Embarrassing to be a virgin...?

[Floddr]

Yesterday evening I become acquainted with somebody... we talked a little bit about sex and stuff like that..
I "forgot" to say that I am a virgin...

Do you think it's embarrassing to be a virgin with 19 yrs??
At what age did you "lose your cherry"??

 

[XMan101]

Course it's NOT embarassing !! You save your first for hopefully that special moment , and there is nothing wrong however old you are.

Don't take notice of peer pressure or other influences, it's up to you when you want to do anything like that Don't let anyone tell you differently!!

 

[Jamie]

oh, floddr! Good for you! Well, dunno what "cherry" really means in ...this conversation but I lost my virginity at 19... well, it was one week before I turned 19 and it was with a girl, in a park at 3 AM and it was a horrible experience and my advice is: WAIT! Make it special! Don`t ruin your first time! If you`re too horny, go and wank or something...but I`m telling you, don`t hurry! You will either remember your first time for the rest of your life as a marvelous thing or you won`t know how to forget it as a horrible experience!

 

[goejavin]

I double, triple and quadruple what Xman said. I think its very honorable and it should be quite gratifying that you haven't just given yourself to just anyone. I was forced my first time, so I had no choice, but if I had to do it all over again, I'd wait as long as it took to find the right person.

By no means feel embarassed Floddr...the moment will come and it will be very special. You're quite a guy...

 

[Floddr]

forced?

 

[Jamie]

I was forced my first time, so I had no choice, but if I had to do it all over again, I'd wait as long as it took to find the right person.

Holly, I just saw it too... I`ve read it the first time but didn`t pay attention ...
forced???? in what way forced? Forced by the other or forced by times, era,mentality?

 

[goejavin]

forced?

Yea, long story, but a pervert I wish I had the satisfaction of killing before he died naturally.

 

[glamfunk84]

Not embarrassing at all. Sometimes the best time you can have sex is when you're in love with someone, no one should be forced to. I think it's mainly peer pressure because if you say to folks that you haven't had sex, they'd like to talk sh*t about you for no reason so don't even worry.

 

[glamfunk84]

Yea, long story, but a pervert I wish I had the satisfaction of killing before he died naturally.

That's terrible. No one should ever be forced.

 

[hammervice]

ITs Not embarrassing at all, sex not as great as everyone can make it out to be if u have sex when your not ready or whit the wrong person it can fup in your mind.

so wait till u meet that rite person so you dont have any regrets.

 

[slimjim]

I think you know my thoughts on this matter Floddr ... just to say that it should happen how, when, and with whom YOU want it it be with ... and if that's tomorrow, next week, or next year or whenever ... then that's when it will be.

 

[iFairylicious]

Yesterday evening I become acquainted with somebody... we talked a little bit about sex and stuff like that..
I "forgot" to say that I am a virgin...

Do you think it's embarrassing to be a virgin with 19 yrs??
At what age did you "lose your cherry"??

I respect your decision. Always takes someone special for that!

I don't kiss and tell myself hehe.

 

[Floddr]

I think you know my thoughts on this matter Floddr ... just to say that it should happen how, when, and with whom YOU want it it be with ... and if that's tomorrow, next week, or next year or whenever ... then that's when it will be.

Yeah...nevertheless... it is embarassing... everybody in my surrounding can say, that they had sex when they were 15, 16... And I say "I'm 19 and still a virgin".

I had a lot of chances for sex... but never with the right guy in a good location (e.g. not in a disco-bathroom)...
I'm a little bit fussy...

Sweetie... my advice is GET ALL YOU CAN GET! But experiment with gratification. For example you could draw the line at a handjob... or go wild for a while (when you're ready of course) and then take a break and time for yourself.

You mean, I should go out and fuck the first guy I can get!?

 

[slimjim]

And just because they all say that doesn't mean to say it's true ... they may feel the same as you ... but whereas you tell the truth maybe most of them are lying ... in fact forget the maybe..more than likely all of them are lying...lying virgins!

 

[bubbleswallower]

Just because we're gay doesn't mean that we have to lose our pants for every guy we see in the street or anywhere else. We have dreams and fantasies of the one we want to take us away for that special moment in time when all is right and romantic.

So if haven't it's OK because maybe you haven't found the one you want with all your heart. =D

 

[glamfunk84]

I'm real with mine's, I'm a virgin, not ashamed of it but when the right person comes and everything is good for about several weeks or months, then that would be perfect to "lose it" so to speak.

 

[Jamie]

Yeah...nevertheless... it is embarassing... everybody in my surrounding can say, that they had sex when they were 15, 16... And I say "I'm 19 and still a virgin".

floddr! trust me! They lie! or at least 90% of them lie! Yes, there are some good looking guys who had sex earlier but don`t think that it was a great experience... I used to do that when I was 17-18.. always talking to my friends (who apparently started having sex at younger and younger ages...one fo themactually said he first had sex @ 11 ..I mean, c`mon!...it`s like the "3 rule" ..when you ask a guy how many girls/boys he had, the number he gives you, divide by 3 and u`ll know the real number..

You mean, I should go out and fuck the first guy I can get!?

No, he told you to explore. He said you could draw a line at handjob..meaning you could stop only at a handjob with someone..or sometimes you could explore more..like blowjob... but if you`re not ready for a BJ you could stop at handjob...that`s something painless and guiltless

 

[XMan101]

Yeah...nevertheless... it is embarassing... everybody in my surrounding can say, that they had sex when they were 15, 16... And I say "I'm 19 and still a virgin".

My answer to that is - why?? There's an old song you won't know called "Walk Tall" -

Walk Tall and look the world right in the eye

Who gives a damn what others think!! You are you, sod any idiot's opinions!

 

[The Snail]

Well, I'm twenty-four and I have yet to advance to "first kiss," let alone first sex. Embarassing? Not really. Frustrating? Definitely. I'm bisexual, and I'm fairly good-looking and pretty well-adjusted socially, but I just have not had good luck in the relationship department.

Obviously I could lose my virginity after a few nights in a club, but I'm not interested in one night stands.

 

[Vyam]

It's not a question of "is it embarrassing or not". You don't have to let the others decide for you, and feeling embarrassed is due to the others' judgement.

To my opinion, it's a question of experience. "Fighting" to keep the virginity may be a sign of fear, and I think that the most you are experienced and the least you worry, and the most you feel free in your choices.





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