what do you expect?

[etilit]

???

 

[slimjim]

Well certainly NOT the spanish inquisition, but then.....



"Cardinal Fang, Fetch the comfy chair"...:rofl::rofl:

 

[jw4833]

Well, let me share this...there is a woman that I have meetings with a couple times a month. She became a new client around the first of the year, and because we did not know each other and she did not initiate much conversation, I would start off by letting her know the background details. However, what I found so uncomfortable was that I began to notice how she would just stare at me while I'm talking as if she was looking right through me. For a minute, I thought that maybe I am talking too much and the next time we met, I decided to let her initiate the conversation. Again, she did not have much to say, and began to wonder if I was okay because I decided to hold back. After several meetings, I became very uncomfortable with her staring at me, that I spoke up and asked her if there's something wrong or if she would like to say something. She responded with "no", and inquired what I asked her that? I told her that her staring at me the way she did made me feel very uncomfortable. Of course, she attempted to make me feel as if I was seeing more into something that was not there. So, the next time we met, she did it again. I did not say anything but instead, I was in a store buying a greeting card, and noticed a card that kind of segued you into saying what is on your mind without being disrespectful or out of line. I bought the card, and then wrote inside that because we do not know each other, I feel because we are working together on the same goal, that we have to learn a lot about each other in order to make great progress in what we are working on. I told her that I've been around people for a long time and I am working on my degree in Psychology and I can tell when something is bothering someone or they may have something they would like to say but not sure as to how to go about doing so or even not interested in what I'm saying to take it further. I revealed to her what I thought of her from the previous meetings and I also added that I could be wrong, but if so, this is her time to correct me and let us move forward from that point on. Apparently, she did not appreciate my thoughts and the card as a whole. When she told me this, I took the time to explain why I said what I did and she has to put herself in my shoes and look at it from my point of view. Furthermore, if I am wrong in my assumption, I am giving her the platform to clear the misunderstanding, if there is one. Once I explained things from my end, she claimed that she understood where I was coming from and from that point, I let the whole thing go. Unfortunately, every other time, we would meet, she would bring this up as a joke, and reversed the situation as if I attacked her. Whenever, I would correct her story, she would immediately interrupt me with I am only joking and then a little laugh. However, I am smart enough to know that whenever someone keep bringing up something that had been resolved, that apparently, they are still having issues with it. I am a pretty direct and honest individual and do not like playing mind games to say the least, and the other day, we met and she bought this up again. I immediately got a little offended and responded with "Why do you keep bringing this up?, it has been several months since this incident happened and you left me with the assumption that it was all resolved, therefore, apparently, you still have some unresolved issues and this is the time for you to speak out on it or else I will discontinue meeting with you from this point on. She immediately replied that she is only joking.

With all that being said? with the fact that she is supposedly a professional and a colleague, there should not be this kind of behavior existing especially when I have given her quite a few chances to take the platform to speak out. So, what do I expect?...THE TRUTH...OR HONESTY....

 

[etilit]

jw what you expect is yours and yours alone...lol

and yes i want..truth and honesty but that aint gona happen lol