Kids are stronger than you believe
The issue you raised, is indeed an important one and is part of my daily routine because I have three children and a husband. First two are from different mothers (not adopted) and the last one was made by artificial insemination with my dude's sperms and my best sandbox friend willingness
Which makes us a complete little family, Me, Alex, the Children and my best friend living under the same roof. Yes the house is big LOL. At first my children wasn't living with us, it was only me and Alex in a big empty house. But because I had the means to carry on their education the mothers (without judges) agreed to let both of them move in with us (the children asked for it). And that's then a great adventure of parenting has begun. I am a very young dad (at 36 yo). My daughter is 16 and my son is 11 and the last one is 4 months old. We're the coolest dad ever according to my children and yes we are SO gay, So sexual and so hot (at least Alex is LOL), Alex will turn 26 in August. Because I don't like drama the mother can visit their kids anytime... they all have a key to our house and they can even stay at our place for a limited time. Life doesn't have to be complicated and that's my motto.
So yes the first years have been difficult because my son would come home crying because some kids made fun of him because he was living in a home where he has two dads. And that those two dads were fucking each other in the ass. There's one thing I will never permit and it's for my kid being miserable for our choices of lifestyle. We therefore arranged a meeting in the auditorium of the school where Alex and I prepared an expose for the whole school on gay awareness. Parents were also invited... but here it is, I'm from a rich and powerful family (and I'm loaded myself) and I have a very very fighter type of temperament, while the expose was very polite and civilized, anyone knew that in between the words there was threat of being sued if ever my kid was coming home crying again. If some parents or kids didn't capture the threat the school sure did
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When my son started making friends and bring them home, he was then armed by friends whom witness that having two dads wasn't much different of having a mom and a dad; if he was doing something wrong, he was punished, just like any kids he had to sit after school and do his homework, he had little fight with his sister just like a normal family. His friend realized quickly that there wasn't much difference from their home to ours. The parents were the issue, when someday my son came home from a friend of his and their parents ('mostly the dad) forbid his son to ever set foot in our house again because we were a gay couple... NOT IN MY FUCKING LIFE. I took the car threw my son in and drove to that dad (I'm really really not scared of people), the dad and I had a serious discussion and he realized that I was just like him a dad, that just like him I was worried about the well being of my children. And I explained to him that being gay isn't necessary a genetic thing, where the boy will automatically be gay because his dad is. No matter what science is saying about it... scientists can be wrong sometimes. I should know I am one.
We invited the family to our house so they could see for themselves in what kind of environment his son was exposed when he comes to our place. To his surprised he saw that there was not just one, but two kids (the latest one wasn't born yet), he met Alex and realize that Alex wasn't the stereotypical effeminate gay dude that he thought he might have been... he saw a house that was well maintain without any big pictures of naked men in the living room. He was reassured and let his kid come home again.
At last we became good neighbors and good friends too, but yes I had to educate them, to make them realize that if their son turns gay it's not because we shove it in his head. My son so far isn't gay, he likes girls a lot, but being in a very open minded environment, I wouldn't be surprise that he would do some experimentation, but which kids didn't. Which kids didn't play the age old game of pissing further, some kids would masturbate together, this is all part of growing up. I did it, and while I became bisexual my friends didn't but they do no refutes their experiences.
EDUCATE EDUCATE EDUCATE that's all you can do, and yes there's bullies, and sometimes my son comes home crying again because he has been tossed around... I don't wait, and I ask my son to tell me each and every time. And wanna know how bad I can be if you fuck around with my son, here's a little story about three 6 grader making fun of my son. The school is really close to our house, and the six grader was always following him after school trying to steal his cash or just tease him. I have hired 2 bodyguards and place them at an intersection... they were dressed like security agent and they scared the shit out of the kids because they presented themselves like the anti-bullies squad and that they were putting them under arrest. All this was a setup and I had their parents in the loop (they didn't know what to do) I found the solution. We got them locked up in a police station jail for a day. Up to this day, I had no problem with these kids. Sure I have financial resources, but I'll do it for any other kids that are being bullied, no matter if they are gay or not.
ented a lot of reading on this topic.
