Teach me please

[R_ver]

errmm hi guys..
im new to sex, only had few time and i top once bottom few times..
so when i be the bottom, i didnt feel the good "pleasure" it like i feel nothing, also when someone gave me a blow job i feel annoyed and dissatisfying, dissappointment, and i become less conffident on myself.. why? because i have an uncut dick, and the head of my dick is very sensitive, therefore it keep shrinking everytime my partner suck me, it feel so sensitive i cant hold it, any way to enjoy sex?

ohh i have a hard time to keep my dick hard all the time.. is there a way to fix this problem? please help me. or i just rape my hands everyday.. pleaseeee

thank you !!

 

[warp9]

Years ago, I had similar situations. It is likely only in your head. "I have a hard time to keep my dick hard all the time" Don't think about it. Switch off the head extensively. Autogenous training helped me at that time. Yoga would be another possibility.
Thinking and Sex is not a good combination.
I don't think, that it has anything to do with uncut or cut (I'm cut, btw)
It's just a brain thing.

No, I am no doctor or psychologist. It's my own experience. Maybe that helps a little

 

[Shelter]

If someone gave you a blow job - you are feeling "annoyed" and "dissatisfied"? How is that possible? Please forgive my question and it should not be an insult to you - but you are really gay?

You say as a bottom you didn't feel anything and no "pleasure"?! Well what do you think you should feel? You are totally right in saying you are feeling nothing. But the feeling that there will be someone into yourself - that is a wonderful feeling for a bottom. And I think Warp will be totally right in saying that "Thinking and Sex is not a good combination".

If you will have sex please turn off your brain, slump and only concentrate onto your partner. And if you are unsure - let your partner take over the leadership.

And believe me as a bottom it is the biggest present to see the lust in the eyes of your top (partner).

But one thing must be totally clear as glass - you must be absolute sure deep in yourself that you want to do that and that you really are gay.

Perhaps is that the problem for you, that in the moment you aren't entirely sure in which direction your sexual orientation will lead you. Am I wrong or do you think so?

 

[dargelos]

Dear R ver you have been a member of this place even longer than I have, during that time you must have seen a lot of porn. I presume you liked what you saw since you have stayed a member for such a long time. In the pornoworld, sex is always effortlessly good, every time for everybody,. The real world is not, as you have discovered, quite like that. It's not always excellent in the real world, but when it is, it beats porn by a thousand miles. If you ever tried to learn piano or guitar the results will have been unpleasant to the ear at first. It can only get better. You have so much to look forward to.

 

[Shelter]

Dear R ver you have been a member of this place even longer than I have, during that time you must have seen a lot of porn. I presume you liked what you saw since you have stayed a member for such a long time. In the pornoworld, sex is always effortlessly good, every time for everybody,. The real world is not, as you have discovered, quite like that. It's not always excellent in the real world, but when it is, it beats porn by a thousand miles. If you ever tried to learn piano or guitar the results will have been unpleasant to the ear at first. It can only get better. You have so much to look forward to.

A very good and totally correct post (answer). :thumbs up:

 

[R_ver]

If someone gave you a blow job - you are feeling "annoyed" and "dissatisfied"? How is that possible? Please forgive my question and it should not be an insult to you - but you are really gay?

You say as a bottom you didn't feel anything and no "pleasure"?! Well what do you think you should feel? You are totally right in saying you are feeling nothing. But the feeling that there will be someone into yourself - that is a wonderful feeling for a bottom. And I think Warp will be totally right in saying that "Thinking and Sex is not a good combination".

If you will have sex please turn off your brain, slump and only concentrate onto your partner. And if you are unsure - let your partner take over the leadership.

And believe me as a bottom it is the biggest present to see the lust in the eyes of your top (partner).

But one thing must be totally clear as glass - you must be absolute sure deep in yourself that you want to do that and that you really are gay.

Perhaps is that the problem for you, that in the moment you aren't entirely sure in which direction your sexual orientation will lead you. Am I wrong or do you think so?

what i meant are when this guy gave me BJ, he play with my dick head, and it really sensitive at first i try to enjoy it, but as he keep doing that i feel annoyed because of this sensitivity give me this tingling feeling?( i dont know if thats the correct word) and i told him to stop, he look dissaponted so do i.. and im gay, i love guys.. but i just cant get the right feeling i guess?

when he penetrate me, i liked it, but as soon as he is inside and out, i feel like i have to pup (im sorry)

@ dargelos i did watch a lot of porn, that is why i am confuse.. how can they do it so easily? do they really enjoy it? .. the reason my ex left me is because i cannot satisfied him on bed.. (does this even relevant?)

im sorry for my bad English..

 

[dargelos]

One of the tricks they sometimes use in a porn studio is called the fluffer. This is a man who is a highly skilled cocksucker, perhaps a retired porn actor. He can show the new boys how it's done and if they can't stay hard, he knows how to make them stiff again, but you never see him on camera.
I am also uncut. If everything is concentrated on the head all the time it becomes irritating. The shaft needs action too, as deep as it will go. Most men will not mind you giving suggestions. faster, slower, try to get it wetter, hold it in and work your tongue, lick my balls. His job is to please you anyway he can.
The 69, suck and get sucked at the same time, is too difficult to get right for beginers, concentrate on doing one thing at a time.
Don't worry too much about anal until you are confident with oral, take one step at a time.

