Need suggestion about racism

[pwycymru]

Dear anyone who would like to give me your valuable suggestion/opinion

I'm an Asian lad and an international student who live alone in a private flat, so I've no friend in my city. Moreover, I must stay in this lovely country at least 5 years for my study. This make me wanna know others and start to use some dating websites. My main intention is to make friend/relationship ,not for having fun.

I do not provide any picture of myself in those websites but I explain everything which I need/expect (including providing information that I'm Asian and looking for friendship)

Some people contacted me and wanna see my picture, so I sent them what they want. The result I received are
(1) some people never response me again --- I understand this point because I would not be their type or something like that.
but (2) some people reply me with rude/impolite language and refer to my ethinic origin.

I do not mind if they do not wanna make friend with me. But my question is that I'm a human who need friend, relationship, and socialisation as same as they are but why they are racism and do such that behaviour to me. This situation discourage me so much.

Honestly, I just wanna make friend. I've found that it is very difficult to find (real) friends in other country because I'm a local and have different cultural background. (I think some people who have been in other country would face the same situation like me)

If you have any suggestion/opinion, would you let me know, please.
And how would I find real friends who do not mind that I'm and Asian?

Thank you very much.

Puisnoop

 

[mark_63]

I would think that anyone who makes a racial comment after you have explained yourself is worth not knowing and your lucky not to meet them.
Most universities have some form of a gay alliance group and it might be a better way to meet others interested in social interaction and not just a sexual romp. Many major cities also have gay community centers/alliances where you might find social groups that can help you.
Good luck in both your studies and your search for companionship!

 

[bloop2]

Uhnm... HIIi! I CAN USE MORE GAY FRIENDS!! lol all my friends are girls and some boy but the more the merrier right?! Ps. where might you be residing? .. uhh by the way you had mentioned lad.. maybe ireland? LOL Not sure lol haha im in toronto if your in my area msg me !

 

[jw4833]

I totally agree with Mark63, if anyone you meet has to reply to you with racial comments, then I too feel that they are not worth meeting and not worth the time. Personally for me, race is not an issue. The way I see it, "an asshole is a asshole" in every race there is one so don't look at your situation as being unfortunate, look at it as a blessing that they showed their "true color" over the internet and not in person.

 

[XMan101]

Sadly people can be like that, especially when it's anonymous. They forget there is a human being at the other end.

Don't let a few bad replies get you down, for every bad one there will be many more who don't feel like that, but it's those that hurt most and are probably remembered.

If you're in one of the big cities in Wales, as I imagine you are, then you will meet some friends , give it a little time, but you should find others at your Uni that will be supportive and friendly. Being away from your natural surroundings is always a bit daunting until you find your feet. Maybe there are others on here from Wales

It's a fact unfortunately but different parts of the UK can react differently towards other races, like anywhere else in the world, but don't give up ! I'm quite sure you'll have friends before you know it, and you'll make at least some online friends here who'll always be able to help with advice

 

[DJCyrus81]

I myself am Asian, but i've never been told such impolite words in what country are you from?

 

[pwycymru]

Thanx everyone for your comments.

Yesterday, I used one local chatting website. One Australian guy told me that he also face the same problem as me. He often receive impolite feedback from some people in the chatting room just because he is Australian---not the locals.

This time, I've learned that this would be a situation which people may, sometimes, face.
All of you are really correct. Those bad people are not worth to talk with!

And I realise that even I cannot find any friend in my area, at least most people in this website are really friendly and I feel comfortable to stay in this website.

Glad to talk to you and thank you very much everyone.

P.S. @ bloop2 : I stay in Cardiff, Wales. This time I still do not know how different between boys and lads. But most people in this country use lads rather than boys. I'm quite confused !?!?
@ DJCyrus81 : I'm from Thailand. The land of smile la la la. It is normal for Thai people to give a smile to others. But one of my classmate tell me that some people may think I would be crazy!?!?

 

[sephreniax2]

I think what you need is a little Avenue Q

 

[gayguy21in]

hi, I understand how you can feel.. I am a south asian...and have had a couple of rude comments posted back to me.. but more so, when I have refused to meet someone for sex.
but always remember people are different and there are, for every few weirdos out there thankfully there are lots of nice people out there.
keep your spirits up, am sure you will find lots of great friends in a very short time. Till then, treat GH as your favurite site.. the guys on here are absolutely amazing..which am sure you have already discovered from all the supportive responses you have been getting.

relax and have a nice time and you will soon discover the people that truly care about you.

 

[jon13lee]

Wow I'm sorry that happened to you, but in this world, there are people who are like that. It technically works for you because you don't have to meet people like them. There are a lot of other places to meet friends who are not judgmental. As you said, you're a student. I won't be surprised if your school has a gay/straight alliance organization. That would be one great place to meet new people. All I have to say is...don't give up because you meet some jackasses online. There are plenty of awesome people out there.

 

[Tjerk12]

It is really a shame that gay people do such things. They should know what it means to be discriminated. I have no problem with religion, color of skin or whatever. And even when I dislike a person, I must be aware of the restrictions of my thoughts.
When I studied the easiest way to make contact were the cultural and sports clubs on the university. When people share interests, barriers vanish automatically.
I visited Wales twice. You can compare the people with the region I live here in The Netherlands. Not easy to make contact, but when you succeed you will find real friends, who support you when you are in trouble.
Wish you all the best. And you are totally right, most people in Gay Heaven are angels.
A big hug,
Tjerk.

 

[pwycymru]

Thankx everyone for your support.

Because I'm very new for dating site, so during 2 weeks ago I wasted much of my time in the websites. I've found that people on internet were not quite sincere.
In my profile, I state my clear intention that I'm looking for friendship/relationship and do not want 1-night stand. Moreover, I define my ethnic background very clear and state that "contact me only when you want to know me, please". And because I want to make friend so all message I send/reply contain only polite language"

I've found that 90% of people who contacted me first, did not contact me again after chatting 2 - 3 messages. (All of these happened after I answered them where I originally come from). I do not believe that this would happen to me, but it happened. Or I was just unlucky.
However, the rest 10% were good because they replied me politely that they do not want to make friend with me.

This time, I think I should go to meet people in university's LGBT group soon. And I really agree with Tjerk that people in this website are very good. I know that when I have no way to go, I can come back to meet nice people here.

Thankx very much.

Puisnoop