Rant (Would not mind advice)

[ickkck]

Well so I live in Chicago and I go out all the time and party with friends and I just never get hit on. I really don't think I'm that ugly (Joke.Kinda.Haha.Now I have to attach a picture) Don't get me wrong I have had my share of fucking and making out with strangers and stuff in the past but I'm the one that has to go for it. I love a challenge but just feel very unattractive at times because I have to work for it. I'm usually the one that initiates things because that's just who I am but I would love someone with big enough balls to come up to me and just make a move. But what do I do in order for that to happen? I don't even think there is anything I can do different because I smile and laugh all the time and can make friends very easily and nothing. I'm kinda looking for this big love story but do they even exist nowadays? I guess the big thing I'm ranting about is being alone when I have so much to give. I've been in two relationships before (doesn't matter about the number, I know, what matters is the experience and finding what you really want and growing from it.) they both broke up with me giving me bullshit reasons and both have tried getting me back multiple times and it's bullshit because there was always back/forth on/off type relationship and I would usually give in and give it a try because I wanted to be in a relationship so bad and I was really just settling. Damn this was suppose to be a simple post just so I could click on the thank you button and download my porn haha well anyway I'll leave it at this and thanks for reading.

P.S.
This post is probably all over the place (just like my thoughts) so I apologize for that

P.P.S. The internet online dating thing. Not for me.

 

[smallsleepyrascalcat]

Have you ever thought about being too good looking?
The fact is, you ARE good looking, rather hot when I look at the attached picture.
So maybe people are afraid to get rejected when they start to move towards you.
I heard of that before.
People see someone attractive and instead of taking the initiative, they think "You won't succeed, he's too hot for you".
So it's not that you were to unattractive... it might be completely different

I know it's a shitty answer, but don't expect to much from a virgin with relationship-phobia

 

[Irishman25]

WOW
could i make a move?

 

[bloop2]

awww ickkck you're adorable <3

 

[jw4833]

Well in fact, I've been told that I am too attractive and because I keep up my appearance at all times and is very anal in regards to clean hygiene..this has also been a problem with me as well...I'm not arrogant or conceited, I just have pride in how I present myself. Just over the holiday weekend, a guy told me that he liked me but I was too intimidating for him to be around..I've had several long term relationships within my life and those guys I felt were very attractive and well groomed...so apparently their traits rubbed off on me as well..this behaviour used to bother me..however, now it doesn't, I just feel they are not man enough for me...just my opinion..good luck...but I think you are cute..not unattractive if this helps...

 

[jer468]

First off, don't worry about it.

There's OBVIOUSLY nothing wrong with you that we can see so maybe your moment just hasn't happened. And worrying about your appearance just doesn't make sense, because the last thing that you want is somebody who has fallen in love with you because of your looks. Just don't be vain because that inevitably rubs people the wrong way.

I have spent almost my whole life single ... i would be considered good looking (for my advancing years), i'm smart, i have a good job, am charismatic, own a house, am in great shape, read a ton and yadda yadda yadda. But I seldom feel more lonely than when I'm in a relationship.

If you like yourself you can wait forever. Just make sure that when the moment comes (and it likely will) that the guy you catch is as good a catch as are you.

 

[ickkck]

Thanks

Thanks Guys there was a lot of good thoughts on the topic and kinda don't know where to begin with some of the compliments and ideas so jumping around:


I don't mind going out on my own or with just one friend but the big reason I go out is to have a good time and that happens because of the people I am surrounded by. Many times I even add more people to the group because I believe the more the merrier haha


I don't think I'm hot but thanks to the people that said I was. With that said I am nowhere near stuck up nor am I a pretty boy like that. However I have been told sometimes that I don't look as friendly as I really am. Which is just funny to me because I have no idea where that comes from or how people get that vibe but I'm trying to figure it out in order to change that haha.


I have talked to some of my friends that know about my 'dilemma' and they have told me that many people can be shy and afraid of rejection and at times yeah I find myself scared and shy and self-conscious too but the way I see it: You only live once (well maybe reincarnation but I mean once as in right now lol) you have to live your life the way you want to and take chances and just aim for happiness not having regrets because at the end of the day going to sleep with a smile on your face because of the days events is a great feeling


Since I was younger I could make friends with anyone and had many friends but I always felt alone. I had an older brother and when he died I felt he left me alone and then I had no one. Given, I have two sisters and my mom and dad but no one to hang out with and do boy stuff and just feel that I had an older brother to take care of me and protect me and that's pretty much what I'm looking for in someone. No, I'm not selfish I want to take care of someone too haha but I just mean someone who would stick up for me (not that I can't do that for myself but it's different when someone does it for you.)


Well sorry if I missed saying something about a question but I have class and already running late but comment again and will answer. Thanks again guys this helps.


And to the one that said can you make a move.. was that it? haha

 

[jw4833]

Your welcome..anytime...I can give a lot of advice on this subject matter...

 

[BugsyB]

hmmm, sounds to me like your looking for someone like yourself ickkck dont be suprised if you dont find him...after all...we are all diffrent lol

 

[ickkck]

I'm not looking for myself because I definitely know we're all different; however, there may be some certain traits that could possibly match with my personality. Yes, I've heard opposites attract, I'm ok with that, but I wouldn't mind someone who knows what they want and goes for it; that's a feature in myself that I'm hoping to find in someone else as well. Many couples are alike in many ways and very different in others it's never easy.

 

[Askani]

LOL... Really I think u're pretty damn cute, but u're dont have that "one night stand" looking going on, u're more like the date and take home type to me, so I totally understand that u're not seen as the fast food when you go out... I usually go more for ur type, the one who have fun with friends, laugh, do silly things to enjoy the time rather than the tanned, shirtless, poser guy with the sunglasses that wont even move too much so that he wont sweat or change a single hair out of place... Dude, there's nothing wrong with u, seriously. It's not that u're different... but what I see is that u have a bit more than the rest... personality maybe? Some ppl fear that ;x