Threesome experiences and thoughts on them

[Hilinger]

I tried searching for a thread concerning threesomes but with no luck, so forgive me if I created an unnecessary thread.

My BF and I have been together for quite some time now, we both came out recently to our friends and are enjoying the relationship right now. I'm 29 and he is 25 and in the last three years we have tried out pretty much everything in bed. I am the top in relationship and he is the more than willing bottom.

For some time now he has expressed a desire to have a threesome since he always had a fantasy of taking one man in his ass while sucking the other. For long I wasn't really a fan of this idea. I wasn't really all that interested in sharing my man and I never really understood the appeal of threesomes, but to be fair, as a guy who likes to be in control in the bed I always had a picture of me fucking two guys, rather than sharing one bottom with another top.

After a while he stopped mentioning this, but given that I knew that was his fantasy I started thinking more about this and about two weeks ago I decided to start looking for hookups on Grinder. He has a type, bald, bearded, a bit stronger dudes like myself, but what gets him even hotter are older guys. I didn't really have a lot of luck looking for someone so I started to get a bit desperate as no one was up to my high standards.

So after a lot of deliberation I decided to share this with one of the few gay friends of mine. He is a bit older at 35, and kind of fits the bill of what my BF likes and I find him pleasing on the eyes as well. We go back quite a bit and he is one of the first persons who knew I like men. We never really hooked up as we are both tops through and through, but I wondered what he thought about this. I didn't really expect him to go with it but he said yes.

Yesterday was my BFs bday so we decided this is the best day to go through with this. The two of us had an intimate dinner and after that I told my friend to come over. I told my BF that I arranged a little bit of fun for later on and that my bud was coming over. He was ecstatic to hear that.

As my friend cam to my place my BF was already in the bedroom waiting for us. First he sucked our dicks and after that we took turns on his big ass. Despite being skeptical of how this will turn out and not really turned on by the thought of someone else fucking him I really started getting into it as the time went by. Standing behind them and watching his dick disappear in his ass was hot as hell, just as watching him squirm as he was taking it. The session lasted as we took turns and he got pounded real good.

In the end it was a really pleasant experience we will definitely repeat as He really enjoyed himself and it was pretty damn fun for me too. Has anyone else had that kind of experience? Or do any of you want to do something like this?

 

[Shelter]

I'm now for 13 years together with my great love (I'm 30 and my BF is 32 by now). As well I'm in our relationship the bottom. And from time to time all over the years I've had too the wish to be fucked by two or much more horny guys. Would like to suck their cocks, to swallow their manly juice (which I love so very much!). But it will be a wish only - so I think. My BF can't to get used to have sex together with one or some others. He once told me that would destroy our love. And that will be something I never will really risk - I love him too much and I don't want to loose him.

So it is a dream and from time to time I can see my dream come true in a porn flick -.

 

[dargelos]

I'm glad your romp has been such a success, H. They don't always turn out so well. I find that if one of you has less confidence or feels inferior to the others then things can go bad. It needs to be a game of equals, 1+1+1=3. If one of the players imagines the equation to be 1.2+1.2+0.6=3 with himself as the 0.6, that is not what you want.
It seems that you avoided this problem by choosing a third man with more experience, whether by luck or by judgement, what works is what works. I believe that you strengthen your relationship by breaking free from monogomy, there is nothing natural or healthy about monogamy for humans. Some members will disagree with this.
Shelter, your man will disagree I'm sure. But not to the extent that will "destroy our love". Your kind of love is the real thing, it is not so easily broken. With my husband and I, nothing will destroy our love, it will persist long after the Reaper has taken me away down below to meet Satan.
Your chance will come, you have another fifty or sixty years together, plenty of time for him to change his mind.

 

[Hilinger]

Yeah, I was worried it won't work out. I don't really think these things turn out great in reality, they are hot to watch in porn but I didn't really think they would be as much fun in real life.

I had one experience when I was 19 and that was not a very good one. A lot of factors played into that back them, most notably the lack of experience you alluded to. Plus I was the only top there so it was just so much work, you're trying to please both guys and it the end no one got pleased. Being relatively new to sex I was way over my head. Before this experience, I felt like I'm this God given sex machine like most brash kids but I quickly realized that this won't end well. Sure it's nice having two guys blow you but after that stopped it was downhill from there. It was awkward, sloppy (not in a good way) and lasted about five minutes.

This felt much different and better. It was fun first of all and it was nice seeing my BF enjoy himself and my friend being experienced played a big role in this. He knew what he was doing, and we had quite a bit of fun. As for sex in general, I'm a guy who doesn't really necessarily think that sex and love go hand in hand. Sure, the best sex I had was with the people I loved and there is definitely a connection that you have with them that helps the experience, but I believe that you can have sex without emotions being too involved.

And this is what happened here, I was 100% focused on my BF. It was two guys focused on one rather than the other way around which I think is the best recipe for success.

