Sk8erBoiZach
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So as I go through college and get to know myself a bit more, I'm starting to realize I like men that are older than me. I am 19, I'm in a fairly well known business school and I speak five languages fluently, i certainly am quite mature for my age, and have interacted with people from all over the world. The problem is I fall really easily for people, and I just can't help it.
I met this guy who's 11 yrs older than me has his life mostly figured out, great job, good friends, divorced two yrs ago.... He seems to like me and dont look at me as a kid. Problem is he is quite busy, so am I but i always manage to respond to him. In the beginning I just ignored him if he texted me back like a day later, I'm by no means waiting by the phone for anyone. He then put a little more effort in and approached me on his own a couple times, turned him down twice till I agreed to meet again. And ever since I've waited for him to approach me so I didn't seem like I was waiting around for him. Which I'm not, I keep myself busy most days.
Like I mentioned I fall for people really easily, and from past experiences I would infer that he likes the sex more than anything else. I certainly am having better sex with other people, but he is a genuine guy who is kind of naive about things which I find refreshing. He invited me to get out of the city for a few days, I said alright and He said He'd figure out his schedule and get back to me. I texted him Sunday "hey, hows it going" he replied with no info on when we're leaving. So I texted him Monday when I was waiting at my shrink "we still on for this week?" it's been over 15 hours still no reply. I don't see why he couldn't have just said i dont know right now or a general idea instead of ignoring me, and he is not that busy working past 9pm at night. So now I'm just contemplating on if he does respond I'll just say "I assume the plan was off so I'm doing....maybe next time (Please help, I don't know whats a good excuse)" I think making myself too available was a bad choice, considering how shy and naive he was I thought he wouldn't be one to play games, but obviously not the case.
And before you tear me to shreds thinking I'm some kid using these men instead of focusing on school, I will assure you I always call myself a car, and pay my share of the meal, and I have a well deserved scholarship so I'm in no way looking for a sugar daddy, I don't like to owe anyone anything. I just like people that are determined and have their life on track, in most cases they have been older...And I'm a 19 yr old in grad school running circles around classmates that are up to twenty years older than me so my mind is very much focused on my course work since the beginning. However, I hate waking up alone, so I do tend to put myself out there a bit more than I should. If I could get some advice on how I should go about responding to him to make myself less available, or should I go away with him and have a few days of quiet for a change?
I met this guy who's 11 yrs older than me has his life mostly figured out, great job, good friends, divorced two yrs ago.... He seems to like me and dont look at me as a kid. Problem is he is quite busy, so am I but i always manage to respond to him. In the beginning I just ignored him if he texted me back like a day later, I'm by no means waiting by the phone for anyone. He then put a little more effort in and approached me on his own a couple times, turned him down twice till I agreed to meet again. And ever since I've waited for him to approach me so I didn't seem like I was waiting around for him. Which I'm not, I keep myself busy most days.
Like I mentioned I fall for people really easily, and from past experiences I would infer that he likes the sex more than anything else. I certainly am having better sex with other people, but he is a genuine guy who is kind of naive about things which I find refreshing. He invited me to get out of the city for a few days, I said alright and He said He'd figure out his schedule and get back to me. I texted him Sunday "hey, hows it going" he replied with no info on when we're leaving. So I texted him Monday when I was waiting at my shrink "we still on for this week?" it's been over 15 hours still no reply. I don't see why he couldn't have just said i dont know right now or a general idea instead of ignoring me, and he is not that busy working past 9pm at night. So now I'm just contemplating on if he does respond I'll just say "I assume the plan was off so I'm doing....maybe next time (Please help, I don't know whats a good excuse)" I think making myself too available was a bad choice, considering how shy and naive he was I thought he wouldn't be one to play games, but obviously not the case.
And before you tear me to shreds thinking I'm some kid using these men instead of focusing on school, I will assure you I always call myself a car, and pay my share of the meal, and I have a well deserved scholarship so I'm in no way looking for a sugar daddy, I don't like to owe anyone anything. I just like people that are determined and have their life on track, in most cases they have been older...And I'm a 19 yr old in grad school running circles around classmates that are up to twenty years older than me so my mind is very much focused on my course work since the beginning. However, I hate waking up alone, so I do tend to put myself out there a bit more than I should. If I could get some advice on how I should go about responding to him to make myself less available, or should I go away with him and have a few days of quiet for a change?
