Have YOU ever cheated on your partner?

[AleXXX UK]

Just throwing this out there to hear your stories. When I say cheating, that means being intimate with someone else without your partners knowledge or approval.

 

[jw4833]

No, I've never had with anyone of my boyfriends. Although, I was tempted a lot while in the relationship, but I remained loyal and faithful to them.

 

[HettoreConti]

Such will and loyalty is something to admire, jw4833. Any other would've just yield to temptation. Someone as sweet as you is ensued to draw some hunningbirds arounnd, I guess.

And answering to your question, my dearest -and ever handsome- AleXXX_UK; No. I've never been in a relationship, admittedly, but I believe in loyalty, and that such virtue is directly linked to the feeling of love. I would never, under any cirstance cheat on my partner. Hopefully I can remain true to this words. Life is ever changing, and so is one.

 

[jw4833]

Such will and loyalty is something to admire, jw4833. Any other would've just yield to temptation. Someone as sweet as you is ensued to draw some hunningbirds arounnd, I guess.

And answering to your question, my dearest -and ever handsome- AleXXX_UK; No. I've never been in a relationship, admittedly, but I believe in loyalty, and that such virtue is directly linked to the feeling of love. I would never, under any cirstance cheat on my partner. Hopefully I can remain true to this words. Life is ever changing, and so is one.

Hi HettoreConti: Thank you..but its the truth...I just come to the conclusion that if I'm a promiscuous person, then I should not be in a relationship. During the late 90's was the first time that I've been single and then I decided to just date around because I really never experienced that. But I was single..lol..I often wonder when are people going to learn that its rare that you can have your cake and eat it too...:no:

 

[AleXXX UK]

I am willing to bet *anything* that few here will admit to cheating on their partner.

Most straight people would be happy to admit to having had an affair or a one night stand as they stopped moralising that issue a long time ago.

However the gay community has had to fight very hard to be accepted by the wider community and one of the perceptions it's tried hard to scrub off is that all gays promiscuous. Anyone gay who admits to cheating is looked down on by the community

In the same way straight women are less likely to admit to cheating, I think gay people are even less likely to do so. That's a shame because we're all human

 

[AleXXX UK]

I believe in loyalty, and that such virtue is directly linked to the feeling of love. I would never, under any cirstance cheat on my partner. Hopefully I can remain true to this words. Life is ever changing, and so is one.

No-one goes into a relationship with intentions to cheat but sometimes relationships begin to wane, people fall out of love. It can be easier at first just put it out of mind and to carry on. Sometimes you don't realise your existing relationship is dead until you meet someone else unexpectedly brings back that magic in your life. No one deserves to be cheated and it is horrible but life is complicated and these things happen. I wouldnt wish it on anyone but I hope if it does then we can have a mature outlook

 

[bafm]

I am willing to bet *anything* that few here will admit to cheating on their partner.

Most straight people would be happy to admit to having had an affair or a one night stand as they stopped moralising that issue a long time ago.

However the gay community has had to fight very hard to be accepted by the wider community and one of the perceptions it's tried hard to scrub off is that all gays promiscuous. Anyone gay who admits to cheating is looked down on by the community

In the same way straight women are less likely to admit to cheating, I think gay people are even less likely to do so. That's a shame because we're all human

Are you so sure that many straight people would happily admit to cheat on their partner? :thinking:

Sure there are open relationship but that's another story and I would argue (IMHO) that it can't work, at least not for the long haul.

No-one goes into a relationship with intentions to cheat but sometimes relationships begin to wane, people fall out of love. It can be easier at first just put it out of mind and to carry on. Sometimes you don't realise your existing relationship is dead until you meet someone else unexpectedly brings back that magic in your life. No one deserves to be cheated and it is horrible but life is complicated and these things happen. I wouldnt wish it on anyone but I hope if it does then we can have a mature outlook

Sorry but I don't understand the point here.
I agree, people fall out of love, but why should I deny to myself the evidence and to carry on?
We are not burying our heads in the sand, don't we?

You said that these things happen, sure, but I say we make things happen, so without moralising my reply is no, I never cheated on my partner.

 

[HettoreConti]

I beg to differ, AleXXX. I probably misunderstood your comment (as I tend to do. My feeble and treacherous mind tends to play ugly tricks on me and the way I perceive the world. So if that's the case, I offer you my utmost heartfelt apologies), but, really, falling out of love is NO excuse to cheat on someone. One needs to break out of the perfect little bubble of comfort we live in and simply being honest with the other person in the relationship. If you feel that said partnership has lost all significance, that the fire burns no longer (or however you wish to put it), you or your partner should have the testicular fortitude and maturity to either bring it up and work it out if possible or simply kiss the corpse of love goodbye and leave it in good hands at the morgue -in other words, end the relationship, shatter dreams, break hearts and collapse souls in the process and eventually move on-. There's no need to catch your once beautiful beloved prince in bed with some other dude to realize that your partner no longer feels for you as he used to.

And men in general gloats about their sexual conquests, may I add. Be it straight, gay or anything in between.

Quoting the ever fabulous one, Mistress Anna-Varney Cantodea: "Some men are like chocolate, but most of them are like shit".

That is all. :heart:

You said that these things happen, sure, but I say we make things happen.

Precisely, bafm. Precisely.

 

[Sinnerr]

I have had only one serious relationship and I was loyal. Anyway, I know that a human is not created for life-long monogamous relationship. But also relationship is not something where anyone is against his/her will (especially in gay's case cos we have perspective over conventions). As long as chemistry works there is no reason for cheating. And if chemistry doesn't work, there is no reason for continuing with relationship. So I would never cheat cos I know what I know and it would be hypocritical and coward. I do one night stands with a boy time after time. It's just about sex I know that and He knows that too, absolutely clear(I don't want to live like a munich and I don't see Mr.Right on the horizont at the moment. Honestly requires are high cos offer is high as well). Why I would promise anything what I can't or even don't want to carry out?

 

[jrr22]

Yes, but that was over 30 years ago.