 

[Shelter]

Hi R_ver - at first there is surely no reason to excuse your English. Many of us here on GH are not perfect in English - but I think the main thing is that we can talk together and we will understand us - right? So be proud of that what you know. I don't know where are you from but sooo many English speaking people will not knowing a little word in your language. So always think you are a little bit wiser than they are - .

But back to your post. Once more I don't understand why you are hating that he has given you a blow job? The only thing for me would be that your glans is so very sensitive and you are feeling uncomfortable if he is working with his teeth onto it. That is something I wouldn't like as well. But if he will take your cock deep into his mouth and perhaps down his throat (if that will be possible for him) and didn't use his teeth - I think that must be a wonderful feeling for you. Perhaps your ex-BF was inexperienced and a little bit rough.

So please come over and I'll show you a good blow-job - (well just kidding, sorry!)

And I don't know how experienced you are in a real fuck. Perhaps it will be very uncomfortable for you to be fucked. Perhaps it will hurt you. Perhaps you are too tight and perhaps your partner is too big and/or too thick (I mean his cock - ) So you don't like it. Try to relax your sphincter. You can train that with a normal thick dildo or a butt plug. And if you think you are ready - try it once more with your partner. Perhaps he will help you with your training - which can too be honestly a horny experience for both of you.

But if you will after it always have the feeling that's nothing for you - don't become desperate. Many gay people don't like it to be fucked. A good blow-job or a really good hand-job will give you lust and relaxation as well and most of all (that's what I love more than any other things) cuddling and caressing and kissing. An evening in bed without these three things is a lost evening and if you will have it, your sleep will be in the arms of angels (or in the arms of the angel beside you!)

I think you will do it - with the right partner!

And one last thing - please don't be negative. And please don't invert the sex!

 

[R_ver]

Hi R_ver - at first there is surely no reason to excuse your English. Many of us here on GH are not perfect in English - but I think the main thing is that we can talk together and we will understand us - right? So be proud of that what you know. I don't know where are you from but sooo many English speaking people will not knowing a little word in your language. So always think you are a little bit wiser than they are - .

But back to your post. Once more I don't understand why you are hating that he has given you a blow job? The only thing for me would be that your glans is so very sensitive and you are feeling uncomfortable if he is working with his teeth onto it. That is something I wouldn't like as well. But if he will take your cock deep into his mouth and perhaps down his throat (if that will be possible for him) and didn't use his teeth - I think that must be a wonderful feeling for you. Perhaps your ex-BF was inexperienced and a little bit rough.

So please come over and I'll show you a good blow-job - (well just kidding, sorry!)

And I don't know how experienced you are in a real fuck. Perhaps it will be very uncomfortable for you to be fucked. Perhaps it will hurt you. Perhaps you are too tight and perhaps your partner is too big and/or too thick (I mean his cock - ) So you don't like it. Try to relax your sphincter. You can train that with a normal thick dildo or a butt plug. And if you think you are ready - try it once more with your partner. Perhaps he will help you with your training - which can too be honestly a horny experience for both of you.

But if you will after it always have the feeling that's nothing for you - don't become desperate. Many gay people don't like it to be fucked. A good blow-job or a really good hand-job will give you lust and relaxation as well and most of all (that's what I love more than any other things) cuddling and caressing and kissing. An evening in bed without these three things is a lost evening and if you will have it, your sleep will be in the arms of angels (or in the arms of the angel beside you!)

I think you will do it - with the right partner!

And one last thing - please don't be negative. And please don't invert the sex!

Im from Indonesia XD
anyway.. im not hating getting a BJ, i hate it when i cant enjoy it, the glans it just so so so soooo sensitive, i really hate myself why cant i be just like the porn actor.. im way too inexperience in sex,, when my D feel the sensitivity it just shrink.. and very difficult to make it hard again, so i just ask the guy to penetrate me.. in the end he ended up orgasm and i didnt .. he asked "do you want to ?", i said "nahh lets go wash ourself" (i feel awkward when someone waiting me to haha)

@dargelos i may need the fluffer hahaha XD

Thank you guys for your tips and encouragement !:big hug: p and im sorry for the late reply, it is very difficult to find a working proxy because this site is blocked by my internet service provider.

 

[Shelter]

Gayheaven is blocked by your internet provider? Why that - I don't know but is being gay a crime in Indonesia? And but only for the report - I'm from Germany.

If you want please answer me: means your sensitiveness that it hurts you or are you ming at once someone will lick your glans? Why your cock is shrinking so quickly in a moment when he must be rock hard? Perhaps your sex-partner is too forcefull and is not sinking in to your feelings and wishes. Perhaps you should speak with him and tell him your special wishes and that he should do it more slowly.