Let me share a story with you...when I was bartending...an ex boyfriend (Gavin) of mine would come into the club with his new bf (Chris) and even though we had great sex and his body was incredible...it was however, the way the relationship ended which helped me in a lot of ways to not reminisce about our relationship in any way. Therefore, whenever they would come into the club, it would not affect me at all. What I noticed after awhile was that whenever they would come into the club, my ex would make a point to greet me always with a hug and a kiss on my cheek. However, Chris would give me really nasty looks or he would grab on to my ex so tight in order to let it be known that he is with him now. What I found really surprising is one night, Craig came into the club with a friend and he made a point to go out of his way to grab my attention. I could sense that something was going on and finally, Chris came over to the bar and asked me if he could hang around after closing in order to talk to me for a moment. Once the club closed, Chris came over to me while I was cleaning off one of the tables and grabbed me and planted this huge kiss on me. I was caught off guard and immediately pushed him away. He went on to explain that the reason he had issues with me was that Gavin talked about me a lot from the sexual perspective and he went on to say that Gavin revealed that he will always have fond thoughts of the sex that we shared because he felt that it was amazing. Nonetheless, I went to assure Chris that I am no threat to his relationship and have no desire to rekindle anything but friendship with Gavin. However, Chris propositioned me about taking him home with me because he wanted to find out what Gavin was raving about. I declined and told him to go home. He then went to the men's room and returned butt naked with a raging hard on. While I was trying to get him to go and put his clothes back on, he kept begging me to take him home or fuck him in the empty club. I did not feel comfortable with this display and insisted that he got himself together and go home. He went to get dressed and then apologized but grabbed me closer to him to give me a goodnight kiss. Well...a few nights later, Gavin came into the club with a noticeable attitude and he was coming straight for me. It appeared that Chris went home and told him that I came on to him the other night and he was the one who refused my advances.
What pissed me off with this situation was that one of the things that Gavin always bragged about me was how trustworthy and loyal I was and he know that I am not the type of guy that would betray him in any way especially with bfs and that's why I could not understand why he believed Chris. Anyhow, that weekend, Gavin approached me with an apology and some roses. He informed me that Chris finally told him the truth but he was embarrassed that he fell for Chris' lies ...while knowing my character from our past relationship. I forgave them both but insisted that they keep their distance from me. A few months later, the both of them approached me seeking forgiveness again which resulted in me acknowledging them whenever they came to the club and nothing else. After awhile, I was finally approached by the two of them about having a threesome later that night. It seems that they came to the conclusion that if I engage into having a threesome with them that it would help Gavin to move on put more focus on his relationship with Chris and stop fantasizing about our past sex life. To say the least, I did not comprehend to that analogy and gracefully declined their offer. Strangely, Chris stopped speaking to me when they came into the club and would get an attitude with Gavin for doing so. In conclusion, after thinking about this, I thought that maybe that was a fantasy that Gavin should have kept to himself yet alone making attempts to make the fantasy a reality because from my perspective, it seemed to add a lot of unnecessary drama and insecurities/jealousy to their relationship. However, after reading your recent response to richardbb, I doubt that your situation is similar to Gavin and Chris but I felt compelled nonetheless to share my story....
