im such an alcoholic..

[etilit]

yesterday i couldn't even write my name on paper my hand shook so much..its becoming embarrassing..i try to hide it.. but i dont think i can anymore...not sure what to do:worried:

 

[bigsal]

Get help for people who love you.

 

[slimjim]

Well they say the first step is admitting that you have a problem. Now you must get some help kiddo.. either family or professional. Take care!

 

[tonka]

Alcohol is a joy and a curse. Writing this at the end of the St Patricks weekend, it has been both things for my Boston irish family and friends.
In 2000, I had to take on new responsibilities. My three elders were getting old and sick; there was noone else but me to help them. It was stressful, and went on and on. Wine was my stress reliever. I worked my full time job; I helped my family, but I was drunk every night.
In 2010, my father passed. The last of the elders. It was time for a change. I didn't want to stop drinking. I really like drinking. But I did need to do a reset.
I first tried stopping for a month. That lasted a week. I then tried limiting my nightly consumption. I was able to do it, but I really disliked it. I would have a few drinks, and then force myself to stop. No fun at all.
Then I found something that works. During the week, I don't drink at all. No booze in the house, no visits to the pub. On weekends, I give myself permission to indulge as I like.

It's been a year now. I don't crave the drink during the week. I drink weekends, but less than before.

For some of you drunks, stopping completely may be necessary. But there may be a middle way for some of you; the great joy of a fuzzy head without wrecking your life.

 

[gb2000ie]

yesterday i couldn't even write my name on paper my hand shook so much..its becoming embarrassing..i try to hide it.. but i dont think i can anymore...not sure what to do:worried:

Not sure how you are about religion, if you have no problems with it, then AA might be for you.

My advice would be to have this conversation with your doctor, they can give you the best possible advice.

B.

 

[logan222]

Like slimjim mentioned, admitting that it is a problem is a HUGE first step!

Before you drink, ask yourself WHY am I drinking this? Try to really think it through and trace it back to something you can focus on for a change. Sure, it may be something you can't change or overcome quickly, but you could possibly start to channel your energy/dedication toward solving that problem that leads you to drinking (it could be a different thing for different people). Find it and overcome it! Have faith in yourself and your ability to do it. Don't doubt yourself. You can do it!

 

[brmstn69]

Speaking from experience, there is no one or nothing that can help you until YOU decide that it's become too much to handle. It took loosing my career, two collector cars, $10,000, a felony DWI, my boyfriend, several other friends, and damn near loosing my house before I had enough. After all that, and about 6 months of DT's, it was easy to quit. It's been almost 7 years now and I haven't looked back...

 

[Rebel7]

I drink too only on weekends but more moderately then before. If you're in some problems drinking doesn't solve it, only makes you it forget for sometime. As Logan said, WHY do you drink? Go to the root of whatever reason you indulge yourself into drinking and finish it there. Whatever it is don't feel guilty, you have the power to change things. C:C

 

[Otage]

If you have a problem with alcohol, get help. Alcohol problems are extremely hard to solve by sourself. And not saying that go to AA, but maybe a psychiatrich, doctor etc. There are many ways to deal with problems. Professionals will hand you many options on how to solve your broplems. All you need to do, is go and ask Stay strong, don't let alcohol ruin your personality.

 

[Tjerk12]

The previous posts gave you enough sensible information dear Etilit. The only thing I can add is how I solved my drinking problem. When I was young I was a heavy drinker. Actually it didn’t bother me much, because it seemed to be a normal part of life in those days (smoking and drinking). But getting older it started to bother me. But whatever I tried, it didn’t help. Until I took the initiative to search for the reason, as SenorZeus advised. So I started to do what I always do in times of trouble. I started to talk with that guy I see in the mirror. And together we discovered that the real reason was that I wanted to flee from reality. I hated the society strings that were directing my movements. Be successful, be smart, be good looking, be assertive, and so on. My heart should be the helmsman, not the society where everybody does what is expected from him. Step by step (little steps) I started to change. And I dare to say that I am free now. I don’t give a damn what others think of me. Not that I do not consider others; I see no reason to offend them, but I let my life no longer be determined by others. It has not helped my business career; I could have been rather wealthy with my abilities. Now I am poor, but an incredible happy person. When you are able to let your heart speak it is surprising how easy you can make contact with people.
I did it my way; you have to do it your way. There is no such a thing as a common recipe. But good talks with your reflection in the mirror will cause no harm. At least you don’t have to feel shame.

 

[Urban]

I don't know what your relationship status is, but if you have a partner or even a very close friend, talk to them about it. My partner of 30 years is an alcoholic, and neither of us has the slightest doubt that he would be dead now if it weren't for me.

That's not patting myself on the back; what I'm saying is that it's the kind of problem that benefits immensely from support. AA did absolutely nothing for him, because despite what they profess, they are most definitely a religion-based organization.

There is a non-religious group called Secular Organizations for Sobriety (SOS); where we live we could not find a group nearby at the time (20 years ago), but if you Google it you may find something near you.

Tkerk12, I very much admire you for doing it on your own, and I don't want to start an argument with you, but there is a difference between heavy drinking and alcoholism; the former is primarily psychological, the latter is a physical addiction.

I am NOT a health professional, so no one should take my word as truth, but I'm guessing that you, elitit, are more like Tjerk12 & tonka, a heavy drinker; still, getting help from someone or some external source can be a huge help.

 

[etilit]

thanks for your thoughts and encouragement all my love to you allC:C

Ive been thinking about this for a while now...and i think i just don't have anyone around that i have to be sober for i live alone..work alone..and have no one and I'm getting old and don't think i ever will!!! I'm lazy too lol

i think all in all im just bored with my life

i drink so i can go to sleep i know that seems simple..but its just what i want to do i even take sleeping pills when im still drunk

but now i can feel its no longer mental but a physical addiction

and still im not sure if im gona do anything about it:worried:

 

[BigBenni]

Well if you can't sleep without the combination between drugs/alcohol I think this sounds serious and needs help of course.

:no: But please don't mix up sleeping pills with alcohol!!! :no:

That really can damage your body and nobody wants that you sleep the eternal sleep!!

In case of sleeping I know exactly what you mean because I'm an insomniac.

I also like to drink a tasty brandy or sometimes even a whiskey before I go to bed. Sometimes that helps but I never would combine sleeping pills with that

All the best wishes are with you and please keep us informed about it!

 

[gb2000ie]

Jeebus - be VERY careful mixing downers with alcohol - that's really dangerous stuff

I really think you should go see your doctor and have this conversation with him or her. Believing you'll never meet anyone is the best self-fulfilling prophesy out there. You believe you won't so you set yourself up not to.

B.

 

[bigsal]

thanks for your thoughts and encouragement all my love to you allC:C

Ive been thinking about this for a while now...and i think i just don't have anyone around that i have to be sober for i live alone..work alone..and have no one and I'm getting old and don't think i ever will!!! I'm lazy too lol

i think all in all im just bored with my life

i drink so i can go to sleep i know that seems simple..but its just what i want to do i even take sleeping pills when im still drunk

but now i can feel its no longer mental but a physical addiction

and still im not sure if im gona do anything about it:worried:

Hey friend, do not do stupid things,

between the lines I read a message of resignation.

I hope I am wrong.

You are the most controversial I've followed so far, but it's not a criticism. is a compliment.

Quitting drinking is a decision or choice that you have to do it alone.

I can only tell you that, even if only virtually, you are near.

Stretch out a hand, there is always someone willing to help.

The most difficult part of an adventure is not to start, but decide to start.

With the open heart, bs