Have you ever been bullyied?

[Shelter]

Hi guys, question: have you ever been bullyied because you are gay, and how do you stand upon one's defence?

 

[aman_dig]

i did once when i was around 7 to 9
some of the mean boys and girls would call me out
because i was a little feminine. I didn't really tell my family but i think they
know secretly.
So what i did is i be tougher, play some sports (which i stopped already)
but all and all when i grew older i learned that i shouldn't really care what people thought of me..but i am happy though that i'm more socialize now because sports gave me confidence to approach others.

 

[jw4833]

Yes, I recall being bullied twice by immediate family members when it was discovered that I was gay. Due to the fact that my mother approached me about my sexuality because my then bf would call constantly whenever I visited her home and she realized that he and I were a couple. After promising me that she would keep it between the two of us, she went behind my back and told my siblings. One of my older brothers went and told some cousins of ours and not only was I bullied by them and him, I was also bullied by him and some of his friends. My mother had convinced me to come over to her home for a visit because she had a gift for me. Reluctantly, I went and what she gave me was a very nice, winter overcoat. However, when I stopped at a nearby grocery store to pick up some items for dinner, he and his friends were on their way into the mall and when he saw me, he made a scene in regard to the fact that the coat that I was wearing was his and he demanded that I take it off or he and his friends were going to beat me up. When I told him that mom gave me the coat as a gift and refused to take it off, he and his friends attacked me and physically took it off of me. The problem with this was that it was during the winter and very cold outside and snowing. Good thing, I had a sweater on underneath. When I got home, I called my mom and told her what happened. She told me that the coat was in a garbage bag for months in her chest closet and she decided to have it cleaned and tailored to my size and prior to that, she had asked him if he wanted the coat and he told her no. So, these are the only two times that I can recall being bullied.

 

[sympatico]

yes and now I work with bullied kids in the school system. My blood boils when a kid comes in to my office scared of the bully. No holds barred, Im on that bully so fast

 

[dargelos]

My school was traditional English style where everybody got bullied. A four eyed puff like me was all the way down the food chain. The boys who beat up me were in turn beat up by tougher boys who themselves discovered that there is always someone tougher to beat them up. So at least the bruises were evenly shared out. What I really learnt was that words only hurt if you let them, it's hard to avoid the pain from the kick of a football boot, insults, abuse, nasty jokes, are nothing by comparison. Once my tormentor can no longer find any words bad enough to upset me, he gives up, sometimes he even turns into a friend. The bullying was a small price to pay in exchange for the chance to go to a really good school.
Of course some children do suffer badly and do need support, I'm just lucky it never got beneath my skin.

 

[brmstn69]

Not for being gay, but for being white...

I was raised by a single mother without much money. She worked three jobs to send me to private school, but then they raised tuition and she could no longer afford it. I had to transfer from an all white private school to a predominately black school.

While all the other kids wore T-shirts and jeans to school, I wore dress slacks and button front oxfords because that was the uniform at my old school and we couldn't afford new clothes. Since I was white and dressed in "nice" clothes, and came from a private school, everyone assumed that I was a spoiled rich kid, when in fact we were more broke than most of their families. It also didn't help that due to those few years of private education, I was well ahead of the other students and made honors every semester. And to make matters even worse, I stuttered. Which means that while I placed in mostly advanced classes, I was also in special Ed. and speech therapy. So I was basically a walking target for bullies.

The one good thing is that my best friend was three years older and more like a big brother. He still went to the private school, but lived across the street. He was very heavy into martial arts at the competition level and taught me everything he knew.

I also took gymnastics and swimming classes at the YMCA until my mother got home from work, it was cheaper than a sitter.

The end result was that even though I was little, I was strong, fast, and very agile with an explosive temper.

I got into a lot of fights the first couple of years, but word quickly spread that the little white nerd was not to be fucked with...

 

[Shelter]

Hi Brmstn69 - again a very good story. I love your writing. You could write screenplays! But what you told about your time in school because you have been "white" and apparently "rich" I have had at school as well because I'm gay and I had too a good friend, older than me, which helped me and showed me the way to a good self-defense. I learned and finally could fight against these guys. And that was the beginning of my fight against injustice. Thank you for your good input.