Guys...Inquiring Minds Would Like Your Opinion

[jw4833]

Hey Guys:

I would greatly like your opinion on this: I've been visiting this certain social network just for browsing and seeing and reading what people are up to in their lives. There is this one guy in particular who is very handsome, nice body and somewhat narcissistic. The thing is that when we chat, we do not discuss nothing specific. The chat is basically sexual and very little about anything in general about each other personally. A few times....I have put emphasis on this and try to discuss a few things about my life in general...but he always changes the chat back to sex. Honestly, from these few chats..I know that all he is interested in is having sex with me. The problem is that he does not live in my town and stays thousand miles away. (I don't understand why I always get contacts from guys who live in other states and yet...want to travel to me to have sex...!!!!!!!). This would be something to consider if he lived here in my city...but I have to say that I do question why he is so willing to travel to me. Honestly, I do find myself somewhat attracted to his sexual personality ...but not enough to say come visit me because I do not know him and because I do not know him...I am not the type of guy that feels it okay to bring him into my personal life.

We have exchanged nude pics of each other which is also something that I rarely...rarely do. Although I know he is very attracted to me...he tends to have an issue with me being a private person and also..believe it or not..I am somewhat shy until I get comfortable being in your company. Honestly...my problem is that if I am attracted to you and you approach me in a very sexual manner...I am honest to reveal to you that I am a VERY SEXUAL FREAK!!!...just being honest...I told him this and when he saw my pics..he came to the conclusion that I am pretending to be something that I'm not and even dissed me on the social network site with an animated post but did not mentioned my name. I knew the post was referring to me because of the chat we had in this regard.

OK..the thing is ..he stopped speaking to me for a few days and today ...he contacted me because I gave him some constructive and helpful advice to something that he was going through. He then brought up the topic of him visiting me. However, what threw me for a loop was when he mentioned that in another breath that he was not in a rush to meet me but during waiting for me to make up my mind...he may get involved with someone and that would cause a problem with him ever getting together with me. I replied that I understood but the same could happen with me. NOW...with all that being said...what do you guys think of this???...Thanks in advance for your responses....JW :thumbs up:

P.S. Also...I would like to add that a couple of weeks ago...he contacted me and mentioned that he likes me ..but he does not know me and that is something that he would like if we got to know each other better and yet...since that chat...he has asked me several times already...when our we going to meet. This is what compelled me to share this with the forum

 

[Otage]

By any chance, do you find new crushes quite easily? Your romantic side gets sparked up easily? He's thousand of miles away: Allrigh, I personally can go for sexcursion, but max distance for me is about 400kilometres(And for that there has to be somenthing else intresting too!). Are you sure he is serious about coming to you? That it's not just all talk? There are quite often guys like that on social hookup places. They just love the attention, mental junkies. And Isn't it bit odd, to travel thousand of miles just for sex? Like just for sex. But on the other hand, sounds like he only wants sex.

Have you chatted on anything else than in chatrooms/forums? Most misunderstandings can be solved on face to face convercations, like skype. (Ps. don't have sex on skype, so easy to record, or anywhere else, if you don't wanna be all over) One usually fills the gaps caused by the lack of behavioral communication with his imagination on chats, and the image of the another person stays uncomplete. And I'm not sure that has the internet made people more stupid and socially totally wierd, or has the internet and SOME just made that already existing stupidity more available, since there are so huge amount people who are totally strange, totally incapable to any form of empathy of conversation. Like there is some new breed of horny lobotomic sex bots, who have the abilities of mediums, like saying exactly what you want to hear Or all these social networks are just cesspit lids to which all the crap gets stuck to (like grindr. Ofc some slip threw, but will you reach the sea or get stuck into to a worse sewer, well, you never know).

But my leitmotiv is, that you can only find sex dates on hookup places. If somenthing evolves from it, then it will. But othervise getting too romantic and hopes up is pretty likely waiste of time, and will just ruin the fun.

 

[RefixnarcisM]

Ha been there, done that dear. Words from a wiseman : never, I said never get your feelings and hope too high on long distance relationship with someone you barely know.
Have you seen Cat Fish on MTV? That TV shows might useful for someone like us who dreamed met that one guy online.

 

[Shelter]

Ha been there, done that dear. Words from a wiseman : never, I said never get your feelings and hope too high on long distance relationship with someone you barely know.
Have you seen Cat Fish on MTV? That TV shows might useful for someone like us who dreamed met that one guy online.

:agree::agree::agree::agree::agree:
Dear friend, don't do anything like that! Please!

 

[jw4833]

By any chance, do you find new crushes quite easily? Your romantic side gets sparked up easily? He's thousand of miles away: Allrigh, I personally can go for sexcursion, but max distance for me is about 400kilometres(And for that there has to be somenthing else intresting too!). Are you sure he is serious about coming to you? That it's not just all talk? There are quite often guys like that on social hookup places. They just love the attention, mental junkies. And Isn't it bit odd, to travel thousand of miles just for sex? Like just for sex. But on the other hand, sounds like he only wants sex.

