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What if one of my child become a sex worker

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Yesterday Alex and I had a very great conversation, actually he kind of stun me. We were relaxing in our bed, after a steaming sex act, and once we got finished and all cleared up, we decided to discuss about the children funds and how we were going to manage it. After all my daughter Maria-Sandra is turning 16 this year, and college is 2 years away but Alex and I were planning the funding and all.

Then out of the blue he asked me, "Jakey, you have very good looking children, your son he's one of a kind Asian/black exceptional good looking boy and your girl is so Latino hot she has boys crying over her already, what would you do if one of your children would announce you that they have been selling their body?"

Then I asked - "Why would they need to sell their body, they're fucking rich already, it's not like they need the money. I did what I did in my youth because my dad cut me off, but also...(I stopped)... OMG you're so right Alex baby! Okay you got me there."

Wow I don't really know how I would react. Because every parents wants the best for their children (at least those who cares), because I used to be in the porn industry I know how ephemeral the experience is but the sting it leaves never stopped itching. I am for my kids as I am for my boyfriend/husband very protective of their social integrity, nobody is allowed to make fun of my children or Alex while I'm with them. But now how would I react if my daughter, my first child would come one night saying that she has been featuring in a porn videos.

Frankly I'd be mad at first, not really for her being in porn, mostly because I know the industry used her beauty, not her intelligence (she's very smart). Then I'd ask her how she feels about it, what brought her to decide to make porn movies. We are in our family very sexually outspoken, I do not use the flowers and the bees to explain normal biology to my children and thus from the very beginning; my children knew that men have penises, women have vaginas and the penis goes into the vagina to make babies, some penises goes into other men anuses (like daddy and uncle Alex) but that's not the way to make babies, but it's definitely another way to have fun. So from the beginning my children haven't been lied to regarding sexuality, which also cause another problem, their openness to sex is greater than other average child of the same age. With Alex being gay, sexually thirsty and a nurse and their dad whom used to be a VHS whore and son of a doctor, their knowledge of sex is very extended compared to many other child.

So what would I do, because frankly I have nothing against porn because it does serve its purposes, but knowing that one or two or three of my children decided to go on and make porn movies when they really didn't have to, that I'd be very concerned. Not the sex really, the idea of them being used for their physical awesomeness as opposed to their intelligence is what worries me. When my daughter first had sex with her boyfriend at 14 (yeah yeah 14) she came to Alex to ask him if she should and this brought a family meeting in my study (yes I have a study LOL, this is the place where I write and create everything about my companies, with candles and classical music and a monster library, but it is also the place where serious discussion occurs). We asked her if she was really ready for it, that her bf didn't forced it on her, and later on before the act, I've met the BF in my study and asked so intimate question, the boy (very good looking) didn't know how to sit still lol. But they did have sex and because Alex is her confident, I know that things went very well between them because of that extended talk we had.

But porn is another story, and that I really don't know how I will react honestly, because I know the industry, I know the people, I know the fake and the deception and I know the scars it leaves. You can look at any porn stars today and although they look so happy on film, there's a dark cloud floating above their heads and that dark cloud is called "social judgment" and this shouldn't be taken likely.

So in conclusion I would not accept any of my child to be a porn stars, but they have their own mind and own desires, we raise our child to face society, and I believe I'm very good at giving them a realistic picture of what society is and how to interact with it, but as a dad, I won't be pleased to know that some porn producers take advantage of my child physical beauty for their own selfish profit.

So you guys from GH, no matter if you have kids or not, how would you react? This isn't a type of question where you can just reply with preconceptional "mumbo jumbo" about parenting and porn, you do have to develop your rhetoric.

Cheers! Jake:cheers:
 

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I would also discourage that idea, but I have my doubts if it would have any effect. First of all it is against the law when they are still underage, so than it is out of the question. And once a boy or a girl is 18+ it will be difficult to influence their thoughts. But you are right, I would try. Happily mine are grown up now and such matters never appeared.
 
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I would also discourage that idea, but I have my doubts if it would have any effect. First of all it is against the law when they are still underage, so than it is out of the question. And once a boy or a girl is 18+ it will be difficult to influence their thoughts. But you are right, I would try. Happily mine are grown up now and such matters never appeared.
Oh my god no... I'm talking about my child when they'll get older... now it's out of the question... the guy or girl taking advantage of any of my children NOW would be a cripple in jail after I'd almost beat them to death lol.
 

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I've never had children, and I suspect that if I did, my thoughts would be very much like yours. But here's what I think as a non-father.

Prostitution, porn, & other sex-related business, is just that -- business. As in any business, certain talents are required to do well, and when a person does well it is as much an accomplishment as in any other profession.

The problems are all in aspects of these businesses unrelated to the actual service provided. One major one is the general public distaste for & censure of the business & anyone associated with it. That would very likely mark them for life.

