Staying with one person

[rayjaybig]

is it easy when there's temptation.

 

[jw4833]

I don't know..maybe I'm too much of a sensitive guy, but I feel if I'm totally into whom I'm in a relationship with and they are into me as well. Then, I have the tendency to warn off temptation that has come my way just out of respect for my relationship my feelings for my partner. It seems that temptation is abundant when you are in a good relationship. Therefore, you have to say to yourself, if a booty call is worth messing up something that is solid? Then you also have to realize that there are many individuals who do not like to see couples who are happy and in love....

 

[gb2000ie]

is it easy when there's temptation.

No - of course it's not.

The rewards of a long-term monogomous relationship are great - but like all rewards - they are earned. It takes hard work and dedication to hold a relationship together. It's not a hollywood fairlytale. You don't meet - fall in love, and live happily ever after. Nothing is that easy!

B.

 

[levanter]

It is very hard, but I guess the temptation makes it what it is. If it wasn't hard, what would the point be? There would be no concept of "loyalty" if there wasn't always the option of "disloyalty." It's something I struggle with.

 

[smiley]

For me, I don't think its difficult to remain faithful.

Personally, i find being one person thoroughly rewarding and enjoyable.

 

[hugmebear]

I've never wanted to be with more than one person at a time. When I'm tempted, I just say no. And yes, it's difficult.

 

[latinoboy21]

For me, I don't think its difficult to remain faithful.

Personally, i find being one person thoroughly rewarding and enjoyable.

I'm exactly the same way.

 

[loveless92]

I'd love to be with one person that I truly love, that pay off is better than anything.

 

[dummaque]

I take a line similar to Dan Savage's on this issue- monogamy isn't for everyone, and making monogamy the standard for which all relationships should strive for is highly unrealistic. Whether monogamy/polyamory/open relationship is the format, the key for the most part is always open and honest communication.

For me personally? I think I'm hardwired for monogamy, so staying with one person isn't the issue- it's whether that one guy is someone I should stay with.

 

[hasb76]

I'll be honest...I used to cheat on boyfriends in the past. Being with "one partner" has always been something that I can't seem to get right...you can put me down if you want...I've put MYSELF down for it more than anyone else. But, in the relationship I'm in now, I was actually HONEST with my partner and expressed to him my different wants, desires, etc...and it is very easy for me to be true to him because we are always living out each other's fantasies or wants or desires. Not only am I the "one person man" but I wouldn't think of anything else...and I think it is so easy because of the honesty and the approach that we take towards each other in our desires. Just a thought,...

 

[alexfot55]

I had only three long term relations (being on my third for 7 years now) and I hope this will last to the end.