If you are Bi, where do you draw the line?

[kielkin]

From my perspective of being straight, I don't see much restrictions to a person who is bi besides the obvious of not doing it with animals.

 

[logan222]

I'm pretty sure the restriction is whether or not they're attracted to the person. I can see being bi in a committed, monogamous relationship as something very difficult, however. I mean, if you commit yourself to one person from one sex, then what do you do when you're craving someone from the other sex? :thinking:

 

[SimplyJakeAndAlex]

From my perspective of being straight, I don't see much restrictions to a person who is bi besides the obvious of not doing it with animals.

Being Bi doesn't mean that we are totally depraved sexually speaking... per definition being BI just means that you have at the same time sexual or affectionate attraction for both genders. It doesn't mean that we can't commit to a person... bisexual definition is so vast that's there's 13 denominations of it (and I did explained them some place in this board so I won't do it again LOL), where one can choose which suit them better... but as Casanova said so well before, those are just social labeling. I am bi because sexually I like and can have sex with bot sex one on one or both at once... not much different than a bunch of gays having group sex together (is that depravity or is it just sex). I live with a dude... and I am so content with him sexually and emotionally, and because as bi I understand and accept that I have a preference, and he is my preference

 

[SimplyJakeAndAlex]

From my perspective of being straight, I don't see much restrictions to a person who is bi besides the obvious of not doing it with animals.

Same question: if you are gay with extreme sex appetite, where do you draw the line? If one is hetero with same libido, where does he draw the line?

 

[zortek]

i would just add to jaketoronto2004's points, that if you are craving someone else, regardless of whether you are gay straight or bi, it is probably an indication of deeper problems in the relationship.

 

[jw4833]

There was a guy whom I met while moonlighting as a bartender. I met him through another bartender at a dinner party. There was chemistry between the two of us and he would call me daily and would always want to meet me after work or on my days off, we would spend time together. However, this one evening, he revealed how he was falling in love with me and he wanted us to have a committed relationship. The catch was that he also revealed that he was bisexual. The problem however stemmed from him because he felt that within our potential relationship, he is allowed to see females whenever he felt the urge/need to but, he had issues if I wanted to see other guys. Now mind you, when I get involved with someone, I am committed to that person totally. I do not get into open relationships, but I humored him just to see where his head really was.

He had went so far to say that if he and I became partners, that he would have huge problems with me venturing out of the relationship where as he felt this would be okay for him to scratch his urge for females. With that being said, I feel that if someone would become involved with a bisexual that for me, ... and this is just my opinion...this is where the line should be drawn or if you are into open relationships, then you should be allowed to venture out as well.

 

[Tjerk12]

When I look back (and there is a lot to see in the 66 years of my life) I wonder if there was something as heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual in my life. I felt attracted to people. When I was a kid I adored Doris Day. I collected everything I could gather. Then there was Ali, that’s a girl’s name in Dutch. She was a beautiful kid, but I adored her not because of her appearance, but because we fitted together. When I was about 14 there was Arend, a fellow football player. I adored the boy because of his appearance. Not to have sex with him, but in fact I was jealous that my mirror image could not compete with his. The first time I really felt an imaginable sexual excitement was in the beginning of my military service, at the first military parade, several hundreds of young boys standing in attention. About 70 meters from me he was standing. I nearly fainted by seeing him. And he wasn’t beautiful at all. I searched for him, rather pointless, because I wouldn’t have known what to tell. But I couldn’t find him. Probably they were guests, just for that day. After that I had several girlfriends, actually too much to count. When I met my wife I was totally in love. But now, after all those years, I must admit that I consider a male body more beautiful than a female body. Why? I have no idea. It is all based on feelings that you can’t control. I have thousands of photos of beautiful boys on my computer. I adore their beauty. They give me warm feelings, but nearly without exception I would not like to have sex with them. There are exceptions of course. Kyros may fuck me to death. What a nice death that would be! So am I bisexual? I doubt, I think that I am sexual; some people attract me more than others do. Life is complex.

 

[pjay1]

It's not about how far you can go or if you like men or women. One day you can have a female on your mind the next day a male. They are different feelings in my mind. Sometime there is a need for the softness of a woman, other times the strength of a man. All that matters is one being happy.

 

[Remote]

:thumbs up: Pjay1 took the words right out of my mouth... definitively speaking - the same "lines" are enforced in BOTH cases, and is largely dependent on the participant(s) engaged... as well as what chemistry has transpired.

 

[kblocky13]

I'm a bi guy with a longterm girlfriend who's also bi. We have an open realthionship, but I don't sleep with other women and she doesn't sleep with other men. Being bi is wonderfull if you ask me, I like to be with men and I like their bodies, but I wouldn't trade my GF who's my soul mate for other boys and/or girls. She understands I ''need'' (by that I don't mean just sex, I had BF's during our relationship and she had GF's, infact her GF, her and I just had a nice walk where we talked about everything from sex to weather) to be with men, just as I understand she loves to be with women. It's nice to be able to connect with people on sexual and emotional level without being under the burden of their geneder.

As for being bi in society, it's really puzzling sometimes. Straight community dislikes you because you sleep with people of the same sex, while gay community often thinks you should choose your ''side'' (so to speak) already.

One thing is essential when your bi, if you want to build a relathionship with someone you need to be straightforward and say your bi to to person your trying to connect with, otherwise it's pointless.

 

[roboLex]

As for being bi in society, it's really puzzling sometimes. Straight community dislikes you because you sleep with people of the same sex, while gay community often thinks you should choose your ''side'' (so to speak) already.

One thing is essential when your bi, if you want to build a relathionship with someone you need to be straightforward and say your bi to to person your trying to connect with, otherwise it's pointless.

Definitely. And i'm basically in the same situation as you...

But as far as society is concerned we are bigger pariahs, since it doesn't fit into one of the already predesignated check-boxable categories....