a lot of gay men don't have anal sex for fear of std's is that true? do you have anal sex with or partner

 

[lovetosuckcock]

Yes, I do and I enjoy it very much. I'm a bottom only and I can't imagine not having anal sex with my partner.

 

[wardell]

so what make you a bottom only? why do you not like to top. I have never done either one just hand jobs I have never found any I want to be with I'm just waiting for the right guy

 

[richardbb]

@wardell: It's perfectly fine if you don't want to have anal sex (regardless if just for now or in general), there is no obligation to do it.

When it comes to STDs, you can certainly take measures in order to avoid them, like using condoms. But I too would feel uncomfortable doing it with someone I'm not close with.

 

[kwhotboi]

I have anal sex almost daily. I am a total bb bottom.

 

[Shelter]

I have anal sex almost daily. I am a total bb bottom.

I totally agree with you Kwhotboi. Well I have not daily anal sex with my partner - sometimes only sucking or handjobs - but yes very often.

But I must say as well everyone should have anal sex only with condoms and with partners you know for awhile. I'm in the lucky position to know my BF for now 10 years and we do it bareback which is for me really great!

But if anyone didn't like anal sex - so what?! There are so many other things which will make sex life exciting.

 

[zeropolis79]

As a married man, I don't have it often but when I met up with my fuck-buddy, I do.

 

[gb2000ie]

I don't think you need to invoke fear of STDs in this discussion - many gays just don't like anal sex.

Fear of STDs doesn't enter into it for me, it's just that neither myself nor my partner are into it, so we don't do it.

I have a feeling the whole equating gay sex with butt sex thing is largely a stereotype.

B.

 

[Shelter]

I don't think you need to invoke fear of STDs in this discussion - many gays just don't like anal sex.

Fear of STDs doesn't enter into it for me, it's just that neither myself nor my partner are into it, so we don't do it.

I have a feeling the whole equating gay sex with butt sex thing is largely a stereotype.

B.

But GB nonetheless many gays like it as well, including myself. Well someone likes it, someone not. But no one can say what the other has to do or not. I'll understand if a guy don't want it - ok - but the guy who likes it (as myself :blushing isn't a bad boy - or? For me it is a sign of deep love if my boyfriend is assfucking me. In the meantime Í know if he wants it - I can see it in his eyes. :blushing:

 

[jw4833]

Honestly, I do not engage in anal sex unless I'm in a committed relationship and feeling really slutty....that is only on occasions. All the boyfriends that I've had dealt a lot frottage, blow jobs, kissing, etc. you know...foreplay activities. I've had anal sex offered to me but only took upon the offers a few times due to the fact of the fear of catching something. In other words, it's not a big issue for me ...but the only time I feel comfortable with anal sex is when I'm in love and the feeling is reciprocated.

 

[dancap48066]

Absolutely! Foreplay is fun, but I LOVE fucking the most.

 

[Shelter]

...but the only time I feel comfortable with anal sex is when I'm in love and the feeling is reciprocated.

That's what I mean - I'm now since 10 years together with my boyfriend and each of us is always faithful to the other.

 

[gb2000ie]

But GB nonetheless many gays like it as well, including myself.

I know that - I didn't say ALL gays don't do it - that's obviously not true. There are also a lot of straight people who do it.

Well someone likes it, someone not. But no one can say what the other has to do or not.

Totally agree. What makes me cranky is when people assume that because I am gay I must be into anal sex.

I'll understand if a guy don't want it - ok - but the guy who likes it (as myself :blushing isn't a bad boy - or?

Of course liking anal sex is not bad - I don't think I've ever said anything against it.

For me it is a sign of deep love if my boyfriend is assfucking me. In the meantime Í know if he wants it - I can see it in his eyes. :blushing:

Good for you!

Myself and my BF have a different way of showing our love, and we each know what the other really likes, and we do that instead.

B.

 

[Shelter]

I know that - I didn't say ALL gays don't do it - that's obviously not true. There are also a lot of straight people who do it.



Totally agree. What makes me cranky is when people assume that because I am gay I must be into anal sex.



Of course liking anal sex is not bad - I don't think I've ever said anything against it.



Good for you!

Myself and my BF have a different way of showing our love, and we each know what the other really likes, and we do that instead.

B.

So we have found compliance - and that makes me happy. It shows that everyone is a special character with likes and dislikes and that as well in his sex-life or in his normal daily life or political convincement.

So love to you GB - I like you very much although we are not very often of one mind (or perhaps because of that!) ppppp

 

[gb2000ie]

So love to you GB - I like you very much although we are not very often of one mind (or perhaps because of that!) ppppp

The way I see it - only talking with people who agree with you is very boring, and, makes it very hard to learn new things. Much more fun to debate with people you don't agree with - that way you learn to see things form another point of view. Sometimes you change your opinion, sometimes you don't, but you always learn something.

So, yes, I love you too, precisely because we often don't agree

B.

 

[Shelter]

The way I see it - only talking with people who agree with you is very boring, and, makes it very hard to learn new things. Much more fun to debate with people you don't agree with - that way you learn to see things form another point of view. Sometimes you change your opinion, sometimes you don't, but you always learn something.

So, yes, I love you too, precisely because we often don't agree

B.

Thanks GB and honestly I hope that always we could be good friends here. And you are totally right - from every debate, whatever it may be, you can learn. And I will learn, every day.
The only thing is that my boyfriend very often now in these days is outbraking me here, because he hates it when I'm debating or argue. He always thinks I'm too emotionally and that this character attributes will only bring enemies to me. :thinking:

Nevertheless much love to you my friend. And I hope for many more debates! :thumbs up: Hopefully with you!

 

[lovetosuckcock]

so what make you a bottom only? why do you not like to top. I have never done either one just hand jobs I have never found any I want to be with I'm just waiting for the right guy

Without trying to be flippant I am a bottom because that is the way my mind works. In my work life I am in charge of others and have been a supervisor for a long time. I'm also a pretty dominant person in my day to day dealings with others.

When it comes to sex I want a guy to take charge, to be the dominant one. I want him to tell me what to do and when. I want him to tell me to suck his cock, to bend over, to spread my legs. I want him to fully take control of me. It heightens the pleasure for me.

Penetration is an act of dominance and I don't want to be the dominant one when it comes to sex with a guy. I don't even like to have my cock sucked, although on occasion I have allowed it.

To sum it up; dominate me in sex and I'll do anything that you want. Try to have me be a top to you and I'll leave.

 

[HustleMe15]

Nick and I have anal sex all the time. We are both vers, but I'm the top 75% of the time. But we know that there is more to love than just sex. But it is an important part of a relationship.

 

[gb2000ie]

Nick and I have anal sex all the time. We are both vers, but I'm the top 75% of the time. But we know that there is more to love than just sex. But it is an important part of a relationship.

You seem to be conflating sex and anal sex as if not having anal sex means not having sex ... or have I misinterpreted your comment?

B.

 

[Whisper]

Penetration is an act of dominance and I don't want to be the dominant one when it comes to sex with a guy.

I disagree. I know I go little side-tracked with this but I couldn't stay quiet.

Penetration is always an act of dominance when it is about rape.With consensual sex , it depends entirely on the people involved. The receiving person can be dominant also. I'm a straight woman and I really don't see why penetration would be only that way.

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