Have this ever happen to you...

[jw4833]

Hey Guys:

I wanted to share a little story with you...

Over the weekend, a close friend of mine was celebrating his birthday and was given a surprise party at one of the popular gay clubs in the city. While conversing with one of my friends, he noticed how this one guy kept staring at me. Once I looked over at this guy, he smiled and nodded at me. Eventually, he made his way towards me and preceded to introduce himself that followed with a conversation. However, I noticed that as the conversation prolonged as well as his drinking, he became pretty comfortable and somewhat frisky. Later on, he became touchy-freely as well as grinding his crotch up on me while making attempts to kiss me. Actually, I didn't mind it all because this guy was full of compliments and then, he assumed I was a young dude to say the least.

Now, this what I found annoying, today, while at the grocery store, I saw "Mr. Touchy-Freely" and you know what???..he tried to act as if we never met. I am not the type of guy who is not into "outing" anyone and therefore, I was really surprised at his actions because we had ran into each other a few times at the store and yet, he would either turn his head in another direction or he would turn his cart towards the other direction. I've seen this kind of behavior before when certain gay guys do not like to be acknowledge in public places because they are under some stupid assumptions that this will "out" them which is ridiculous to me.

What also bothered me was that earlier today, that same friend of mine had contacted me to inquire why I did not give the guy my phone number or invited him to my place to get better acquainted because this guy had approached him about me as if he was interested after I had left the party.

I contacted my friend on the way home to tell him what happened and he was very shocked to say the least. He went off the deep end saying when he sees this asshole, he will give him a piece of his mind. I say F**K HIM..its not worth it...What you guys think?:thinking:

 

[HotDougBunz]

If he was attracted to you in the pub then he should have been delighted to see you in the store. If he avoided you because he is not comfy about his sexuality in public then I say walk away fast! He was acting on some fear that you would expose his gay side? Or was it because he didn't recognize you since he met you when drinking/drunk thus not remembering you? Either way is a problem. Any other reason is a problem too. If he can't be nice to you since that flirtatious night, then he was merely looking for a one timer and you did yourself well. Unless of course you were looking for a one nighter too and dismissed him. Then you qualified him as lesser and that is why he jumped ship.

 

[jw4833]

If he was attracted to you in the pub then he should have been delighted to see you in the store. If he avoided you because he is not comfy about his sexuality in public then I say walk away fast! He was acting on some fear that you would expose his gay side? Or was it because he didn't recognize you since he met you when drinking/drunk thus not remembering you? Either way is a problem. Any other reason is a problem too. If he can't be nice to you since that flirtatious night, then he was merely looking for a one timer and you did yourself well. Unless of course you were looking for a one nighter too and dismissed him. Then you qualified him as lesser and that is why he jumped ship.

Thanks for your response, however, this may sound nerdy or geeky to you but with all the gay bashing and killings that are going in today's society, I tend to take my time and try to get to know someone before I submit to taking them home and the way he presented his conversation with me and going around expressing his interest towards me to one of my buddies made me assume that either he wanted a one nighter or more. Furthermore, I noticed that when he noticed me in the store, his facial expression gave it away to show me that he knew exactly who I was as well as everytime we were down the same aisle, he would go into another direction.

Honestly, I don't care if nothing occurred between us because I was not looking for anything to happen. But what had annoyed me was that he did his very best to not acknowledge me in public. I have not lost any sleep over this, but I just thought it would be an interesting topic to bring up in the forum.

 

[topdog]

I think the "he's not comfortable with his sexuality" line of thought is somewhat premature. Yes, it could be that, but there are other thoughts that would result in the same reclusive actions:

• "Oh my god, there is that cute guy from last week - I made such a fool of myself that night!"
• "There's that cute guy that I threw myself at and he rejected me. I can't face that again!"
• "There's that stuck-up bitch who thinks he's too good for me!"
• "Did I sleep with him or not? I can't remember. Make the smart move and avoid at all costs."
• "Uh-oh, I don't know what to say to cute guys when I'm not drunk! Quick, duck out of site!"

I think that if you like the guy then you should intercept him and let him know. Otherwise, let him go. He's not your problem anymore.

 

[Diangelo88]

Could it be possible that he was feeling very awkward with you after how he behaved last time he met you and was maybe waiting on you to make a move now before looking so desperate about getting to know you? if not, he is an idiot

 

[Moo]

Why would he talk to you? i mean don't take me wrong, but obviously it was just a failed sex encounter, not a long term friendship. Just be cool abt it and take things the way they are.

I'm not chatty or friendly with ppl i fucked (i'm not rude or anything but not friendly, just two strangers that had sex)

then it just gets weird, like they see you in the street and they are all, "HI!!!, remember me?" that is weird, everybody look at you like "oh they know each other" i mean what are you suppose to say? "yes, great hole dude" or "O yeah, tight ass btw" or "of course i do, Mr. Don't stop" or "oh yea, you are the screamer" i mean seriously? yes we fucked, but is not like we are friends or anything, i just wanted to fuck, you wanted too we both came, the end of our business.

but that's just me, i know for some ppl i may sound like a jerk, asshole, bla bla bla, but i really don't see the point, sometimes with this ppl i don't even talk, you look at them, they look at you, then bum, done. why would i talk w them latter?

 

[jw4833]

Why would he talk to you? i mean don't take me wrong, but obviously it was just a failed sex encounter, not a long term friendship. Just be cool abt it and take things the way they are.

I'm not chatty or friendly with ppl i fucked (i'm not rude or anything but not friendly, just two strangers that had sex)

then it just gets weird, like they see you in the street and they are all, "HI!!!, remember me?" that is weird, everybody look at you like "oh they know each other" i mean what are you suppose to say? "yes, great hole dude" or "O yeah, tight ass btw" or "of course i do, Mr. Don't stop" or "oh yea, you are the screamer" i mean seriously? yes we fucked, but is not like we are friends or anything, i just wanted to fuck, you wanted too we both came, the end of our business.

but that's just me, i know for some ppl i may sound like a jerk, asshole, bla bla bla, but i really don't see the point, sometimes with this ppl i don't even talk, you look at them, they look at you, then bum, done. why would i talk w them latter?

You know, I don't condone anyone for their opinions and I do feel you are entitled to express whatever you feel even if I don't agree with your analogy. The only reason I brought this to the forum was that have you ever been out in a public setting and you can feel someone staring at you and when you turn in their direction, they immediately turn away?..well, this is how this situation started...therefore, his actions gave me the feeling that although he noticed me initially, that quite possibly, he thought that I was going to approach him and say something. BTW, I went out to dinner with a friend last night, and we decided to stop at the same club for a nightcap. After fifteen minutes at the club, the bartender approached me with a drink and a piece of paper which had a phone number on it to which he said came from a guy on the other side of the dance floor..and guess what??..it was this guy...so in reference to a song title from Aretha Franklin.."Who's Zoomin' Who" and to take a couple of lines from your response ... Just be cool abt it and take things the way they are....Why would he talk to you?..so, why would someone who tend to not want to acknowledge you in public, but then in the club setting the following week, buys you a drink with his phone number attached?...oh, that's right...be cool about it and accept things as they are..right..lol..lol..:rofl:

 

[XMan101]

I reckon he's just a bit shy and finds it easier in a comfortable environment.

Phone him and see what happens