I need some guidance...

[manymoney22]

Well

i've just been out travelling for this summer. Me and a friend of mine went on "Interrail", and on the way home i came to sit across from a guy on a train, like i've never seen before.

His eyes are just perfection! shiny blue... But nonetheless, the guy i was travelling with, doesn't know that i'm gay, so i didn't know how i could "hit" on the other guy, without my friend finding out. But i know the guy was interested in my, he kept seeking out eyecontact, looking and trying to get me to look back at him... If i could go back in time, i would have hit on that guy, no matter what my friend would have thought of me...

I can't describe how sad i am, for not trying to make the contact, so i've turned to desperate messures, and thats you guys

How the hell am i ever going to see him again? Is that just a lost cause, or how should i proceed? i know which train we were travelling with, and that he got of in Lyon(France), but i don't even know his name...:worried: I think i fell hard for that guy...

 

[bloop2]

lol quickly slip him your number?

 

[mrduke]

Lots of eye contact could have meant you could excuse yourself to the restroom, and if it were to be he might have followed. I dunno, I've never traveled by rail in Europe, but that's what I'd have done here!

duke

 

[fukami]

How long were you on the train? If you guys left the train before him, I would have told the friend that I forgot something on the sit and run back to get it/give the hottie the contact info and then run back to your friend.

Did you get a picture at least?

 

[XMan101]

Well the odds of finding him are somewhat remote - unless you write one of those messages you see in the back of some mags & papers, like - "You blue eyes, me dark hair sat opposite with friend on train to Lyons, we made eye contact but never spoke. Would love to meet & talk" etc etc.

Wonder if anyone actually meets up again from one of those ads !

 

[manymoney22]

Well the odds of finding him are somewhat remote - unless you write one of those messages you see in the back of some mags & papers, like - "You blue eyes, me dark hair sat opposite with friend on train to Lyons, we made eye contact but never spoke. Would love to meet & talk" etc etc.

Wonder if anyone actually meets up again from one of those ads !

It's those sort of messures i have to turn to... but isn't there some kind of web page for that?

And to the rest of you guys - I know what i should have done, but in the situation with the friend right beside you, and a lot of other people within metres of you, I found it very hard to focus... But it was just unreal... My friend and i had slept for 1 hour the night before(had been to a concert in Nice - "Unighted - by Cathy Guetta"), so we were excausted and the guy was probably in my top 5 - Ever! (including celebreties)

I only know one guy with eyes that can messure up to those, and i know for relatively certain that he isn't gay...

 

[Otage]

On a longer train rides its quite common(after you have eaten and read your book etc.) to start scanning the other people on the train. I often have similiar eye "play" situations when travelling by train. As to seeing that dude again I can't help, but maybe it wouldn't have worked anyway. All I mean that you haven't necesserily lost anything

 

[manymoney22]

I don't think that was the case in this situation... There's that difference between the occasional glare and what i felt. There was - not tension - but definantly a vibe... I't was just stupid of me not to take the opportunity.

Also there was definantly some "leg-contact" that could easily have been avoided if it wasn't because he wanted me to feel his leg rubbing up against mine...

 

[xcommunicated]

sorry dude, but you messed up. another case of regret caused by being afraid to be who we really are. it's too bad that your fear of what your friend might think caused you to pass on what you really wanted. chalk it up to experience but promise yourself to never let it happen again. (been there, done that...never again!)

 

[garth33]

just chalk it up to life experience Moneyman...think of it this way. If you had rolled the dice and hit on the guy in front of your friend and it CLICKED - you might have met your soul mate and your friend would have had to deal with your sexuality but what would you rather have? An old friend or a mate for life?

On the other hand...it might have totally bombed...my point is LIFE is a gamble. You just have to be willing to roll the dice. Many people don't - preferring safe or "socially acceptable" choices - a lot of those people aren't truly happy

True GAMBLERS will roll the dice based totally on their instincts...other players who only want to play it safe will always wonder what could have been and (with 100% certainty!) will NEVER know...

just my 2 cents buddy!
g33

 

[manymoney22]

I fucked it up... (in a very non-litteral way)

But it has given me a confidence boost nonetheless. He was ridicoulusly good looking...

It did help to "right it over" with you guys. Thanks alot

mm22

 

[JonnyFantastico]

just chalk it up to life experience Moneyman...think of it this way. If you had rolled the dice and hit on the guy in front of your friend and it CLICKED - you might have met your soul mate and your friend would have had to deal with your sexuality but what would you rather have? An old friend or a mate for life?

On the other hand...it might have totally bombed...my point is LIFE is a gamble. You just have to be willing to roll the dice. Many people don't - preferring safe or "socially acceptable" choices - a lot of those people aren't truly happy

True GAMBLERS will roll the dice based totally on their instincts...other players who only want to play it safe will always wonder what could have been and (with 100% certainty!) will NEVER know...

just my 2 cents buddy!
g33

Um... that's a little strong, Garth... :worried:

If he and this guy hit it up and ended up together, the friend should've just dealt with it... because that's what real friends do. They don't knock you down because you happen to care for the same sex... if they do so, that's not a true friend and you don't need that in your life. Something tells me that this was based more on fear and sadly, we'll never know how it all could've turned out for him. But to ask the question, "What would you rather have?" Easy: both. A friend who loves me no matter who I'm with or decide to love and a lover who loves me no matter who my friends are. If either one can't deal with that, that's their problem, not his.

I agree with you, life is a gamble... but that doesn't one should assume you always lose something out of the deal.

 

[manymoney22]

Well thank you Johnny

 

[iSlut]

In the future, there are easy ways to break the ice and make it seem to bystanders you aren't trying to make a connection. Was he reading a book? Ask him about the book. Then there's always the "aren't you Jessica's friend?" Get the conversational ball rolling any way you can. If he's interested in you, he'll respond with chit chat. What stop are you getting off at, where did you get that shirt, is it supposed to rain today, etc. You can find some kind of common topic then offer to email him something so you can give him your email address or vice-versa. You can also make up simple business cards on your computer with your name, cell number, and email address. Keep a few handy in your wallet and you can then just hand the guy your card when your friend is in the toilet. If the other guy is interested, he'll take it and contact you.