The problem with me is...

[etilit]

well there are too many things to list...lol

but was thinking about this one...

I expect things…..I expect myself to do this or that….I expect others to do things…I expect things to happen..and, when it does’t happen as I expect…how do I react? Not good

If I live in my world of expectation, than will I know the world?..do I need to free my mind of expectations?

is this possible?

 

[JonnyFantastico]

I think you honestly need to understand that not everything hits your expectation. It's a factor of life, Kane; we can be everything that a person wants us to be. We can try our hardest to be everything to another soul, but at the end of the day, we might be taking away from ourselves a bit.

Don't expect too much and in the end, you might get exactly what you needed.

 

[afrayedknot]

Expect Complexity

Humans are expectant creatures. It is perfectly healthy to "expect things." I expect the food I ate for dinner to be digested and well... I expect to open my eyes in the morning and see the sunshine. The problem lies with being overly disappointed when our expectations are not met. There will be sunshine in the morning (barring some cataclysmic event) and if by chance it is lessened by a few clouds, it will still be there, just in a different degree. So, it is my choice to be satisfied that my expectation of sunshine is being partially met.
Am I always this optimistic?
Not by a long shot!
Most of the time I am disgusted that the weather, other people, (my professors and politicians especially), and my car don't behave the way I expected them to. Little by little as I grow older and older, I am learning to temper my expectations (be cautious of cynicism) and my reactions to disappointment.
Both are tall orders for the average gay man. We tend to be perfectionists.
So... expect things!!! Expect great things!!! And when "things" fall short, try your best to be a little less disappointed and a little more motivated to working that much harder to ensure "things" know what you want and how you want them.

 

[turkeyman]

My only problem is that I am in the closet and will live in the closet and die in the closet not really knowing except for movies what love really is. It is sad to say that I have over the years become used to the closet and know that this is where after college, work, illness etc. that this is the only real home that I have ever known. Just plain sad.

 

[asi06]

Thats a heavy story. Glad i don`t have to suffer about that. Althoug i took a long time to come out what realy wasn`t nesseseary. Hope for better times for you in your Country.

 

[diklik]

When one stops to dream, they stop to live.

True that, but there is a significant difference between dreams and aspirations, vs unreal expectations without real world validation.