loneliness.....need sugestions...

[Shinistera]

again a rainy day....and i feel alone...all i want to do now is cuddle up with ""the boyfriend"" which doesn't exist... lay in bed and relax....maybe watch a movie...and play with the hair on his body..................................

and then i snap out of the dream and realize i'm alone...this fucked up country is full of people who just want the carnal pleasures of the body...and nothing more...
sometimes i'm thinking i'm the only one left around here that will not sucb to the trivial 1night stands....i can't be satisfied with only that....it is not enough for me...

meeehh.. what do you guys think...what do you like to do? what do you guys expect from a boy....are u pro the flings or pro relationships....that are more than just sex...?


ow and ...this is me....

 

[parucci]

Can I ask.. what country are you from?

 

[Shinistera]

Romania........

 

[Tjerk12]

It is not easy to guide one’s life into the desired direction. People where the fried chickens fly into their mouth are really an exception. Furthermore, a lot of things are based on chance. But you are able to help chance a bit. I don’t know anything about your social life, but it helps to take part of social life. Meet people, make friends (and not only gay) and visit pubs where the music is not fucking loud, so you are able to talk to people. Have the courage to walk on unknown roads, do new things. You are good looking and have beautiful eyes, so your looks can’t be an obstacle. And finally one of the most important things is that you should have the courage to tell others how you feel about them and what your intentions are. Loneliness can be a self-constructed prison of which you own the key to open the door.

 

[bigsal]

I agree with Tjerk

Loneliness is a prison.

Only you can open his door and run away from it.

 

[Remote]

Agree with Tjerk - in order to gain your freedom, you must take steps to bring solutions into reach. Place yourself in a position to meet new people (at the gym, at a juice bar, etc), whatever you do - spend 50% less time @ your computer, and dedicate that same time to places that are well attended - and you will see that loneliness has actually always been "a choice", even if you weren't aware of it

 

[Remote]

@ bigsal - that's a SEXY AVATAR - who is it??

 

[Shinistera]

well thanks for the replies Tjerk.....about my social life....i am a very social person...i like to go out with friend and meet new people very much....im very outgoing...i go to pubs / clubs and stuff....but the fact is that in romania the 99% of gay's are just looking for sex...and they tell u that from the start or they lie to get u in bed...(tough they rarely have good lies so i catch them early on).... so...its not like im just staying in the house hooked up to the computer..... i just dont wanna go and fuck with whoever and change men like socks....
dunno ...anyway...as i was chatting with a friend of mine....he was saying something good and that change is a good thing....
so i'm gonna start a new workout program...to get even more fit( tough i find that i look very good even now *blush* )..... i'm doing it for myself not so people can drool more on me....i want to have a healthy body...and i like to take care of myself...so well maybe putting more energy in another thing for me will do the trick....

 

[etilit]

nice pic...pro me i cant do anything for u or anyone else so no sence in anything else..take care of u

 

[Dendood]

Shinistera, You're a pretty attractive, young fellow. So it would follow that you'd bring out the carnal desires in other men. -I guess I never imagined being attractive as a source for loneliness. The Universe moves in mysterious ways...

I have never been to Romania, so I can't offer much on how to proceed. You may have a very different culture than here in the U.S. So the best I can do (anyone really) is offer ballpark suggestions and observations.

One, the bar scene -if that's where you've been looking- is not the best place to meet significant others, friends or lovers. Try the coffee shop next to the bar. Or a gay organization or activity that is closer to things you like and value. That way, you'd meet guys who might generally share those likes and values. Always a great way to 'hit it off'.

Play hard to get. If a guy is willing to play along, either you're wayyyyy hotter than you think, or he's into you for reasons beyond a quick nut. Offer up enough 'fun' to keep 'em interested, but be up front and say, "I'd like to know you some before we do the deed."

Don't play hard to get. -Meaning, don't have a hard and fast laundry list of expectations of what your lover has to be. Sure, you have to be attracted to him so some of the list is bound to be met... but I've met a slew of guys who have impossible expectations of what they want from a lover. They go on and on about this thing, or that. Never once mentioning the deeper stuff.... complimenting each other.

Don't give up completely on the guys that don't work. It can be useful to hang out with someone and work their friends. You might find a diamond in the rough in the most unexpected places. In fact, I'm a firm believer that it's when you're not expecting it- you find love.

So don't try so hard searching for a lover. Just be a loving person in as many, varied social environments as you can. Your positive energy out into the Universe will be just the lure for some nice guy to sweep you off your feet. Fill your heart with love.

And in the meanwhile, don't knock the sex. Being attractive as you are is a nice thing to share. Just share it with someone nice.