Sleeping with an Ex boyfriend after they broke up

[jw4833]

Hey Guys:

I have a pretty good friendship with one of my ex boyfriends. We get along really well when we run into each other and that's about it...nothing more. He is now seeing someone and anytime they would run into me...I could tell from the body language as well as the facial expressions of his new bf that my name has come up a lot in their private conversations which resulted in him not being thrilled with my ex approaching me with a hug greeting.

Friday night while out with a friend...we decided to stop at one of the bars for a nightcap before going home. All of a sudden...I was approached by my ex's bf who mentioned that they had broken up recently which I was shocked to find out. After a few minutes of conversation...I thought he would eventually go about his business. Needless to say...this was not the case. He hung around us for quite some time which was really awkward to say the least. To my surprise...this guy started coming on to me and was confessing how much he wants to have sex with me and begging for me to take him home with me. Now...I can only speak for myself on this subject matter but I make it a rule to not to have sex with an ex's boyfriends ...for me..its not a good look for me...and its too much drama especially if they get back together.

After nicely declining this guy's offer several times..the next day...he and my ex made up and back together. However...he told my ex that I came on to him and asked him to go home with me. Needless to say...my ex text me yesterday in regard to what he was told. I contacted him directly to be met with tension which resulted in my decision to cut the conversation short and hang up. Later that evening...the both of them contacted me with an apology. The bf admitted that he lied on me in order to make my ex mad. I became more annoyed at the fact that my ex knows me pretty well and he knows that I would never do such a thing. So...today is a new day and I am ready to move on from this ...however ...my question to the forum is would any of you have sex with an ex's new boyfriend after they have broken up??...thanks for your responses...JW :thumbs up:

 

[Otage]

Yes i could have had sex with him. My rule is not to have sex with person in relationship, but after that it's green light. And i never stay in touch with ex lovers, so the drama would at least be minimal.

But good for you for keeping with your own rule. It can't have been easy, if the guy was attractive.

 

[jw4833]

First of all....thanks so much for responding to my post Otage...I really appreciate it...also...the guy is very attractive with an awesome body especially that ASS...haha...and yes..the way he was coming on to me and rubbing up against me as well as whispering dirty talk in my ear...I am a MAN..and there was a slight of temptation within me...but then reality came in really fast and I knew for me...I would not have felt good about myself afterwards because that is not in my nature...its just a rule I have for myself and honor that rule to the up most and therefore...as you've read from the end results...I made the right decision...thanks again...JW

 

[brmstn69]

Any chance for a three-way?

 

[Otage]

Any chance for a three-way?

The same idea actually came to me too It has great chance for it, but I think it all depends about the ex, and how he feels about it. But if they would agree to it, I don't think you weren't to blame if it caused some drama. I mean seems like their relationship isn't on a solid base (just way out there guessing now!), so if a old chair brokes when you sit on it... Really the chairs owner should have warned you Sex with ex can be great, but also stirr up the old feelings, which can be bad.

 

[jw4833]

I wasn't going to go there ...but since you asked..I was approached by the both of them about participating in a three way. However, I am flattered...but at the same time..its not about the sex so to speak...what withdraws me with hesitation from these two is the way everything went down in the first place from which I was lied on...so...I've been offered threeways and sex for that matter....therefore...flattering...but not interested.

 

[jw4833]

The same idea actually came to me too It has great chance for it, but I think it all depends about the ex, and how he feels about it. But if they would agree to it, I don't think you weren't to blame if it caused some drama. I mean seems like their relationship isn't on a solid base (just way out there guessing now!), so if a old chair brokes when you sit on it... Really the chairs owner should have warned you Sex with ex can be great, but also stirr up the old feelings, which can be bad.

Not for drama Otage...its not worth it to even consider ....just my opinion...:no:

 

[Otage]

I wasn't going to go there ...but since you asked..I was approached by the both of them about participating in a three way. However, I am flattered...but at the same time..its not about the sex so to speak...what withdraws me with hesitation from these two is the way everything went down in the first place from which I was lied on...so...I've been offered threeways and sex for that matter....therefore...flattering...but not interested.