Another problem is the infiltration of the businesses by illegal & unsavory elements, like child selling, drugs, & organized crime. Then of course there are health issues (STDs). I think these businesses are especially susceptible to these problems because they tend to be swept under the rug and ignored by the general public and by law enforcement.

IMO a person can do well in one of these professions and can come out unscathed, but the chance of that happening is considerably less than in most other professions.
 

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I do not have kids, so my thought is relative.

I can only say that, you and Alex addressing this topic, you have once again given us a sign of maturity of the couple.

I hope it does not happen, but if that happens, I am sure you will face the problem in the best way.
 

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Most people in their teens and twenties become what their parents are not. Rebelling against you would be...porn? Probably not.
Having read a little of your life ( which I have really enjoyed), the rebellion might be... becoming a conservative blogger, joining the priesthood?

Whatever they choose, they WILL drive you crazy. If you raised them to think for themselves, and act with integrity, they are well armed for the future.
 

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Jake, the best thing you can do is be supportive of your children in whatever they do. Don't judge them. Accept them for who they are and what they do. Like all people you care about they will bring you great happiness, much joy, sometimes some anguish, and sometimes they will make decisions that you don't agree with. If they know they can turn to you for support and that they trust you then they will also know that they can go to you for any help they need.

If I understand your original post on this topic, your father did not support you. So you will know that the best thing to do is to always be there for your children. You will reap the rewards of their love and you will that you've done the right thing.

Also dont' be afraid to give them your honest opinion if they ever ask.
 
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I do not have kids, so my thought is relative.

I can only say that, you and Alex addressing this topic, you have once again given us a sign of maturity of the couple.

I hope it does not happen, but if that happens, I am sure you will face the problem in the best way.
Well thanks BS, Alex and I are indeed a very mature couple. Although we're young because I do consider that 25-35 is young, we definitely always go for general discussion about family business. I am the head (and the eldest with my 36 yo) of this family and Alex is my adviser (a very good one and good looking too :p). I manage a household of 3 children, and 3 adults (excluding me we have; Alex 26 yo, Cynthia 29 yo and Tommy 24 yo (Alex's twin cousin), Then we have the children; Maria-Sandra 16 yo, Josuah-Alexander 11 yo and the last one Jasmine, 3 months old. All of our children are beautiful (mentally and physically), and I don't say that because I'm the father (although Jasmine is Alex's daughter made artificially with his sperm) but she's my daughter nonetheless and she gets the same treatment than any of my other children (protection, money and love). Jasmine is a mix of Thai and Australian/Maui I know she'll be a fucking hot looking girl (but it's to us to develop her mind like we did for the other), since her dad his so hot (I should know I fuck him every night :rofl: whenever I speak of Alex I almost get a boner :rofl:).

I am a very strict but yet very lenient father, while Alex is more permissive than I am, so our couple is well balanced.:p
 
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Most people in their teens and twenties become what their parents are not. Rebelling against you would be...porn? Probably not.
Having read a little of your life ( which I have really enjoyed), the rebellion might be... becoming a conservative blogger, joining the priesthood?

Whatever they choose, they WILL drive you crazy. If you raised them to think for themselves, and act with integrity, they are well armed for the future.
Hahaha you couldn't be more right dude... I became what my dad didn't want me to become, but yet he is very proud of my success. And I will definitely be proud of all my children as long they do what they love in life. If porn is what they would like, I hope they'll be the best at it. I'm from a very high achieving family, whatever we do we have to be the best at it and that's pretty much the only part I kept from my education. Being the best at what you choose to be.;)
 
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Jake, the best thing you can do is be supportive of your children in whatever they do. Don't judge them. Accept them for who they are and what they do. Like all people you care about they will bring you great happiness, much joy, sometimes some anguish, and sometimes they will make decisions that you don't agree with. If they know they can turn to you for support and that they trust you then they will also know that they can go to you for any help they need.

If I understand your original post on this topic, your father did not support you. So you will know that the best thing to do is to always be there for your children. You will reap the rewards of their love and you will that you've done the right thing.

Also dont' be afraid to give them your honest opinion if they ever ask.
From Alex:

I pushed Jakey from the computer since I wanted to reply to you:p

Jakey is very very very supportive of his children, they can come to him with any kind of problems and he will find a solution. He is an amazing dad and lover and I feel so blessed that he introduced me 5 years ago to his lovely children. Josuah who is now Josuah-Alexander because of me, he's a very well spoken well mannered little dude, can you believe that he correct his French teacher? Yes he does because Jake taught French to all of us and not the crappy French, the very international one that is accepted by the Academy.

Jakey is a scholar with an encyclopedic knowledge of about everything from technology to sexology (he built and manage our company server farms), sociology (he's often invited to give lecture in universities just like other in his field would do but he doesn't have a doctorate yet), and you can add to this list more topics that he deal with. This type of knowledge is transferred to his children and mine.

