Hey Guys:
I hope you all are doing well and you had a great weekend.
About four months ago, I met this guy on one of the social networks. What brought him to my attention was that he posted a lot of pictures of himself and his dogs which displayed that he obtained a passion for his dogs due to the videos that he would post of him taking care and playing with them as well. One day, he posted pictures of him finishing a marathon and what place he came in at the finish line. I responded with a comment of congratulations and he decided to contact me directly.
From there, we started chatting for about three hours that night. I asked him about whether he was involved in a relationship and he responded with that he was in a very committed relationship. From that point on, I respected that and placed him in the category of just establishing a friendship. However, what I began to notice was that over the past few months, he has been flirting with me big time with such statements as; "You are so hot", "I think about you all the time", "When I don't hear from you or see you online, I miss you a lot"...and he would send me pictures of him blowing kisses to me after we talked....you get the picture of where I'm going with this right???...Therefore, in order to change the focus, I started mentioning dates that I was going on and guys that I've met over the past month and what I thought about them. He would respond with "Who is this guy?" and "Where did you meet him?". I was taken a back with his responses because I felt that this was none of his business yet alone those previous comments that I've posted above. Furthermore, he even start talking about him coming to my city and spending time with me. This suggestion really caused my alarm to go off because I'm thinking so..."Where is your boyfriend?"
When I responded with I thought that would not be a good idea especially when he is involved with someone because that would be considered cheating and disrespectful to your partner and not only the fact that I do not know him that well and I do not condone that type of behavior. He then responded that he definitely understood where I was coming from and apologized for thinking so irrationally. However, over the past couple of weeks, he has been revealing more of himself which has drawn quite a few red flags towards him and what kind of relationship does he have? For example, he goes on about how other guys cheat and portrays themselves as being sluts by posting naked pictures of themselves but, he told me that when he gets liquored up, he starts to flirt with other guys in the presence of his boyfriend. He even told me that this one particular time, a guy was flirting with him and it caused a fight between the guy and his partner. Many times, he also comes off as being ultra conservative where as I am pretty liberal and open when it comes to sex which is something that he has informed me that he has a hard time embracing. And yet, he told me the other night that some guy that has been trying to talk to him for quite some time had followed him and begging him to go out to dinner with him. Apparently from the story he told, I got the impression that the reason he finally gave in to this guy is because he is wealthy. Then he went on to tell me that this guy called him and told him that he was waiting for him in the lobby of his condo building which is where he and his partner lives.
He told me that he got dressed and took the guy to a restaurant away from the residence. What really made me wonder was when he revealed that he was giving this guy a good bye hug and he reciprocated by hugging this guy very tightly which prompted the guy to move in for a kiss. Now, he told me that he was taken a back by this guy's behavior and expressed this to him in which the guy was continuously apologizing and even texting him hours later apologizing as well.
After he told this story, all the while in the back of my mind, I'm thinking what kind of game is this asshole playing? and is he really involved with someone or are they in an open relationship? He asked me my opinion of his story and I offered no comment. However, after he kept pursuing for my response, I gave it to him. Obviously, he was not pleased with what I said which led him to keep coming up with excuses he felt that would justify his responses. What really got me was that he kept assuming what I was thinking of him since he revealed this story and how he feels he hurt my feelings by sharing this. Unfortunately, the more he talked, the more I lost the utmost respect for him. So, this compelled me to ask the forum; what do you guys define as cheating?...As always, thank you for taking the time read this post and respond...Peace, JW:cheers:
I hope you all are doing well and you had a great weekend.
About four months ago, I met this guy on one of the social networks. What brought him to my attention was that he posted a lot of pictures of himself and his dogs which displayed that he obtained a passion for his dogs due to the videos that he would post of him taking care and playing with them as well. One day, he posted pictures of him finishing a marathon and what place he came in at the finish line. I responded with a comment of congratulations and he decided to contact me directly.
From there, we started chatting for about three hours that night. I asked him about whether he was involved in a relationship and he responded with that he was in a very committed relationship. From that point on, I respected that and placed him in the category of just establishing a friendship. However, what I began to notice was that over the past few months, he has been flirting with me big time with such statements as; "You are so hot", "I think about you all the time", "When I don't hear from you or see you online, I miss you a lot"...and he would send me pictures of him blowing kisses to me after we talked....you get the picture of where I'm going with this right???...Therefore, in order to change the focus, I started mentioning dates that I was going on and guys that I've met over the past month and what I thought about them. He would respond with "Who is this guy?" and "Where did you meet him?". I was taken a back with his responses because I felt that this was none of his business yet alone those previous comments that I've posted above. Furthermore, he even start talking about him coming to my city and spending time with me. This suggestion really caused my alarm to go off because I'm thinking so..."Where is your boyfriend?"
When I responded with I thought that would not be a good idea especially when he is involved with someone because that would be considered cheating and disrespectful to your partner and not only the fact that I do not know him that well and I do not condone that type of behavior. He then responded that he definitely understood where I was coming from and apologized for thinking so irrationally. However, over the past couple of weeks, he has been revealing more of himself which has drawn quite a few red flags towards him and what kind of relationship does he have? For example, he goes on about how other guys cheat and portrays themselves as being sluts by posting naked pictures of themselves but, he told me that when he gets liquored up, he starts to flirt with other guys in the presence of his boyfriend. He even told me that this one particular time, a guy was flirting with him and it caused a fight between the guy and his partner. Many times, he also comes off as being ultra conservative where as I am pretty liberal and open when it comes to sex which is something that he has informed me that he has a hard time embracing. And yet, he told me the other night that some guy that has been trying to talk to him for quite some time had followed him and begging him to go out to dinner with him. Apparently from the story he told, I got the impression that the reason he finally gave in to this guy is because he is wealthy. Then he went on to tell me that this guy called him and told him that he was waiting for him in the lobby of his condo building which is where he and his partner lives.
He told me that he got dressed and took the guy to a restaurant away from the residence. What really made me wonder was when he revealed that he was giving this guy a good bye hug and he reciprocated by hugging this guy very tightly which prompted the guy to move in for a kiss. Now, he told me that he was taken a back by this guy's behavior and expressed this to him in which the guy was continuously apologizing and even texting him hours later apologizing as well.
After he told this story, all the while in the back of my mind, I'm thinking what kind of game is this asshole playing? and is he really involved with someone or are they in an open relationship? He asked me my opinion of his story and I offered no comment. However, after he kept pursuing for my response, I gave it to him. Obviously, he was not pleased with what I said which led him to keep coming up with excuses he felt that would justify his responses. What really got me was that he kept assuming what I was thinking of him since he revealed this story and how he feels he hurt my feelings by sharing this. Unfortunately, the more he talked, the more I lost the utmost respect for him. So, this compelled me to ask the forum; what do you guys define as cheating?...As always, thank you for taking the time read this post and respond...Peace, JW:cheers:
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