[OPEN TOPIC] A doorway to the past...

[JonnyFantastico]

I love making up these questions for the Forum. I hope you guys enjoy them as well and I'm not annoying the holy f*ck out of you all... LOL I truly do enjoy your standpoints on these subjects outside of the porn world. You guys all seem to have some great minds on you!

So, here's the new question I've come up with (I actually am probably going to do one of these once a week; kind of like a "topic of the week" thing. Let me know what you all think of that, BTW. ):

So, let's say by some oddity in the world (a wish from a genie; a doorway through time, etc.), you were able to teleport yourself back in time to a point where in life; you may not have had the same mental strengths and beliefs you have now.

If you could share one piece of carnal knowledge or advice with your younger self; whether it was based on love, sex or anything else, what would you say to yourself? Would you say anything at all and allow yourself to grow up as is or would you change something to eliminate a possible regret your younger self (and in truth, your current self) has gone through?

OK, guys. Answers up. And of course, I will add my answer a bit later on (just a warning: my answer is a bit on the sentimental and emotional side, so forgive me beforehand). Enjoy!


Hugs,

Jonny Fantastico

 

[stanyy]

ok ill play jonny, even thou id rather you answer first, hihihihi lol

if i could tell my younger self something to help in life it would be this:

stop thinking so much, and start feeling all the wonderful world has to offer, including but not limited to, go out with friends more, make more friends, do whatever you want, and dont worry what others will think (because the truth is they arnt even thinking that much about you, only about themselves most of the time) be open to all things, never close off an open door, work hard and live below your means, save money...lol

and get laid as much as you can and be safe doing it

i could go on but i wont lol

 

[intensepump]

don't get tied down, live free and really pursue your dreams..
smoke more pot and enjoy it
stop humping everything in sight...sex 10 times a day really is a problem...

Oh it wouldn't work...I was and am too damn stubborn to listen to anyone, including myself...

 

[brmstn69]

Buy stock in Microsoft!!!

 

[XMan101]

Just to stick a spanner in the works Would you actually listen ? Did you listen as much to anyone when you were younger? I suspect most of us would have carried on as normal & any advice would be, maybe not totally forgotten, but perhaps ignored quickly rather than really acted upon.

The other thing is, if you did change your younger self you wouldn't be the person you are now, you wouldn't have had all the experiences that make you more understanding - therefore you wouldn't go back with the advice in the first place, hence creating a paradox LOL

I read a lot of science fiction in my younger days !!

 

[JonnyFantastico]

LOL @ XMan... this isn't a "Butterfly Effect" thing... just something to think about and ponder. It's OK, I sort of get science fiction, too... but you took it to a whole new level...

It's not about whether or not you would listen... for this, let's assume your younger self would listen. NOW... what would you want to say to them?

 

[brmstn69]

Just to stick a spanner in the works Would you actually listen ? Did you listen as much to anyone when you were younger? I suspect most of us would have carried on as normal & any advice would be, maybe not totally forgotten, but perhaps ignored quickly rather than really acted upon.

When I was young I knew everything , so why wouldn't I listen to myself?

 

[stanyy]

When I was young I knew everything , so why wouldn't I listen to myself?

because just like me, you thought you knew everything, so i never listened to anyone, i was to smart, i knew better...what a joke!!!

perhaps i should have said: LISTEN to everyone, and think about what they say, and try to understand...lol

 

[JonnyFantastico]

Oh, how I was dreading avoiding this topic; which makes it funny since I'm the one that started it. LOL

Alright..

If by some weird tremor of the world I was able to communicate to a younger version of myself, I would only want to make one point clear:

"You are more beautiful than you could possibly imagine. Do not let anyone take your light away..."

OK. Quick background on my life: growing up wasn't easy for me. Not only did I live in a pretty rough neighborhood, I had a tendency to be bullied, picked on, laughed at and anything else under the sun for many different reasons: not being "hard" enough, not following the stereotypical norm of people around me, my skin color, etc. I found myself alone quite a bit in my room; usually in tears or wishing I was a different person. Even people I considered "close friends" could be pretty cruel to yours truly and for a long while, I felt like I was nothing.

It was only as I started to hit that ripe old age of 18 that I realized my own self-worth. I didn't have to follow anyone's rule of what was "normal". I loved reading, listening to music, using PROPER English when I talked and apparently, I wasn't that ugly since I got my share of sex as a teenager. I didn't have to sell out or be something I wasn't just to make someone else happy or cool about being around me.

Even at 27 years of age, I still find myself doubting my actions and looks every once in a while. But I find solace in knowing that I truly am a good person and that there are people out there who love me as I am and wouldn't want me to change at all...

