Grief

[sweetuttsada]

I don't know how many of you watched Grey's Anatomy last night. I did, and it was quite powerful. It was about grief, the stages of grief, and some incredible words/statements of life after death. So much of what was said really hit home to me, so much so I had my laptop out the whole episode and was typing away randomly throughout the show.


I wanted to share, as I thought this might hit home to many of you as well.

"According to Elizabeth Kubler Ross, when we are dying or have suffered through a catastrophic loss we all go through 5 distinct stages of grief. We go in to denial because the loss is so unthinkable we can’t imagine its true. We become angry with everyone, angry with survivors, angry with ourselves. Then we bargain. We beg, we plead, we offer everything we have, we offer up our souls in exchange for just one more day. When the bargaining has failed and the anger is too hard to maintain, we fall in to depression, despair, until finally we have to accept that we have done everything we can, we let go. We let go, and move into acceptance."

"The dictionary defines grief as keen mental suffering or distress over affliction or loss. Sharp sorrow, painful regret. In life, grief can look like a lot of things that bare little resemblance to sharp sorrow."

"Grief may be a thing we all have in common, but it looks different on everyone."

"It isn’t just death we have to grieve, its life, its loss, its change. And when we wonder why it has to suck so much sometimes, has to hurt so bad, the thing that we have to try and remember is that it can turn on a dime."

"That’s how you stay alive…when it hurts so much you can’t breath, that’s how you survive."

"By remembering that one day, somehow, impossibly, you won’t feel this way. It won’t hurt this much."

"Grief comes in its own time for everyone, in its own way."

"So the best we can do, the best anyone can do, is try for honesty."

"The really crappy thing, the very worst part of grief is that you can’t control it."

"The best we can do is let ourselves try and feel it when it comes. And let it go when we can’t."

"The very worst part, is that the very moment you think you are past it, it starts all over again."

"And always, every time…it takes your breath away."

"There are 5 stages of grief. They look different on all of us, but there are always five. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression…acceptance."

 

[Thor]

I think we all grieve in are own ways, there is no set rules to it, i have seen a lot of different types of grief lol

 

[goejavin]

"The very worst part, is that the very moment you think you are past it, it starts all over again."

"There are 5 stages of grief. They look different on all of us, but there are always five. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression…acceptance."

I didn't watch it, Sweets, but almost wish I did...I think only because I would be interested in what they said. I've read every book, have participated in every group, have done every excercise and have been to far too many professionals to deal with grief and I'm at the stage now that I feel somewhat like a professional myself. I've been at it a long time. It saddens me though that you or anyone your age has to deal with grief...it shouldnt be that way. Unfortunately so much grief is dealt to those of all ages every day of the year.

Thanks though for bringing the subject to the forefront because the worst aspect of grief is trying to avoid it. Its better to talk about it, then thinking you "are past it." Which is why the 5th stage, "acceptance" is a big step but one that will always challenge our strength.


Jeffpee is absolutely correct too. All the books, groups, shrinks, techniques in the world aren't for us all...its very individual but we have each other in common...so reach out when you have too...

Stay strong...and again...thanks.