How do you deal with your anger?

[kiriel]

I put on my headphones, turn off the lights, and dance in the dark

YOU?

 

[XMan101]

I rarely lose my temper, usually it's a quick rant then I get on with something else

 

[brmstn69]

See my signature...

 

[jeansGuyOZ]

If there's one thing I can't stand, it's people who suggest I have anger management problems. It makes me want to punch their fucking heads in.

 

[wjdxo2008]

1st-i find that person's address
2nd- pick up a road kill
2rd- place it in front of their door with threatening mail written in red crayon
...........................i am just kidding HAHAHA
listening to music or playing with dogs almost make everything better!
one of reasons why i volunteer work @ local shelter!

 

[newage]

If there's one thing I can't stand, it's people who suggest I have anger management problems. It makes me want to punch their fucking heads in.

:rofl::rofl::rofl:

 

[afrayedknot]

I'm not happy unless I am mad.

There is very little about this world that doesn't make me mad as an old wet hen. The Iranian boy, who may very well be executed for being gay even though he's not, is the latest. This angers me. I, like smartarse from down under, want to go to Iran and punch the judge in the throat repeatedly. Sarah Palin and Bill O'Rielly make me blood-boiling ANGRY. Conservative judges who "over-turn" health care legislation even though almost 80% of Americans agree that we need it, make me regret that even talking about killing an American judge is a crime. Grown men over the age of, oh I don't know 28, who insist on using "boy" or even worse "boi" in their online usernames are culpable for inciting a riot of one. Most, not all, but most, women drivers make me more than a little mad. But these last two are really only frustration to the point of vehement outbursts and not anger.
I would love to spend the rest of my life scuba-diving; an octopus in the wild does seem to alleviate all your troubles at the moment (a small one that is, all squishy and squirmy and gelatinous but in a ridiculously beautiful way). Eventually the oxygen runs out and you have to return to land, and right there on the beach is an empty sunscreen tube discarded by one of the hundreds of millions of landlubbers who anger me. So... I embrace my anger. I use it to fuel an otherwise underdeveloped inner-motivation engine. I take actions that I normally would not out of a paralyzing desire to avoid conflict. But conflict brings change. Conflict, not screaming and yelling and trying to make the other person feel bad about themselves, but level-headed, after you've went jogging, sore-knuckles from the punching bag, I'm going to do something about this right now conflict. Don't be afraid to let people know that you are angry. I email both my state senators almost weekly telling them that I am mad about decisions they make. I try to use respectful syntax and limit the off topic rants to a sentence or two, but I let them know that they have riled my anger. Remember that anger is stronger than fear. Things make us angry for a reason; so that we recognize a bad situation and want to change it.
So, "put your headphones on and go for a jog" (even though people who do that when they get angry make me angry) and calm down a little if you need to. But, and this is very important, do not forget about what made you angry, don't relinquish your anger until a suitable solution to the source of that anger is found.
I'm really pissed at myself for gaining almost 50 pounds over the last two years. Now as much as enjoy beating myself up over it, that only helps if I allow the cold calm all-powerful anger to drive my lazy ass to the gym.
If you are still reading this, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Let me know what you think or I will be very very angry.

 

[jeansGuyOZ]

afrayednot has made some very valid points here.

There is a lot of talk about "anger management", as if the fault lies with the person who is angry. But there is a big difference between being angry because something seems wrong to you, and just being bad-tempered and unable to talk about issues calmly with other people.

My post above was light-hearted, but there was an element of seriousness about it. I am the sort of person who likes to speak their mind, and a couple of times I have been in work situations where I disagreed strongly with things being done, or things that I was expected to do. The suggestion that I should "calm down", when what should have happened was that my opnions should have been listened to and given serious consideration, only made me more angry.

 

[jw4833]

When I get angry or pissed off about something, I usually go for a long drive with one of my mix CDs playing in the background or either put my headphones on and listen to some nice jazz or better yet, go dancing until I'm all sweaty...lol

 

[john7611]

I rarely get angry. One has to be very close to me to be able to offend or anger me. When I do though, I voice it and move on.

 

[DarkRising71]

As the song says: "Music is the Doctor"! If I feel like I'm getting a little angry at sometime, I usually get the turn tables fired up, speakers cranked up, and then just rock out for a few hours.

 

[grrrpuppy]

I punch my dog.
Just kidding.

I put my anger in a box in the corner of my mind...

 

[diklik]

I've found it productive (when angry) to respond rather than merely react - in other words a considered action not a knee-jerk reaction. If it's a person who has angered me by their speech or behavior, I let them know it - civilly but very directly. If it's a situation over which I have no direct control, I find some way to view the issue that helps me understand the 'why', despite being pissed off by it. Usually works, although not every time. If my anger stems from a stupid mistake of my own making, I kick my ass around the block a few times and feel better that way.

 

[lumlum]

I'll listen to music and stay away from people.