Wow really........? Is it really true that your opinion is that bottoms are as common as "gum on the sidewalk"?
I hope you will be happy with your hand!
You've been in a stable, sexually-satisfying relationship for a long time, my friend: you are very fortunate in having found a guy who likes to fuck you as much as you like being fucked. That is a relatively rare situation: more typically, two bottoms try to make it work, with less than satisfactory results (which is why the majority of guys on Grindr are practically begging for a cock up their ass but "can't host" because they're in a committed relationship). Just as straight women outnumber straight men, gay bottoms outnumber gay tops by a significant margin.
Of course I'm older than you, so I've been able to see changes unfold over a longer period. Today, being "versatile" and open to both topping and bottoming is much more common than it was in the '80s/'90s. This perhaps increases the chances of enjoying someone. But I think that only really works if both men are truly "versatile" by nature and inclination: if one much prefers bottoming he will be frustrated, and his partner might feel resentful at having to top more often than he wants.
I usually find when guys let their hair down and tell me who they really are, "versatility" flies out the window and they identify heart and soul as bottoms. They "go along to play along" since versatility is almost a requirement to get laid, but they aren't completely happy with it: if they had a choice, they'd be 100% bottoms. Unfortunately 100% tops are in short supply, so they make do.
Just in terms of myself and my friends, in some cases our "bottom" orientation eased up a bit as we got older and versatility became more truly enjoyable. A few are still narrowly-focused, "MUST have a cock up my ass or I'll scream!" types but generally we can go either way as middle age encroaches. When you're a young and insanely horny bottom, the fixation on getting fucked can overtake every waking minute of your life. But as you ac
ulate more life experience and go thru a couple of long-term relationships, you learn there are many ways you can get off with another man if you're both really into each other. That overbearing drive for a specific sex act can become secondary when you meet someone whose attractive qualities go beyond that. And some days, you wake up with a hard-on, look in the mirror, and suddenly realize you ARE the "Daddy" guys are hitting on to top them, and the idea seems perfectly natural and hot.
Life is funny sometimes. Sex is even funnier.