I'm 35 years old, just turned 35 Last June, I have a 15 years old daughter and a 10 years old son and a 25 years old boyfriend that I have been with for 5 years... so if you think that the dude you met was young to have a 5 years old daughter :rofl: I've just beat that. I had my daughter I was just turning 20 (not necessarily on purpose but we don't aboard mission in my family
), got my cute little boy I was 25 (he was totally wanted). So now you are reading this from a young double time daddy.
I have met Alex 5 years ago, he was 19 and I was 29, we we're at a party, he was that poor depressive super hot dude that needed somebody to speak with and I happen to be that somebody, when I met him though I was already in relationship with the mother of my son, another quite cute Filipino girl, but she was planning to go back to school and perhaps move a little away. Now I always have been bisexual but never was too much into a steady relationship with a dude. I always have been really sexually attracted by dudes but emotionally; not at all. Any dudes, back then, proposing me a steady relationship was getting a categorical NO as an answer (was I scared of being gay... hell no I did 5 years of gay pornography; I was just not interested). Alex is a blond Australian/Maui dude... super hot, but beauty was not his only issue he was depressive and suicidal (
by the way I have been given right from Alex to share this story). Was Alex beauty convince me to become a couple? No, if I had to fuck the dude I would have fucked the dude and basta! Alex reminded me of the lost boys of the fantastic story of Peter Pan (my favorite of all because I was also a lost boy as a kid), he was confused, got out of a rocky relationship, couldn't find love and was continually used (sexually) by others... we became friends and when my son's Mother got away to another city for study... we nicely break up and immediately I've moved to Alex. So that's how Alex came into my life. He is my first real gay relationship, I always was with women.
Alex wasn't right away introduced to my kids, he knew I had a son but he wasn't aware of that 10 years old first child... in fact it took a year of our relationship before I agreed for Alex to meet my children.
- You may question yourself about going into a relationship with a dude that has children, but trust me on this one this, it's quite often a double sided arrow. And this is 3 time more true in a Male/Male relationship.The reason why I waited this long was, of course because, I was not completely comfortable with Alex physical awesomeness (he's hot and no I am no longer showing picture of him) having sex with this dude is a bliss every time. I needed time before being able to see if this was true love (not just a sexual trip because he's too good to fuck lol), if I could trust this Blondy locks enough to bring him into my family.
He was trustworthy enough and I never regretted the day I spoke with Alex about my two children, he learned that I had a older daughter along with my son and that I was preparing my children to eventually meet him. My children know that daddy likes both men and women, never hid this fact to my children and thus from a very young age, however neither of them really saw me with a dude before they meet with Alex. Therefore, it was imperative to prepare them... and this is why I gave myself a year to accomplish such meeting. This year also serve me and Alex to see if our relationship could work.
So Alex and I end up moving together, and it was accepted that the children would visit us once every two weekends, and they would come both at the same time -
yes, I should mention that my daughter and my son are not from the same mother.My daughter is mixed with Venezuelan
and My son is Filipino/black, but both of my children love each other very much and they understand that they are brother and sister. Now it was time for Alex vs. the Children, my daughter was 10 turning on 11 and my son was 5 tuning on 6. In my case my children immediately adopted Alex. My son today at 10 years old idealize Alex a lot, My daughter had a major crush on Alex when she turned 13... and Alex who didn't know whether he would be comfortable with the kids or not loved them back quickly too. I was lucky because it could have turned really bad... but Alex did love children. When Alex turned 23, I have officially made him uncle of my children, and this year Josh, my boy have asked to have Alex's name (Alexander) hyphenated to his name, he is now called "Josh-Alexander".
Alex became an authority figure for my children, they obviously know that Alex doesn't have all rights but he sure does have enough rights to deal with my child... this is of course a beautiful story (a real one) but in between things haven't been easy. As I said earlier My daughter had a major teen crush on Alex when she turned 13, and Alex felt so uncomfortable that he wanted to leave the place... but I did convince him to stay and explains to my daughter that this was an impossible match... first legally and second Alex is gay and he's you're dad's lover. My son who loves Alex like a big brother would more often listen to Alex than me
, well nice but I've got to say that it did annoy me at first because although I love Alex a lot, my children are still my children and it's Alex who explained to my son that he need to first ask permission to his dad before going to ask permission to Alex for about anything LOL. I know that if I break up with Alex my children will ask to see him... after all he his officially my children's uncle, this can't be removed easily.
So there you have it... this was the story of me having children, a hot dude that became uncle of my child. If you go in a relationship with a dude that has a children... what really scares you? What is the issue really? Can't share your dude with somebody's else love... you don't like the fact of not being N# 1... As I told to Alex my children comes first, but he is so closed behind that you don't know where my children start and where Alex finish. For 5 years this dude have been helping me raising my child (now what can a 21 years old college surfer/dude can teach to children? A lot actually. What Alex have learned? That he has very good parenting skills. Did this affect our sex life? Well obviously when the children are home the only sex allowed would be in the shower if needed penetration, or late at night behind a locked door room for something less noisy (because both Alex and I are moaners) but he does moan much much louder than I do LOL.
The other things you need to think about is the children themselves... now my children are old enough and they both attend school... my daughter was already attending school and so was my boy moving to 1st year, they would sometimes get teased because their dad is a gay dude, but my daughter found a way to fight the bickering and she asked Alex to be her show and tell project... she wanted her uncle to come and speak about Australia, Surf and being Homosexual (including the part how Alex almost succeed killing himself). Now I said it Alex is blond, hot and sexy so every girl would drools, guys would be a little jealous but still interested with the Australian and Surf part and this way she shush forever the laughter because she did invite both of us for career day were Alex got to speak about his study as a nurse, and I explained my Network admin skills.
So gay couple with children does bring a little spice to your life... but one advice if you go for the dude... don't get between him with education of his children... I gave "carte blanche" to Alex this is because I trust him blindly but this is not the case with everyone. And my child spoke so much of Alex that we had to make a supper where Mothers were invited to join.
If you are not ready to share your BF with his parental responsibility, well don't call the dude.:no: If you are... tell him you fear or concerns about him being a dad... don't play games we're parents... we have a "attitude" detector embedded in us, it grows stronger more alert as the years go by.
