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[jw4833]

Hey Guys:

I had dinner with two of my close buddies over the weekend and one of them had mentioned that although their ex bfs had moved on with other people, that they have that one that still have your back no matter what. For example, when I was a bartender, a guy that I had a one night stand with had gotten so attached that they had assumed that the evening had progressed with us pursuing a relationship which was the farthest thing from my mind. I was asked to give this guy a ride home from a fellow bartender which resulted in him insisting that I come inside his home for breakfast to show his appreciation for the ride. Nonetheless, the next night that I worked, this guy had came into the club with several of his buddies and he had an attitude at me for not calling him after that night. He and his buddies were going to kick my ass. However, out of nowhere, my ex and a couple of his buddies came out of nowhere and took care of the matter which ended with this guy apologizing to me for his actions.

We had not been together for several years and yet, whenever he was in attendance and if a patron got out of control towards me, he would come to my defense. One night, I asked him why he felt the need to do this even when he is well aware that I can take care of myself and I know his new bf is not pleased with his actions. He told me that I am a part of him no matter what and he will always have my back and that is just something that I and his new bf will have to adapt to.

Now, my question to you all is do you any of you have an ex who act like this as well? Thanks as always for your responses.

 

[brmstn69]

My ex and I went our separate ways 8 years ago. Last summer he moved back in with me. We're still best friends, just with out the benefits...

 

[bernardo]

Well, sometimes it's hard to be friends after a b/up, but if you are, isn't that what friends do?

 

[jw4833]

Well, sometimes it's hard to be friends after a b/up, but if you are, isn't that what friends do?

Well...this is why I brought this topic of discussion up because not everyone can be friends or have a civil relationship with someone after they had broken up. In fact, I've had many people who had commented on how I can hold a civil relationship with most of my exes in the manner they we do. Therefore, this is not something that can occur in all relationships.

 

[SimplyJakeAndAlex]

I am the type of boyfriend or ex-boyfriend that will have your back no matter what if we are still friend after a breakup... If I were to divorce of Alex there's fat chances that i'll still protect him... I'll become the shadow that shows when needed. I do that a lot for my friends and will continue doing it... in fact I actually have a prove of how I am in an email I sent to few of my friends who were badmouthing my ex... Obviously I'll remove the name but the text is integral...

On Wed, Feb 6, 2013 at 10:08 PM, Jake <someone@hotmail.com> wrote:
Hi everyone,

Please stop it. It has come to my ears that some of you are talking shit about or comparing to Alex. First of all Alex isn't and isn't Alex. Although I don’t speak to as often for obvious reasons (which are my own and personal reasons) it is not to you guys to judge him or make fun of him. I may not speak to him much anymore but it doesn't change that I loved the dude and I do not appreciate that you guys are using him as a benchmark between me and Alex. You cannot compare and Alex, they’re absolutely not the same person. One used me and the other one love me. However I have no grudge at as I have been walking in its shoes a while ago and understand totally what he did… let’s just call it my karma for having done the same to someone else. So give the dude a break he’s only fucking 18 guys (just remember how you were when you were 18 and that will give you an idea how you should never compare an 18 years old boy with a 27 years old man.) I may not be speaking much with anymore and that is my choice (not his) but I will not accept that you guys lack respect towards him, you DON’T KNOW HIM. He is still in my mind a great dude and I still like him a lot (he just need to deal with some of his issues, just like we all did at some point in our lives.) So please no more comparisons of and Alex and in fact if you haven’t been in contact with in real-time you shouldn't go around badmouthing him. I did tell some of you what he did but do you also remember that I never said that I hated him or that I never wanted to talk to him ever again. I’m just giving him a favor by taking my distance… it is not that I want to, it’s just something that I have to do for his sake, for his learning, for his development. I like my little dude, I like him a lot… and therefore you guys have to shush the fuck up about him. I haven’t speak to you about for weeks and I don’t understand how he came back to surface when I haven’t even say his name for the last three weeks… if you guys want drama, just go in the gay village (there’s plenty of fake bitch ass drama queens there) I hate drama and run away from it like plague. Don’t make ’s ears tingling and don’t involve me or Alex in it. is my business and I stopped talking about him to you all… so why the fuck am I still hearing his name from you guys? Find another example for your stories and leave me, Alex and out of it.

Guys you know Hulk, well I’m Hulk, when I turn green and angry I am not a great guy… don’t make me angry you wouldn't like me when I’m angry I believe some of you knows and no it is not related to me being able to kick your sorry ass… my greatest strength isn't my martial arts, it’s the ability to go deep into your mind and bring the shit to surface and make you cry of it. It hurts more than a kick or a fist in the face. You and I know it well. So leaves my friends alone (yes is still a friend – well somewhat of a friend). Leave him alone guys… I don’t want to hear any comparisons, or word of him. You don’t know him. Nobody does beside me. So shut the hell up and STOP IT!

Thanks, Jake!

I always stick up to my friends... physically and psychologically.

 

[bigsal]

I think that the interest of your ex was a nice gesture.
Is sometimes difficult to interpret the attitude assumed by the individual in these cirstances.
Even if you're not longer together, does not mean that he stopped loving you, at least amicably.
In my view, would have been worse if he had remained indifferent.

 

[Cerno]

At least u have a good ex. My exs are all class-A jerks! One local ex even scammed my money before breaking up (he said he had found GOD! and wanted to stop being gay - what a BS!). To add salt to the wound, he later dated a gay man I once introduced him and they cuddled in front of me when they paid me a visit. What happened to his GOD? I no longer heard from him for years. What a jerk. I hope he gets bad karma!