Im quite positive that I have to tell..

[Otage]

I hava a friend that I like. I'm quite positive hes straight but I think I have to tell him how I feel just to know what to do. I've tried to think that do I like him as a friend more or do I just like him. I have to do it so I can move on I think.
Any advice about whats the best way to do it? Text message isn't borbably the best way to go?:?

 

[Jamie]

I wouldn`t do it if I were you. Is he a good friend? Like your best friend? If I were you , I`d rather wank several times dreaming about his naked body than to ruin a good friendship...good friends are sooo hard to find!

 

[Squallmuzza]

Get absolutely hammered with him and make your move. Worked for me haha XD

And that guy turned out to be straight other than that, but I'll always remember that night for the rest of my life XD

 

[smallsleepyrascalcat]

And is he still a friend of yours?

 

[goejavin]

No Text message, Osage...that I know...but its very hard to determine since theres so much we dont know...but from what you say, be careful....freinds are so hard to come by...and by telling him about your sexuality may not be the best approach....you may need to accept the fact that he will always be your very good friend. If you feel confident that he will not react negatively, then do tell him....but keep your feelings about him to yourself and see if anything happens. Like I said, and I know, friends make the difference. Good luck babe

 

[btcollect]

Many friendships with few secrets do not require a sexual component (like a gay guy and girl who is str8 or gay) so you do not always have to make your sexual orientation or activities central to the friendship. Especially workplace friends!

However, meaningful friendships are between people who like each other for who they really are. Too many little lies will eventually ruin the relationship anyway, so don't squander a good one with big deceptions. Depends on what else you have in common and like to do together.

I'm bi and always get around to letting male friends know that I'm hunting in a wide open field. If they aren't OK with maybe being a target, they should let me know, and stay as close or get as far away as they're comfortable. I've helped more than one bud hook up by clearing the competition.

 

[Otage]

Well yeah but the broblem is that I don't like things the way they are. I have to come clean for my own sake. If the friendship ends well then thats smth I can work with. But this current situation is just too confusing. So i have decided to tell but the right way to tell is the broblem.

 

[Otage]

Get absolutely hammered with him and make your move. Worked for me haha XD

And that guy turned out to be straight other than that, but I'll always remember that night for the rest of my life XD

Sounds hot but I think I would maybe like to do things more subbtle and I would also like hear his opinion:blushing:

 

[Otage]

If he's straight, but you two get on, then he'll be up for something. But, the issue might be privacy -he would need to be reassured that you won't go talking to other people about him, not just in relation to sex, but that you're a mature, trusted friend in general. Then, you can have some fun, but don't expect him to be into it --it'll just be a curiosity thing, or a dare. If you want to approach him to talk about feelings etc., that's tricky and might well not be very productive. The first thing to realise is that your relationship is going to be limited. Think about it a while. You might need to disengage emotionally. If you play it cool, he's not going anywhere... so sit back, be collected, and figure out what the limits are, what would be good for you and good for him. With that attitude, I hope you'll find him receptive to a little advance. If you're kind of hung up on him, it seems like it's all about him, but remember to consider yourself, what you're feeling, why you're feeling it, etc. So introspect about overall feelings not just those feeling that are about him.

It's complicated! Sometimes it's just better not to analyse so such (at least not all of the time) and be spontaneous. Come what may...

Thanks integritas0! I think I am overthinking it now that you mentioned it... I think i brolly just want a somekind of conclusion for all this mindgame. You helped me on my way to peace of mind I'll be sure to post it here if I do tell him and how it went! (so some of you can say"I told you so!")

 

[Thor]

I didnt tell you so...but hope it works out babe lol

if life was easy..we prob wouldent be here typing out stuff lol

 

[Otage]

Thor you're such a wiseass<3

 

[Squallmuzza]

Thor you're such a wiseass<3

SECONDED! Haha