Real BDSM curiosity

[Otage]

So I've been talking with this guy who has a pretty impressive arsenal: toys, nipple clams, gas masks, ropes and other bondage stuff, whips and the whole thing. And there would be a bossibility to try them out on him, and I'm kinda intruiged I have done some kinky stuff before like little spanking, sock and shoe fetish, rape fantasy and rough action, and I have realized that some things you think you will like because of porn, you don't like in real life and vise versa.

And we've been having some sexy scenario chatting, and I would definetly know how to use them the way he would really really like, and the idea is kinda hot, but not sure about the reality. Do we have any experienced people, any good advices, thoughts?

And ofc with "strangers" causion is always important, to let somebody know where you are and with whom. I usually find out the adress and name by phone number and see if it matches info his giving. So advices about the act And I wont let him tie me up! But after I've tied him, should I empty his apartment after or before sex?:rofl:

 

[topdog]

BDSM can look scary and intimidating from afar, but at its core it's just play. It's the same kind of thing you did when you were five years old and pretended to be a soldier, cowboy, or Barbra Streisand in Hello, Dolly!. (Oh wait, maybe that was just me.)

It's like good acting or improvisation, where the actors are really listening to each other letting that guide the scene "in the moment", rather than having a predefined script. That's the key to its power - go where your partner is going and see what that brings out in you.

Porn can give you ideas for starting points, but that's all. Where it goes from there should come out of the two of you. As the top you will be steering the scene, but take your direction from what turns on you partner. Not everything is going to hit the erotic bulls eye, but that's OK. Take another direction find what works.

 

[Otage]

BDSM can look scary and intimidating from afar, but at its core it's just play. It's the same kind of thing you did when you were five years old and pretended to be a soldier, cowboy, or Barbra Streisand in Hello, Dolly!. (Oh wait, maybe that was just me.)

It's like good acting or improvisation, where the actors are really listening to each other letting that guide the scene "in the moment", rather than having a predefined script. That's the key to its power - go where your partner is going and see what that brings out in you.

Porn can give you ideas for starting points, but that's all. Where it goes from there should come out of the two of you. As the top you will be steering the scene, but take your direction from what turns on you partner. Not everything is going to hit the erotic bulls eye, but that's OK. Take another direction find what works.

Very well put. Actually clarified a lot, cause I didn't really have an idea how to think about the thing, but yeah, it's basicly a play, act. Thanks:thumbs up:

And maybe it was just you...

 

[HustleMe15]

OMG, I have done quite a bit of BDSM. I was nervous as hell the first time, but when I got into it as the bottom I was getting so much pleasure out of it my heart nearly pounded out of my chest. But yea, sometimes can get WAY intimidating when you see all the stuff that a guy has and wants to use on you. Whew, my cock gets like super hard.

 

[Otage]

Yeah well it went allright. Some of it was hot, some of it was not, but now I know I mean nothing was bad, but somethings felt more funny than hot, but I kept my cool Usually I have no sense of situation..:rofl: