Sex with the one you love!

[Kick-Ass]

Hi guys :heart:

I'm homosexual...In both of my sexual orientation and emotional orientation

My love is cute lovely boy...I love him...definitely love him

But the problem is,I really don't like to have sex with my love,I just want's to love him,hug him,kiss him...but never liked to have sex with him! I cant even imagine that we having sex with each other!!!

So...What do you think?...Is there anything wrong? does anyone else feel the same way with his or her homo love?

 

[alexfot55]

Perhaps later on when your relationship matures sex will come. Believe me it is a wonderful thing.

 

[jw4833]

I have to say that after reading your post, it made me wonder if by chance this is your first bf and probably your initial acceptance as well as embracing your sexuality also. Then I started to wonder if by chance have you ever had sexual intercourse with a man and perhaps you feel at this time if you did, you may not satisfy him and your mind is blocked at the thought of being inexperience, you could lose him altogether. On the other hand, if I happen to be wrong with the above analogy, then I would say, if he is happy as you are with not exploring your sexual relationship to another level ..then I say why worry..enjoy the moment..and deal with the other when it presents itself..

 

[ThatGayForum]

Perhaps later on when your relationship matures sex will come. Believe me it is a wonderful thing.

If it doesn't feel right, you definitely shouldn't do it. As others have said, perhaps once after the relationship develops it will feel right.
Just out of curiosity, how old are you?

 

[Casanova]

No.. There is nothing wrong with it. In fact, I'd be more worried if you were in a relationship and weren't really interested in intimate moments, like kissing and hugging.

The most important factor is that you love him, and from what I can gather, you do love him. The only question I got is, is your boyfriend also on the same wave-length as you with regards to love and sex? Because if he is looking for more than just the kisses and hugs, some sacrifices should be made!

And I think it is critical that you two discuss this or else you're going to have a really complicated relationship.

If he also is happy and comfortable with this, then I'm really happy for the two of you, and wish you both a very happy and bright future.

 

[jaxfltop]

Cuddling is a lost art. I enjoy it as much as intercourse on many occasions. If you are with someone and you both are satisfied with just cuddling then that is all you should be doing. While it is true that anything sexual is 100x better if you truly love your partner, nothing is worse than finding out you were just used for sex.

 

[Kick-Ass]

Thanks to all of you for your beautiful Comments

Well, now it is more than 4 years we are partner (since we were 16) And now we are almost 21... We never talked about having SEX , yeah it is kind of embracing, also both of us are still virgin.

I never find any sign of sexual arousal in him when we're together. and there's I think he feels same about me...Interesting point is plato's believe this kind of relation as real love!(as amor platonicus)

But what is bothering me is what we should do with our "Sexuality"? should we suppress our libido for ever or each of us should took other guy for satisfying sexuality? Is it possible for me to watch him with anyone or just knows that he haved sex with a guy? or for him to see someone else in my bed? how could we take it?