Flaws And All...

[langston]

I've shared a few experiences and asked questions on this forum a few times. In doing so, I've gotten great responses and helpful advice in the past. My thanks to each one who took the time to give a comment or two. So here's my latest observation: I like flaws. Often in gay culture, we hold each other to a standard that is unreachable (a certain weight,height,color, dick-size, etc.), but I'm beginning to see real flaws in that type of thinking. I stress that I'm not advocating that any trait is acceptable but I find flaws...well interesting. For example, guys who where glasses (call it "the nerdy thing"), or a facial scar, or the guy who has no rhythm but dances his ass off as if no one's looking. Consider this: the deaf guy who is so cute ,but you have no idea how to cross the language divide. Is it even worth the trouble? I have to be honest, I'm sure some physical traits would be very hard for me to look past...a wheelchair would be an incredible challenge. So maybe I think quirky is just fine, but disabilities are not. What do you think? I invite you to be critical of that last statement (if you wish). If what you say is smart, I'll listen.

 

[MaximumT]

Flaws make us what we are, they are what give us personalities, in my opinion. If everyone would be the same; the same height, same color, weight, personalities, have the same opinions etc., then I think it would quickly become boring. It is the difference between you and me that attracts. I'm not saying that opposite attracts, because I think it would be very difficult in the end to be with someone who's entirely opposite to you, but I would not like to be with someone who's identical to me (I'm not talking about not look-wise, but personality-wise). So, like you said, those little things, those flaws, are what keep things interesting.

But I also agree, there are a few things that are difficult to look past, disabilities being one of them.

 

[XMan101]

I've always said it's the "flaws" that make a person attractive. I've never liked the body beautiful types, they just bore me. Quirks in character or body go towards a personality.

Most people have these , what you might call , imperfections anyway. If you're looking for absolute catalogue perfection you'll likely be very disappointed

 

[newage]

i once had a crush on a guy with dumbo like ears, big feet and hands and really wasn't that attractive now that i think about it. But I once thought he was the hottest things on earth. I loved his personality so much that what were once flaws became attractive.

 

[redbones111]

I like flaws.

I feel 100% the same. Like another person said, the perfect model types have started to bore me as of late, I usually think something along the lines of "too good to be true" or "something is amiss".

I like quirks and flaws, they make us normal and keep us grounded.

"the nerdy thing"

Hotter than the surface of the sun.

 

[Armpit Licker]

for me, it doesn't matter if the person has a lot of flaws and imperfections. if you love someone, no matter what his disabilities are, no matter what race he is, no matter what he looks and acts like, you would be able to overlook all of his imperfections, cause you love him. nobody is perfect, it's you who make him perfect, cause beauty is in the eye of the beholder

 

[blam]

not a big fan of flaws, but we all have em

 

[lhardwick69]

not everyone or anyone is perfect we all have flaws--some guys out their think they are so perfect in every way--thats their flaw--if you are going to nitpick people for flaws you will die a lonely man--love isnt about what we expect or what we want to makeof that person it is accepting him for his flaws and loving him for them

 

[etilit]

If what you say is smart, I'll listen.

babe..what if i dont say something smart? and why do you decide?

 

[b4pxku4u]

A very interesting thought. Flaws undoubtedly make people more beautiful. A couple of hundred years back, the beauty spot was all the rage, precisely because it 'upset' the symmetry of the face and gave it character.

I think that flaws also give us confidence about our own looks and flaws. Those who do not appear to have flaws tend to have them in their personalities.

Flaws produce character and character is very sexy so I thoroughly approve of flaws!

 

[appleseed87]

Soo true . Im soooo over the type of guys who all about thier looks etc. So fucken wat u loook like a model ! I don't no about you guys but for me, guys who look really attractive don't do it for! i like a guys who are diffrent and unique . Personality plays a big role when im looking for a Partner.

I love funny guys such a big turn on. I like someone who has cultrual background , some1 who can just wake up and not care too much about thier looks and pretty much laid back .
I dated a lot of hippy guys! lol Hippy guys are soo chill out , i love they way the respect and appericate a lot of things in life . No one's freaking perfect ! If goona judge some1 by thier tiny flaws, well TAKE A LOOK AT YOURSELF before u do !

 

[jw4833]

I do understand where you are coming from with this topic. Let's be honest, we all have flaws, no one is restricted from having them whether it be externally or internally. I for one is not so fascinated with my partner having a big cock but for some reason, any guy that I have been my partner in a long standing relationship, always had a big cock. However, there was this one guy that I met a long time ago while out partying with some friends and as we got to know each other and wound up having sex, he did have a somewhat small cock, but man, he was a very passionate lover who knew how to hit specific areas to make you moan and he was a fantastic kisser, as well as good looking with a nice body. Therefore, I could care less about the size of his cock ..the only thing I request is that its enough for me to work with. There was one more guy who was supposedly straight that eventually led to us getting naked and he was very self conscious of the size of his cock to the degree that he got very uncomfortable if you stared at his naked body over a specific length of time. It was enough for me to work with, and he had other areas that I found sensual.