guilt

[wardell]

I have been using my dildo for some Time now but every time after. I fill dirty and guilty but I didn't know

 

[Shelter]

What is the reason that you think you feel dirty and guilty after using your dildo?
I think there is no reason to feel on this or that way. Use it and have fun!

 

[Otage]

I can maybe kinda relate to that. I don't have sex toys and I like sex, but I once tried erhm a vegatable for fun. It felt kinda desperate And then it got me kinda sad, too. Some thing similiar feelingvise wardell? And yeah, admitting this feels kinda ashaming. I mean I know it really isn't, but hey, I believe what I feel when I feel

 

[wardell]

Otage you are so right, you described it so perfectly (were you in my bedroom, I wish ) I don't know why I fill this way

 

[Ioanna]

I can maybe kinda relate to that. I don't have sex toys and I like sex, but I once tried erhm a vegatable for fun. It felt kinda desperate And then it got me kinda sad, too. Some thing similiar feelingvise wardell? And yeah, admitting this feels kinda ashaming. I mean I know it really isn't, but hey, I believe what I feel when I feel

Maybe because it's a little taboo to use vegetables and you do not feel really confident to have a nice-looking carrot in your butt cramming.
Rest assured there are "more weird" things used!
You feel dirty and ashamed seems logical when your "experiment" with such things as vegetables.
Each experiment is strange and confusing but once you get it just makes you feel much better and you will realize yourself if it is something for you or not.
Have fun but watch what you put in your.

 

[dargelos]

Is it possible that the nasty minister who told you that it is a sin to be gay has created this guilt in you. Even though by now you must be sure that there is nothing sinful about being who you were meant to be, being talked down to by an authority figure was bound to make you doubt yourself. I hope I am wrong, I hope youve got over that now.
Anyway, your body is your body, it's yours to enjoy. Some spoilsports will try to pretend that there is something wrong with masturbation. We all do it and we all know that it is healthy habit that is nothing to be ashamed of. Playing with sex toys is just taking it up to the next level, it feels good, it's fun, it keeps you match-fit for when you get a boyfriend, so why worry?

 

[gb2000ie]

Two different thoughts spring to mind:

1) maybe you just don't like anal sex? Just because you're gay doesn't mean you have to like anal sex!
2) maybe you have not yet fully come to terms with your sexuality.

I'm not a doctor, or a shrink, so take my opinion with a whole cellar or salt!

B.

 

[Otage]

Maybe because it's a little taboo to use vegetables and you do not feel really confident to have a nice-looking carrot in your butt cramming.
Rest assured there are "more weird" things used!
You feel dirty and ashamed seems logical when your "experiment" with such things as vegetables.
Each experiment is strange and confusing but once you get it just makes you feel much better and you will realize yourself if it is something for you or not.
Have fun but watch what you put in your.

Or maybe it's just that, we all know what we want in there before we decide to use a vegetable, since it isn't likely in that situation to get the real thing in 5 min time and one is so horny, that he has to resort to vegetables. But it wasn't the real thing, and haven't really felt the need to use them again on anything else than eating. Felt stupid. Or maybe the carrot just wasn't sexy enough And there are people dying of starvation and I'm showing it up my assX_X

 

[stephenhaines]

I have been using my dildo for some Time now but every time after. I fill dirty and guilty but I didn't know

Is it possible that what you term as 'guilt' and 'dirty' is just a sense of letdown because perhaps you're in between steady boyfriends, and despite its physical release and usefulness, masturbation's contentment comes up short to that which you'd feel with another person?

I actually think the dildo is a good idea, and will keep you in practice till the next special man comes along.

If I'm at all right, that loneliness is a part of the letdown you're sensing, may I suggest that don't guilt yourself about the masturbation, but afterwards seek the company - by phone or in person - of some non-sexual friend, catch up with one another, and share some laughs.

But don't let the masturbation itself be any cause of guilt

 

[Shelter]

But don't let the masturbation itself be any cause of guilt

:agree::agree::agree::agree::agree:

 

[trencherman]

Is it possible that the nasty minister who told you that it is a sin to be gay has created this guilt in you...

Maybe, just a tiny infinitesimal fucking maybe, some spiritual organization instilled in you that sex is dirty and should be a trigger for guilt while their agents interfere with young people all over with nary a speck of qualm?

 

[stephenhaines]

Maybe, just a tiny infinitesimal fucking maybe, some spiritual organization instilled in you that sex is dirty and should be a trigger for guilt while their agents interfere with young people all over with nary a speck of qualm?

Money had something to do with the decision at the time, but I'm grateful to this day to my parents for getting me and my sister out of Catholic school after I'd finished 6th grade. Still only 12, they hadn't had the opportunity to pollute my head with lies and guilt about matters sexual.

While being made to go to church when we were young kids, my mom being a divorced and re-married Catholic, we were also allowed to express a healthy skepticism about things we were taught that couldn't be proven.

That neither turned me into a whore or a person with no sense of right and wrong, and I think was key to my developing a sensible outlook about sex. Nor do I worry much about a judgmental deity poised to smite consenting adults over how they choose to amuse themselves with their genitalia.