 

[RazzmaTazz]

Being the youngest in the conversation here, I'll probably end up with the oddest response of the group. I've been in quite a few threesomes, but I was always the "third man" in the situation. I have no issues with threesomes and enjoy them immensely, but I also understand how they could affect a relationship. If I was in a deep committed relationship and my partner all of a sudden started talking about threesomes, my first question would be "why"? Are you falling away from me, are you not happy with the relationship or the sex, is there something I can make better. I'd want to be certain that it wasn't something that I did that brought up the discussion.

Ultimately, though, I've never thought that men and women were a monogamous species. I think those that have had long term relationships are super special. My parents have been married for nearly 30 years now (wow). In today's world, this is getting to be the exception, rather than the rule. More couples seem to be splitting at the first sign of trouble rather than try to work it out.

So personally I think that more open you can be in a relationship, the better off you are going to be. But both have to be on equal ground. It's not going to work if he wants a threesome and its no way come Hell or high water on your part. I've learned recently that it takes an average of four years to really get to know a person. So if you are still in that window, there are chances that you're going to find out new things about each other that will direct where the relationship is going to go.

A couple of couples that I've been with as the 3rd have become good friends and from what I learned from them was how open they were about their relationship. Since they were open about their desire for a 3rd it didn't hurt their relationship. Other 3ways I've done it was just a hook up/-and-go kinda thing.

So in that part I think you were smart in talking it over with someone that you already knew. I bet he had a good birthday. I think I went around in a few circles here, but I hope you see where I was trying to go.

 

[lhardwick69]

the thing about threesomes isi let it be known the other two guys I have only bottomed if want me to top I am not that experienced at it--even though now years later I have topped few guys so like doing either or both--but most threesomes I been in and couple gangbangs--guys seem to know I am a bottom like theres a sign above me with arrow pointing down saying bottom here fuck me--so the fact of getting fucked by both sucking on one while other fucks me and few times sucking on one while getting fucked and the guy I am sucking is sucking me as well--


they would tell me sucks I dont fuck as I have a nice dick not huge but said they bet it feel good inside them--

gangbangs is another story and usually only talk or tell those who are open minded as certain things happen at certain time periods of my life--



but the thing is --in relationships the third guy comes in you three do what want and the third guy goes home--then that leaves both wondering if one enjoyed it more than the other or enjoyed it more than should have ---will he fuck this guy behind my back because can fuck better----doing things like this usually brings insecurity into a relationship

 

[brmstn69]

I've been in dozens, but never with someone I was in a relationship with. I've always been the third party or out with a fuck buddy and we picked up a third together.

I had several friends who were fuck buddies, we weren't in a relationship but we often had sex. We would go out and cruise for other guys together and some times they just wanted one of us, which was cool. But other times they would be interested in us both. And if we failed, we went back to my place and fucked each other...

 

[Shelter]

Ihardwick you've put it straight with these words. And I think that is definitely that what will cross my man's mind in this special case. And I think I have to respect that.

All others who have posted here are totally right as well ..... but as they all have said - they have always been the "third" part in these constellation. And surely I think all these "third" men have had their fun and they could work out their horny lust. But the "two" others will be leave alone - and will be then the thorn of disbelief and mistrust do his bad work?

Well as I have said I would like to be fucked by my BF and another guy or more - a really gangbang - I'm dreaming of it. I would be really happy to be fucked perhaps by 10 or more and after it they all are ming over me and my whole body would be slippery and greasy. On the other hand I don't even know if I could stand it to be fucked by so many others - long cocks, thick cocks, short cocks and whatever. But it is my fantasy - and I know my man will just in the moment not follow me. And I'll respect it!!

 

[Vince_Doey]

My partner and I have been together now for almost seven years and we enjoy a completely open relationship. He travels for work extensively (sometimes a month or more at a time) and it would be unfair to both of us to have to abstain for long periods of time. He has others and so do I. Sometimes, if I am attracted, I will join them for a threesome. It's really hot only if there is attraction. There have been times when I have joined in with someone I would not normally be with (to satisfy my partner). That drags down the whole scene. I let it be known that I am a bottom and I expect to be fucked by both. I will do anything they ask for them.They can enjoy together, anything they wish with my blessing. A threesome can be great if everyone involved has their expectations met. If not, no matter how hot the guys are, it's not likely to happen again.

 

[Shelter]

My partner and I have been together now for almost seven years and we enjoy a completely open relationship. He travels for work extensively (sometimes a month or more at a time) and it would be unfair to both of us to have to abstain for long periods of time. He has others and so do I. Sometimes, if I am attracted, I will join them for a threesome. It's really hot only if there is attraction. There have been times when I have joined in with someone I would not normally be with (to satisfy my partner). That drags down the whole scene. I let it be known that I am a bottom and I expect to be fucked by both. I will do anything they ask for them.They can enjoy together, anything they wish with my blessing. A threesome can be great if everyone involved has their expectations met. If not, no matter how hot the guys are, it's not likely to happen again.

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