He does give his honest opinion about everything, and he will never hide his feelings when something bothers him, I asked that question because I was very curious of how he would react (knowing that he has been working in porn) how receptive will he be if one of his child were to announce they're working in porn as actor.

Jakey and I own a studio, where we have so many youngster coming to shoot solo or duo video but we have one questionnaire that is very very thorough and Jakey designed it, it ask so much question that if the wannabe model want to be a model after answering it, he/she really needs the money or Porn is really what they want to do. I answered that questionnaire myself, and frankly I don't want to be a porn star (although I have all the abilities to be one).

As for Jakey, don't worry, his children are in good hands, he's strict (much more than I am) but he's just and he love them so much it's glowing in the house when the children are here. I'm the personal trainer for Josh with surfing and swimming and Jakey train them both with martial arts.

Never in my life I was expected to meet someone like him, hot looking, rich and down to earth. I consider myself lucky, very very lucky.

The best to you, Alex :heart:
 
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From Alex:

I pushed Jakey from the computer since I wanted to reply to you:p

Jakey is very very very supportive of his children, they can come to him with any kind of problems and he will find a solution...

Alex and Jake,

I hope you guys don't think that I didn't realize that the question posited in the original post was hypothetical. My response was based on a "what if" scenario.

Now having said that it's nice to read that both of you have such an honest, open, loving, and supportive relationship with Jake's children. There are a lot more parents should be like you two and then I have no doubt that there would be a lot fewer problems in the world.
 

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Nothing... I'm very liberal men... I can understand everything!
 

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the thing about teens and sex parents dont know alot of what they are doing while out with friends--if my parents knew what i was doing when i was out and about especially when i was 14 to 16 yrs old they would freaked out and probably would today if they ever found out--

but my parents got divorced when i was 11 and by time i was 13 mom met another man married him and we lived in an apartment where no matter what hours they worked they still couldnt afford to pay the bills so a friend got me i nto doing something and i thought shit i get fucked and get paid for it--hell yeah--so as i got fucked and got paid--i would tell my parents that i mowed yards and did odd jobs to make money to help o ut
 
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Nothing... I'm very liberal men... I can understand everything!
Really that's a little bold as a statement. That you are very liberal that I can understand, I am myself quite liberal and have tried many forbidden things in my short 36 years of life. But that you UNDERSTAND EVERYTHING :rofl: that's my friend it's pulling somebody's leg, and it's not mine (in fact you're pulling your own legs lol). Can you tell me about the pathology of Charles Manson and explain why he didn't feel regrets. If you can it's because you understand his motions right? And as a very liberal you agree with him also, is it right?;) I know it's a hard example, but it's as bold as pretending to understand everything, and the very statement of saying that you are "very liberal" almost means that you'll find a way to agree with it.
 
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Well I understand where you come from, since as a teen I was one hell of a sex addict too (which teen isn't), and just like you if my parents knew what would entering my ass they'd be removing me from the will, however I wasn't selling myself (it was just genuine teen sex). Unlike you however, I'm from a wealthy family, my parents got divorced too, but it didn't affect both of their wallet, but being rich also means being quite often alone (which I try my best not to transfer that to my kids, since I'm a very busy dude), I make amend to be home every night, and my husband as well as my kids sure appreciate that.

See the situation that Alex imagine is pretty much the same I was in when I was younger, my children walk around with hundreds of dollars in their pockets in form of credit card and paper money (so they really don't need the money). Their tuition are all planned and they can decide to take the money to go to school or starting their own business I don't care what they do with it as long they spend it intelligently (that's the kind of parent I am) I won't force them to attend the highest university if they can do well without, but I will support them if they do decide to pursue higher education. I started giving freedom to my kids quite early, my 10 years old son has no curfew scheduled since he was 8, however it's an error and trial type of parenting strategy. If you don't go sleep early during a school day, you'll be very tired the next day and don't expect to stay home:no:, you're going to school no matter what:rofl:. He took advantage of it the first few months and sure he got behind in his work. And that's how I'd bring him in my study and explain that it will be exactly the same in the adult world, you need to make the right decision. That is just one example of the responsibility I transfer to them. Obviously I'm not going to let them go wild in the wood without a little supervision. But since that little incident, I don't have to tell him to go sleep, no fight, no argument, at 8:30pm is in his room, at 9pm he's fast asleep. During the weekend he follows Alex's schedule.

So yes I am very close and very understanding of my kids, and I understands that they won't tell me everything, but I read them like books. If at a later age they'd be in porn, they wouldn't resist to tell me or Alex, because they know daddy have been doing some very odd jobs in the past :rofl: and Alex is their big brother. The question is how would I feel or react... because to me porn is a golden jail and I don't want my child to enter that prison. They wouldn't do porn for money, heck they can open their own studios;)
 
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