Well, there are a lot of sections on this forum. Maybe a GayHeaven/Grindr section would help? Heck, you might even have guys making their own porn.
In terms of hooking up, I am way out of the loop. Many years on the internet, but only 2 hookups. One on Gay.com. Not a deeply enriching experience, but passable. And the other, I got to meet my hero of heroes, JBoots... in Chicago... during ILM. That man is SO gorgeous... but he found me too 'vanilla' and told me to stay away. :-(
Third time's the charm?
What say thee, middle of life, middle of the country, Chicago suburban area dudes???