I'm from Wisconsin... the voters passed a referendum that became a state law which "defines" marriage. Yep, one man, one woman. That makes it impossible to even consider the concept of gay marriage here now without the need to wage multiple referendums simultaneously that were all successful. Yeah, like that's gonna happen. ...
Yes, the conservatives have locked things up pretty tight. BUT the good news is that you won't have to wait for multiple referendums to untie the knots. Because eventually another case like Prop 8 will come before the Supreme Court. Next time they won't dodge the question behind a legal technicality. If the Supreme Court had affirmed the original decision that struck down Proposition 8, then every anti-gay marriage law in the country would be invalid.
They weren't ready to do that.
In a way Roberts gave us a gift. If they had actually had to rule on whether limiting marriage to straight couples violated the constitution, the split might have been 5 to 4 in the wrong direction. Roberts can see where history is going and he knows that the court isn't ready yet to go that far.
By avoiding the question, the court didn't say yes (limiting marriage is illegal), but they didn't say no (marriage discrimination is OK). The question is still open, to be decided in the future. And the future is on our side. Every minute more old homophobes are dying and more gay-friendly young people are being born. In the long run, the anti-marriage lobby is doomed. All they can do now is make a lot of noise on the way out.
When that legal decision happens, gay marriage is everywhere. The only way to overturn that would be a constitutional amendment. Every year that ammednment is proposed there is less and less support for it. And even if it passed, the ratification process in the states is so drawn out that by that time there would be hundreds of thousands of legally married same-sex couples. It would really be no big deal anymore.
The fight isn't over. But we already know how this story is going to end.