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I'm very sorry to hear your story...however, keep your thoughts positive in regards to your results because as you've mentioned, you have not gotten them yet. In regards to your friend, well...all I can say is that this is the time that you will find out who your true friends are. Once your results come back and they are negative, keep those very same friends at a great distance and open yourself up for new ones. Take care...wishing you all the best...JW
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Really a bad story.
I hope with all my heart that the results are negative.
However it remains an important thing to do. Denounce your "ex" boyfriend. Is a loose cannon, what he did to you, it surely will do to other people.
Although it is a painful decision, I think it's the right thing to do.
I hope with all my heart that the results are negative.
However it remains an important thing to do. Denounce your "ex" boyfriend. Is a loose cannon, what he did to you, it surely will do to other people.
Although it is a painful decision, I think it's the right thing to do.
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Hey BB.. don't get worked up about something that hasn't happened yet - and probably wont. You say he lied to you, so what's to say he wasn't lying to her about being HIV+ ? Go and get yourself tested and when you get the all clear maybe buy a nice bottle of wine and celebrate.:thumbs up: :hug: :cheers:
The only good thing in your awful story is that this s
bag is gone. And you can move on.
Slimjim is right...he may not be positive. If he were on meds, you would probably have stumbled onto them. If not, he might be pretty sick.
We're pulling for you.
bag is gone. And you can move on.Slimjim is right...he may not be positive. If he were on meds, you would probably have stumbled onto them. If not, he might be pretty sick.
We're pulling for you.
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Everyone will be praying for your result to come back neg. If it does come back pos, that's not good news but it's not the terrible news it used to be. Nowadays the drugs really do work, they allow most pos people to stay fit as long as anyone else. Attitudes have changed for the better, surely a true friend would not think any less of you because of a medical condition?, nobody here would.
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Even though he has been a complete heel, he must have many good points for you to fall in love with him. Love can forgive almost anything but for me violence is the point of no return. One day he may come begging for a second chance. All the rest of the shit he's given you he can promise not to do again, I might have given him that second chance except that now he's crossed the line into violence there is no way back. If he has been violent to you once it will happen again.
Tell us that you do understand that none of this is your fault, and don't let it put you off finding a genuine boyfriend. Contary to how it seems at the moment, men are not all bastards. There's some really nice ones out there, waiting for someone like you.
Tell us that you do understand that none of this is your fault, and don't let it put you off finding a genuine boyfriend. Contary to how it seems at the moment, men are not all bastards. There's some really nice ones out there, waiting for someone like you.
Right now you are grieving a loss. It's perfectly normal! We've all been there to some degree, friend. It's not pleasant, but, you will grow from this and learn to move on. You said a friend was pulling away from you. She might not know how to tell you she really cares about you -or- she was never really your friend. Time will tell.......
I believe it's against the law to willfully infect someone with HIV. People go to jail for doing this.
That said, I hope he was talking BS.
One of my best friends has lived with AID's for over 30 years now. He lives life to the fullest and then some! Having HIV is far from a death sentence. There are tons of support for people living with many diseases in this day and age.
I'm a firm believer that when negative things happen in life you have to let it go and move on. Yes, grieve, yes feel sad for a while and question why, but MOVE ON.
You can do it, friend! Life is way too short to dwell on the negatives.....
I believe it's against the law to willfully infect someone with HIV. People go to jail for doing this.
That said, I hope he was talking BS.
One of my best friends has lived with AID's for over 30 years now. He lives life to the fullest and then some! Having HIV is far from a death sentence. There are tons of support for people living with many diseases in this day and age.
I'm a firm believer that when negative things happen in life you have to let it go and move on. Yes, grieve, yes feel sad for a while and question why, but MOVE ON.
You can do it, friend! Life is way too short to dwell on the negatives.....
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BB - it is so hard to loose not just the good parts of the relationship, but all the dreams you had of what it would become. It hurts like nothing else, and like others have said, know that in whatever way we can we are standing with you.
And let me add just one other thing that I saw in your post, and that is that I respect how brave you were in standing up for yourself and getting yourself out of that situation, even when it meant giving up the love that you had hoped for. That was huge; and in the middle of everything else that is going on, you should give yourself a lot of credit for that.
When you can do something like that, it makes me think that you have guts to take on whatever comes next, one step at a time.
And let me add just one other thing that I saw in your post, and that is that I respect how brave you were in standing up for yourself and getting yourself out of that situation, even when it meant giving up the love that you had hoped for. That was huge; and in the middle of everything else that is going on, you should give yourself a lot of credit for that.
When you can do something like that, it makes me think that you have guts to take on whatever comes next, one step at a time.
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This is really a bad news. Try not to beat yourself up and sustain decision with the care you need.
It addresses the problem with all the strength and the will who you have, and get help from the right people.
For what it's worth, you have my support and my sympathy.
I'm sure you'll win this terrible challenge.
It addresses the problem with all the strength and the will who you have, and get help from the right people.
For what it's worth, you have my support and my sympathy.
I'm sure you'll win this terrible challenge.
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Appreciate the update, as tonka said, treatment is much better now-a-days so as long as you stick to the treatments and take care of yourself you will be fine. Take this time to really learn how to take better care of yourself, physically, mentally and emotionally. No one needs things stressing them out or giving them reasons to worry.
And for your BF, dont stick with something if it isnt working, a relationship does require work but it shouldnt be something that causes you pain or grief on a regular basis. Those are signs that things arent right, and you need to give them proper attention.
And for your BF, dont stick with something if it isnt working, a relationship does require work but it shouldnt be something that causes you pain or grief on a regular basis. Those are signs that things arent right, and you need to give them proper attention.
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So sorry to hear your news. I'm glad you have some close friends that can talk with. You are right, the world doesn't need to know as long as you can be honest to those close to you.
Really?! I find that story hard to believe. Yes, the ELISA test can also indicate Lyme disease and Epstein-Barr. Which is why a positive ELISA result is always followed up with a Western Blot test which is very HIV specific.
To me it sounds like he's a cheater and a liar; doesn't take responsibility for his own health and has no regard for protecting you. But you are there and I am not, so you should have the better grasp of his character.
Really?! I find that story hard to believe. Yes, the ELISA test can also indicate Lyme disease and Epstein-Barr. Which is why a positive ELISA result is always followed up with a Western Blot test which is very HIV specific.
To me it sounds like he's a cheater and a liar; doesn't take responsibility for his own health and has no regard for protecting you. But you are there and I am not, so you should have the better grasp of his character.
