Hypothetical scenario

[Otage]

Totally (not) hypothetical situation: You've met a guy two weeks a go. You have allready met his sister and hers husband, you have had sex, you have been a week without seeing eachothers because you were both busy, he have asked you for a weekend trip which he is paying (for example spa + hotels + restaurants + clubs) and has asked you to spent time with him and his daughter (which U refused cause you had other plans, and you think that would have been too soon too, cause you are not quite sure what the guy is about).

The hypothetical guy is very generous, kind, super good looking, fun, nice, emphatic, seems honest etc.

Is this a jackpot or somenthing too good to be true? Does going this fast mean his very into someone and sees potential, or is he total nutcase? And one would think that now is too soon to start talking about 'where we at' kinda stuff. And one could feel this kinda situation bit puzzling.

 

[gorgik9]

Go for it, Otage, go for it! Just go!

 

[jw4833]

OK Otage...I think you kind of know a little about me from reading my posts on this forum and therefore...I tend to go against the grain on situations such as this. So..with that being said...this is just my opinion...I tend to think that things are going way too fast for all of that at this point. I also feel that its okay to see potential in someone but I would have never introduce you to family members and we just been seeing each other a couple of weeks. For me...it sounds kind of crazy...however...the only way you will find out what's really going on or the outcome of this situation is to go through it and see what's there. I also kind of feel that you may have some apprehension about this since you've decided to post this on the forum for others' opinions and I am not saying this to be crude, rude or mean okay. The only reason I say all of this because you know I've experienced a situation with a guy who was moving really fast and did not know anything about me...and when I was being cautious and not moving fast enough for him...he got pretty angry with me and assumed something was wrong with me. Then again...I have heard of people who believe in love at first sight or those fall in love really fast and this guy could very well be one of those people. So....if you decide to take a chance on this...go in but precede with caution until you are certain that this is the real thing. You know ...I wish you all the best on this ...JW

 

[Shelter]

Otage - what Gorgik said: GO FOR IT! Jump into the water and swim. Why not love on first sight? So I found my BF and we are lucky until today - as I said not every day will be Sunday. But as we say in Germany: a quarrel is the salt in the soup. Don't be a pessimist - be optimistic. And perhaps you have found whereupon you have looked for. So once more the words from Gorgik: GO FOR IT

 

[W!nston]

When love knocks answer the door. If you feel a tingle in your belly when you see him or if you think about him all the time when you're apart then it's worth the risk of being disappointed.

Life is not a rehearsal it IS the show and you have to wing it... take a chance for happiness when it comes your way and feels good. If it falls apart have no regrets because you are alive and life is full of risks for happiness and disappointment.

I think you should be brave and meet his daughter if he offers that opportunity. He's not only showing off his daughter he's showing off his potential mate. I know how tricky meeting the family can be. It usually goes better than expected so be brave

From what I've read of your posts here I think you are a very good man and I can see why he would want to take a chance on you. You should take a chance on him. You are a genuine person with patience, kindness, humor and you have good taste in music and in men

The best of good luck to you and your new beau,

:cheers:

Sniffit

 

[dargelos]

When people are reaching the end of their days, what they regret are not the things they did do that they ought not to have done. It's not doing the things they ought to have done that they feel sorry about.
This fella might break your heart, or he might make your dreams come true.
If you never find out which, the doubt will linger for ever.

 

[Otage]

Thank you all so much for your input:big hug: You all have once again helped me to mirror and search my own feelings. I will see this threw, but will also stay little bit cautious, trying to learn as much of him as I can before I open the very inner gates of my heart He might be bit too impulsive/grazy, but I think both can be good or either bad, it always depends. Thank!

 

[Otage]

From what I've read of your posts here I think you are a very good man and I can see why he would want to take a chance on you. You should take a chance on him. You are a genuine person with patience, kindness, humor and you have good taste in music and in men

The best of good luck to you and your new beau,

:cheers:

Sniffit

:blushing: Most flattering part is the "good taste in music":dreaming::rofl:

 

[brmstn69]

Just my opinion... But the daughter part gives me cause for hesitation. Children complicate things. I think it would be better to take some time and see how things progress between you and him before you meet his daughter. If she were to become attached to you early on and things didn't work out after a short period of time then she may feel rejected as well. I've seen it too many times before, mom gets a new boyfriend that's great with the kid but things just don't click and after the break-up the child's left hurting and wondering why he left her as well.
I'd tell him you want to work on developing your relationship with him before you get the kid involved...

 

[Otage]

Just my opinion... But the daughter part gives me cause for hesitation. Children complicate things. I think it would be better to take some time and see how things progress between you and him before you meet his daughter. If she were to become attached to you early on and things didn't work out after a short period of time then she may feel rejected as well. I've seen it too many times before, mom gets a new boyfriend that's great with the kid but things just don't click and after the break-up the child's left hurting and wondering why he left her as well.
I'd tell him you want to work on developing your relationship with him before you get the kid involved...

Well he actually suggested that today we would have gone out to this one park with him and his daughter. I told him that I think it's too soon, and that I don't think I know even him all that well all together. He understood it, and took the kid to his parents and we had some time together. And I'm gonna go as suggested, find out where this goes before getting all hyped up. I kinda share your concern for the kid, and I think it's bit wierd to show dates this soon to ones young daughter. Gladly we could talk about it, and he understood it

 

[jw4833]

Thank you all so much for your input:big hug: You all have once again helped me to mirror and search my own feelings. I will see this threw, but will also stay little bit cautious, trying to learn as much of him as I can before I open the very inner gates of my heart He might be bit too impulsive/grazy, but I think both can be good or either bad, it always depends. Thank!

Yeah...Otage...that's it...see it thru...but with caution...don't pass judgment until everything is confirmed for you to make that last call on him...I support you and wish you the very best...JW...:big hug:

 

[jw4833]

Well he actually suggested that today we would have gone out to this one park with him and his daughter. I told him that I think it's too soon, and that I don't think I know even him all that well all together. He understood it, and took the kid to his parents and we had some time together. And I'm gonna go as suggested, find out where this goes before getting all hyped up. I kinda share your concern for the kid, and I think it's bit wierd to show dates this soon to ones young daughter. Gladly we could talk about it, and he understood it

Hey Otage...I also like that you guys do have a communication line to discuss your feelings openly...

 

[Otage]

Hey Otage...I also like that you guys do have a communication line to discuss your feelings openly...

Well actually, that was the first subject about feelings, and I started it. Of course we have been complementinc eachothers and saying stuff like 'you're wonderfull, you're sweet' and he contacts and sends messages me constantly, even calls. It's bit wierd, since he seems to be bit on the cautious side himself, but then he introduces me almost to his whole family etc. and moves really fast. But I like it, we'll see sooner will it become nothing or not And have found many guys who just are so slow to even advance for a coffee...

But just this amount I'm talking about him... Damn. We have our trip next weekend. It will brolly be quite fun oriented, and I don't think it's really the time yet to start really talking about feelings anyways? Just having fun with a nice (gorgeus:dreaming guy. I'm gonna be as lovable as I can and not gonna scare him off:thumbs up: If I would let myself, I could move even faster, and ruin the whole thing and break my heart once again

 

[fatty]

Stop trying to find faults and lose your actional constipation already. If it's right for you do it? If not send him over to me