Its VERY hot either way, as barneyj said. :cheers:
My favorite "quickie" way to
: passionate makeout session, flip my man over, give him a quick savage rim, then ram his butt crack until I spill all over it. All the fun and power play of a fuck, with none of the prep time or potential mess. Especially hot when done to a man who over-identifies as "exclusively top" - they're nervous at first, then when they realize you aren't going to attempt penetration they often get REALLY into it. I can see and feel so much tension draining from their bodies, they LOVE letting go of control while still feeling "safe".
I enjoy being on the receiving end almost as much, but that rarely happens since no one but me ever thinks to initiate it. Perhaps because its really just a variation of frottage, and in recent years everyone seems to assume frot "isn't real sex," so its fallen off the radar for most gays. Too bad, as it allows some playful experimentation in sexual psychology that might not occur otherwise.