It took a while to get to this point in my life, but it feels good now.

 

[TexasGuy]

This is a good question and quite complex on so many levels. I really can't say I would tell my younger self anything at all. Not that I would listen anyway. Looking back, I see things that happened that I didn't like happening at the time, but in essence they've made me who I am today. I'm the product of all my life's experiences, and quite frankly, I like who I am today.

 

[XMan101]

Oh, how I was dreading avoiding this topic; which makes it funny since I'm the one that started it. LOL

Alright..

If by some weird tremor of the world I was able to communicate to a younger version of myself, I would only want to make one point clear:

"You are more beautiful than you could possibly imagine. Do not let anyone take your light away..."

OK. Quick background on my life: growing up wasn't easy for me. Not only did I live in a pretty rough neighborhood, I had a tendency to be bullied, picked on, laughed at and anything else under the sun for many different reasons: not being "hard" enough, not following the stereotypical norm of people around me, my skin color, etc. I found myself alone quite a bit in my room; usually in tears or wishing I was a different person. Even people I considered "close friends" could be pretty cruel to yours truly and for a long while, I felt like I was nothing.

It was only as I started to hit that ripe old age of 18 that I realized my own self-worth. I didn't have to follow anyone's rule of what was "normal". I loved reading, listening to music, using PROPER English when I talked and apparently, I wasn't that ugly since I got my share of sex as a teenager. I didn't have to sell out or be something I wasn't just to make someone else happy or cool about being around me.

Even at 27 years of age, I still find myself doubting my actions and looks every once in a while. But I find solace in knowing that I truly am a good person and that there are people out there who love me as I am and wouldn't want me to change at all...

It took a while to get to this point in my life, but it feels good now.

You know, I'd guess you wouldn't feel that way if someone had given you a short cut. Life is pain, and getting through that makes you tougher and helps you learn to deal with it far more than some advice on the side.

As a metaphor, some high qualified student gets a job in a high place in a business. What does he or she know about what goes on at the bottom, in the nitty gritty work-face. Nothing, because they haven't experienced it, so any managerial judgements are made from a hypothosis / good-on-paper view point without any real sense of what it's like.

Same in life - so I doubt I'd give my younger self any advice. You develop from your experiences.

Interesting topic - enjoy your conversation pieces

 

[RefixnarcisM]

This is interesting. Not to dwell in the past, just a thing for fun and a little bit of reminiscence maybe.
I might gonna say: you are tougher than what you look like, fight back! dont be afraid of bullying because they are just jealous by what you had. Be proud of yourself, never hiding in the corner, put your head high. Its okay to be different, because that making you special. Never let go any chances. Its better to do it then disappoint later than never do anything. Follow your dreams, because no one know you better than yourself.

 

[jw4833]

If I could go back in time to my younger self, I would tell him:

1. Do not go out of your way to please people in order to keep their "friendship" because if they considered you to be a genuine friend, you would not have to go through such formalities. True friendship is not brought or manipulated, its a real thing...

2. In the same mold, do not try to buy your mother and the remaining members of your immediate family's love because your mother broke her promise to you and told the whole family that you were GAY. Due to the horrible things and the disowning me as a member of the family, my younger self tried to buy their love with expensive gifts and money. My younger self was really hurt and felt ashamed when he was not invited to family holiday dinners or family gatherings. Now, although, my older self is still not accepted within the immediate family circle, he has made a fulfilling life for himself and embraced the individual he has become and does not give a sh**t about not being around family anymore. In fact, the "kid" has learned to love himself and doing well for himself.

 

[jeansGuyOZ]

The other thing is, if you did change your younger self you wouldn't be the person you are now, you wouldn't have had all the experiences that make you more understanding - therefore you wouldn't go back with the advice in the first place, hence creating a paradox LOL

I read a lot of science fiction in my younger days !!

So did I, and I still do! I was bothered by this very same thing. There is a thing called the grandfather paradox...

As for sharing a bit of "carnal knowledge" with myself, as suggested by Johnny, that seems a bit intimate, even if it is my younger self.

If I did somehow manage to travel back through time to the late 1960s, I think rather than molesting my teenage self and risking generating wholesale paradoxes in the fabric of space-time, I'd go shopping and bring back tons of tight 1960s-style jeans.

Come to think of it, money might be a problem though. The money was different; I'd likely get arrested for trying to pass off forged currency. No ATMs either - and if there were I'd staill have to find a way to put money in the account. I'd have to take back something to sell or barter, or else stay a while and get a job, find a place to live, etc. Suddenly the whole idea isn't sounding so attractive.