Have you chatted on anything else than in chatrooms/forums? Most misunderstandings can be solved on face to face convercations, like skype. (Ps. don't have sex on skype, so easy to record, or anywhere else, if you don't wanna be all over) One usually fills the gaps caused by the lack of behavioral communication with his imagination on chats, and the image of the another person stays uncomplete. And I'm not sure that has the internet made people more stupid and socially totally wierd, or has the internet and SOME just made that already existing stupidity more available, since there are so huge amount people who are totally strange, totally incapable to any form of empathy of conversation. Like there is some new breed of horny lobotomic sex bots, who have the abilities of mediums, like saying exactly what you want to hear Or all these social networks are just cesspit lids to which all the crap gets stuck to (like grindr. Ofc some slip threw, but will you reach the sea or get stuck into to a worse sewer, well, you never know).

But my leitmotiv is, that you can only find sex dates on hookup places. If somenthing evolves from it, then it will. But othervise getting too romantic and hopes up is pretty likely waiste of time, and will just ruin the fun.

Thanks for responding to my post Otage...and to answer your questions...I am not interested in finding or seeking anyone online...I just go on to browse and if anyone has an issue or going through something that I can relate or respond to ...I do...and that is what I did with this guy. Within a matter of seconds..he thanked me and then preceded by asking me if we could get together and this goes on consistently since that first initial chat. Just yesterday...I gave him some advice in regard to something he was going through and then he contacted me directly and us getting together in the near future and for me to hurry up and make my decision because there's a great chance that he could possibly be involved in a serious relationship soon and he will not engage in messing around on his new partner. I replied with if he found someone that he can be serious about then he should go for it and I wish him the best and not to wait on me to make a decision about getting together with him because just like him...I could be interested in someone else but I am not pursuing the issue of us getting together. You see what I mean...In the past...I tried the Skype thing and yes...I was recorded and the clip was sent to several gay porn studios..so I am very cautious even the rare times I have sent pics out...there are not showing me on full display so to speak...thanks again for your input...JW :cheers:

BTW...In regard to him being located thousands of miles away from where I live...he definitely is...I will not reveal where he is residing at this time..but I put it this way...he has relocated three times since we began to chat and that has been a little over a month...

 

[jw4833]

:agree::agree::agree::agree::agree:
Dear friend, don't do anything like that! Please!

Hey Shelter: Honestly...I was never entertaining the idea of him having him come to my home for a visit especially from just various moments of flirting and not to say that I don't know him....He is very handsome and just because I find him to be does not mean that I am in love or even have a crush on him...I did find him interesting in regard to his conversation and that is about as far as it went...nothing more...I just decided to bring this topic to the forum just to for you all opinions and for participation on the forum. And do you know yesterday...he came on to me again about getting together and when I did not respond the way he assumed I would...he got annoyed and preceded to believe that I am "catfishing" him or I am hiding something...haha...go figure!!!!:rofl:

 

[jw4833]

By any chance, do you find new crushes quite easily? Your romantic side gets sparked up easily? He's thousand of miles away: Allrigh, I personally can go for sexcursion, but max distance for me is about 400kilometres(And for that there has to be somenthing else intresting too!). Are you sure he is serious about coming to you? That it's not just all talk? There are quite often guys like that on social hookup places. They just love the attention, mental junkies. And Isn't it bit odd, to travel thousand of miles just for sex? Like just for sex. But on the other hand, sounds like he only wants sex.

Have you chatted on anything else than in chatrooms/forums? Most misunderstandings can be solved on face to face convercations, like skype. (Ps. don't have sex on skype, so easy to record, or anywhere else, if you don't wanna be all over) One usually fills the gaps caused by the lack of behavioral communication with his imagination on chats, and the image of the another person stays uncomplete. And I'm not sure that has the internet made people more stupid and socially totally wierd, or has the internet and SOME just made that already existing stupidity more available, since there are so huge amount people who are totally strange, totally incapable to any form of empathy of conversation. Like there is some new breed of horny lobotomic sex bots, who have the abilities of mediums, like saying exactly what you want to hear Or all these social networks are just cesspit lids to which all the crap gets stuck to (like grindr. Ofc some slip threw, but will you reach the sea or get stuck into to a worse sewer, well, you never know).

But my leitmotiv is, that you can only find sex dates on hookup places. If somenthing evolves from it, then it will. But othervise getting too romantic and hopes up is pretty likely waiste of time, and will just ruin the fun.