You're the one who knows best your situation, just keep your head:thumbs up: And if a guy turns down threesome with two hot guys, man, how much they must want you now. Just saying, you kinda gave them a slap turning them down

 

[jw4833]

You're the one who knows best your situation, just keep your head:thumbs up: And if a guy turns down threesome with two hot guys, man, how much they must want you now. Just saying, you kinda gave them a slap turning them down

I LIKE YOU OTAGE!!!!...YOU GIVE REALLY GOOD ADVICE....:thumbs up:JW

 

[jw4833]

You're the one who knows best your situation, just keep your head:thumbs up: And if a guy turns down threesome with two hot guys, man, how much they must want you now. Just saying, you kinda gave them a slap turning them down

Oh and another thing...I have noticed that when very attractive guys who knows that they are hot approaches me and when I don't respond or react the way the think I should...they tend to come at more than the norm because they are not accustomed to someone like me not reciprocating to them the way other guys do...so you are so right about that!!!!:no:

 

[Otage]

Oh and another thing...I have noticed that when very attractive guys who knows that they are hot approaches me and when I don't respond or react the way the think I should...they tend to come at more than the norm because they are not accustomed to someone like me not reciprocating to them the way other guys do...so you are so right about that!!!!:no:

Yep you're right. The looks is not the all, and usually people who think it is, they rarely have anything more to offer. Then they wonder why people want them just for sex... But sometimes they just want sex, so why not

And you're being very kind, thank youp

 

[jw4833]

Yep you're right. The looks is not the all, and usually people who think it is, they rarely have anything more to offer. Then they wonder why people want them just for sex... But sometimes they just want sex, so why not

And you're being very kind, thank youp

Well...you're welcome...but I really do like your responses...In fact, in regard to attractive people not being all that they claim to be...I stopped to see one of my bartender buddies last night and there was this guy who is very attractive that I had met awhile ago but because of his arrogance...I was so turned off...but I put him at a distance in a very nice manner. One of my biggest pet peeves about guys who claims to have it going on is that I like men to be men...not little pussies so to speak. This guy would tell someone else things that he felt about me ... instead of saying those things to me since I am the one that he supposed to have interest in. Also, while leaving the back patio of the club...I heard him talking about me to this guy and he told the guy that I had until June to make my move or approach him and if I did not by then...he will move on...WTF???...lol...such arrogance...I just believe that if you have something to say about me in regard to your feelings or anything in that related matter..then you should be man enough to tell me as opposed to someone who I don't even know...nonetheless..what I always noticed about Mr. Attractive is that he loves to put himself on display...he loves attention...and yet...I do not see him with someone unless its some low self esteem guys who praises him thinking he may have sex with them or put his body on display in order to make to gawk at him for attention...lol...lol..and yet..it seems he is so worried about me or why I am not coming on to him since he feels he is so hot...go figure!!!!.....:rofl:

 

[Otage]

Well...you're welcome...but I really do like your responses...In fact, in regard to attractive people not being all that they claim to be...I stopped to see one of my bartender buddies last night and there was this guy who is very attractive that I had met awhile ago but because of his arrogance...I was so turned off...but I put him at a distance in a very nice manner. One of my biggest pet peeves about guys who claims to have it going on is that I like men to be men...not little pussies so to speak. This guy would tell someone else things that he felt about me ... instead of saying those things to me since I am the one that he supposed to have interest in. Also, while leaving the back patio of the club...I heard him talking about me to this guy and he told the guy that I had until June to make my move or approach him and if I did not by then...he will move on...WTF???...lol...such arrogance...I just believe that if you have something to say about me in regard to your feelings or anything in that related matter..then you should be man enough to tell me as opposed to someone who I don't even know...nonetheless..what I always noticed about Mr. Attractive is that he loves to put himself on display...he loves attention...and yet...I do not see him with someone unless its some low self esteem guys who praises him thinking he may have sex with them or put his body on display in order to make to gawk at him for attention...lol...lol..and yet..it seems he is so worried about me or why I am not coming on to him since he feels he is so hot...go figure!!!!.....:rofl:

Well, it's kinda sad. But if we wants just sex, then it's quite clear message he's sending. But maybe in deep down he just want to be in love with someone so badly, but that doesn't work out, and he gets frustrated, and goes skanky all over the place?:worried: I actually often feel, that people come on to me just because of my looks, and they just want sex, and quite often that's just fine. They've decided what they want, and that's all they are aiming for, and I know there isn't anything more to it. But good looks doesn't mean, that guy can't have serious opinninon, ideals etc. People are complex, and it's sad that not all people know that. There's a whole world in the deepests of oceans The best books I've ever had read didn't have a interesting cover