Stop worrying!

[RefixnarcisM]

Hello there, I just need some tips. I have a bad habit, which is Im worrying too much about myself. Either its about a job, love, life , relationship and many things.
Life is short so stop worrying. That I know, but I just keep on worrying too much. So is there anyone who could give me some tips?
Thanks before.

 

[bigsal]

I think it is not easy.
The personal character is difficult to change.
Talking about it and face it with friends is a good start.

 

[Lollipopboi]

Hello there, I just need some tips. I have a bad habit, which is Im worrying too much about myself. Either its about a job, love, life , relationship and many things.
Life is short so stop worrying. That I know, but I just keep on worrying too much. So is there anyone who could give me some tips?
Thanks before.

I was worried same as all stuff you worrying now, Most is about life cause i', already 25 and i still have nothing in life, till i was sick, nose bleed, headach alot, i had diarrhea I'm sure it not about bad disease like HIV or anything like that, cause im always safe sex, but it make me worried about cancer

I met doctor many time for a year but nothing happen with me, No HIV no Cancer No No No but it still happen with me

One time i went to check Colon Cancer, and the result is No again, i talking with doctor for awhile and then my nose is bleed and i start to cried

Doctor seem like he know what happen to me str8 away, after that he send me to psychologist

And that is the beginning, I'm not crazy but i'm in a Very High Pressure Level
till my body stop working as normal that why it become like I'm sick all the time

then i have to go to meet psychologist every 2 week for 3 month to learn how to resolve thing in life, it like a book you have to stop reading and come back to the first page when you not understand it anymore.

or just change a book to be easy, she teach me life is like a book, just have to understand it slow, sometime just have to put it down when you tired, don't keep reading when you can't, thinking about when you can't read it, you can talk anyway, but now when you try to read it by you don't understand it make you confusing and become messy

she teach me other thing too, but all in the end it is about you have to put down thing you holding now, you have to learn to say "LET IT BE"

That all i learn very long time from psychologist, it easy word but it hard to learn, so you have to breath and LET IT BE then you will get better


Cheer up C:C

PS : Sorry my English is not that Perfect cause i'm not Native English

 

[bigsal]

In Ecuador have this said:

if the problem is tomorrow. Not a problem.

Think about it.

 

[Tjerk12]

It is not unusual to worry. Most people do. There is a funny example:
In The Netherlands the students make practical jokes. It was in the seventies of the last century in Delft. On a road there was a sign: “Attention, student joke after 1000 meter”. And then “Attention, student joke after 900 meter. Every 100 meter there was a new sign. Finally there was the sign: “End of the student joke”. It had a disastrous influence on the traffic. Everybody slowed down because they worried about the consequences of the joke.
This is of course harmless. It becomes a problem when you overdo the worrying. I have a friend who tends that way. When there is a beautiful day after a rainy period it doesn’t make him happy. Why? Because he is afraid that it will rain the next day again. The Romans have a nice expression: Carpe Diem, enjoy the day, don’t worry,
I nearly never worry. Worrying makes only sense when you are able to do something about the things you worry about. I used to have fear of heights until I realized that it was not the height I was afraid of, but I was afraid of falling down. Since then I always made a safe line when I climbed on the roof or in a tree and now I am able to enjoy the scenery there high up in the air.

 

[RefixnarcisM]

Hmm just reading all the post up there makes me feel better.
'Let it be', 'if the problem tomorrow then its not a problem', 'to understand life, you must do it slowly. When its not work or tired, then stop for a moment to think about it', 'face the problem that makes you worried and deal with it'.
So the main point is, if I had do the things just like what it had to do and the best as I can, then don't worry about the result. Cause I already do it my best. If its failed, try look back again but never dwell on the past. Let it be. Right? Sorry if Im wrong.
And dont worry Lollipopboi my English is bad either.

 

[bigsal]

Dear RefixnarcisM
and nice to see that you've had a quick reaction.
I have a dear friend like you. Still apprehensive, worried.
This is because it has a sensitive soul and cares for others.
This is not bad. Just do not overdo it.
Count on your friends. Especially those who do not hesitate to tell even unpleasant things, provided in good faith.

 

[etilit]

why worry about yourself? you have the power to change you lol

worry about what you cant change lol

but all in all...never stop worrying!!!!! ITS IMPORTANT TO WORRY

 

[slimjim]

I'm not a religious person, but maybe the "Serenity Prayer" covers it....

God, grant me the senerity to accept the things I cannnot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to tell the difference

Reinhold Niebuhr

 

[RefixnarcisM]

@bigsal: thank you. And yes, I have a habit like that too. Too much care for a friends. I always push myself harder to make them happy, but somehow my other friend tell me that they just using me. Either its foolish or worried not to have a friend, Im not so sure. Guess Im too soft for a men.

 

[cavonzia]

i'm kind of worried person too especially about work and feeling to other person
right now i'm always telling myself that it's okay if sometime i make a mistake,its not gonna kill me after all
to try avoid worrying,sometime i just try thinking the other thing like what story should i make for my project,etc

(sorry i'm not good writer)

 

[RefixnarcisM]

Aah yes, focussing on other thing sometimes can forgetting what worried you at that time. Thanks for the tips!