OH..and another thing...when a guy sends you naked hardcore pictures of himself that he can't show on social media and then he mentions on them how he would love have your hot c**k inside him or riding it...well my friend...that is not me assuming anything...haha

 

[RefixnarcisM]

Then meet him. If he really want to know you, meet him. But put a side the emotional dramatic Greta Garbo conversation feelings first. Just play casually. Take time to know him more, if he's willing and believe in you, he won't go away. Same course for you too, because sometimes when two people attracted to each others, they only see the beauty, not the dark murky ugliness within. It takes time to unveiled it.
And when he said that he never share or post anything personal online then talking vigorously about having a BJ easily.... I won't buy that.

 

[Otage]

Then meet him. If he really want to know you, meet him. But put a side the emotional dramatic Greta Garbo conversation feelings first. Just play casually. Take time to know him more, if he's willing and believe in you, he won't go away. Same course for you too, because sometimes when two people attracted to each others, they only see the beauty, not the dark murky ugliness within. It takes time to unveiled it.
And when he said that he never share or post anything personal online then talking vigorously about having a BJ easily.... I won't buy that.

Yeah you can meet him. At least you have checked the cards, and won't end up regretting and bondering, that maybe he would have been worth seeing. But be careful, and let someone know who is coming, where, when etc. And be bit causious towards things he say, I mean he want's to have sex quite clearly, he talks almost only about that, and he tries to rush into meeting you by telling his soon gonna be in serious relationship etc. Something just doesn't feel honest to me here, but that is just my opinnion, which is just my image of the image you have gotten, so it has lost lot of the original true scenario But just be careful!

 

[trencherman]

Web friendship is great precisely because it's limited to the web.

 

[jw4833]

Then meet him. If he really want to know you, meet him. But put a side the emotional dramatic Greta Garbo conversation feelings first. Just play casually. Take time to know him more, if he's willing and believe in you, he won't go away. Same course for you too, because sometimes when two people attracted to each others, they only see the beauty, not the dark murky ugliness within. It takes time to unveiled it.
And when he said that he never share or post anything personal online then talking vigorously about having a BJ easily.... I won't buy that.

Thanks but no thanks...I will not even entertain this situation anymore...its a done deal as far as I'm concern...but thanks for your response. :thumbs up:

 

[youngagain]

Wasted time

Seriously, there's nothing to discuss about this - it's a time waster, move on. There are other things and people in life worth the attention.

 

[jw4833]

Seriously, there's nothing to discuss about this - it's a time waster, move on. There are other things and people in life worth the attention.

Hey youngagain:

I appreciate your response but you know what???...this forum from what I understand is created for gay men to share their feelings or speak out on issue or topics that are relevant to them whether or not many of us may not agree or share the same feelings as them. I know for myself...although I may have the resolution already in my mind...however...in order to have some kind of participation on this forum...I like to hear what others on the forum have to say and share the perspective on whatever I decide to share. A lot of times when I come across someone such as yourself who take the time to post a somewhat harsh remark...I can't help but wonder..why would you WASTE YOUR TIME to respond to something that you may not any interest in???...I know for myself...there have and has been a lot of topics up for discussion that I may have an absurd opinion of but you know... A GROWN MAN WHO HAVE SOME KIND OF MATURITY for himself would not take the time to respond with such harsh and crude remarks. Many times...when guys on this forum decide to share or express what's on their minds...it takes a lot for them to do this and they hope for the best after they have done this...not looking for someone to go out of their way to make comments such as yours. A lot of guys that were former members of this forum have mentioned that remarks such as yours were part of the main reason why the left the forum altogether...so perhaps you should take that in consideration before commenting or better yet..if its nasty or rude...KEEP IT TO YOURSELF...YOUNGAGAIN....!!!!!! ,....WOW...I just had an epiphany...the name alone speaks for itself and the comment you made....:rofl:

 

[Shelter]

Hi JW - totally right! Wham! -

 

[jw4833]

Hi JW - totally right! Wham! -

Thank you Shelter: You know...like I said...I don't have to share what I share on this forum and there are times when I do share...I later on regret because of receiving rude comments such at this...there are so many categories and topics on this forum that you can actually pick and choose what may interest you....therefore, why waste your time commenting with such negativity when you do not have to??? thanks again JW

 

[Otage]

Seriously, there's nothing to discuss about this - it's a time waster, move on. There are other things and people in life worth the attention.

In all fairness for this comments defence, the first part is maybe bit hastily formed, and easily interpetended as 'Seriously = Are you guys stupid?' 'there's nothing to discuss about this = My opinnion! It's the answer!' but that isn't necessarily what youngagain meant. I believe he tried to be helpfull, more than crude. But the rest is solid opinnion, ending with a nice notion in the style of "there's plenty of fish in the water (or is it sea? Ocean?:?). Or I just like to disagree

"Seriously, there's nothing to discuss about this" = this is so textbook stuff
"Seriously, there's nothing to discuss about this" = all the usefull information has allready be given
etc. etc.

Previewing posts can be quite usefull, for fixing typos, and thinking about the text from receivers point of view Messages always lack so much compared to face to face communication, and without carefull consideration are easily left open for misunderstandings.