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Thor
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what is love?
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XMan101
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"Love don't live here anymore..."
Damn this thread is looking sad!! Love is when your heart stops and all you see is his/her face in front of you and they occupy every waking (and possibly sleeping) thought. You dance on clouds , go flying through the air............. then realise it's a long way down and nothing is supporting you!
"Dance me to the end of love...."
Damn this thread is looking sad!! Love is when your heart stops and all you see is his/her face in front of you and they occupy every waking (and possibly sleeping) thought. You dance on clouds , go flying through the air............. then realise it's a long way down and nothing is supporting you!
"Dance me to the end of love...."
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whatthef__k
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my heart doesn't stop beating, it's a different rhythm.
when i think about love, it's if i ain't got you by alicia keys that comes to my mind...
Some people live for the fortune
Some people live just for the fame
Some people live for the power, yeah
Some people live just to play the game
Some people think that the physical things
Define what's within
And I've been there before
But that life's a bore
So full of the superficial
Some people want it all
But I don't want nothing at all
If it ain't you baby
If I ain't got you baby
Some people want diamond rings
Some just want everything
But everything means nothing
If I ain't got you, Yeah
Some people search for a fountain
That promises forever young
Some people need three dozen roses
And that's the only way to prove you love them
Hand me the world on a silver platter
And what good would it be
With no one to share
With no one who truly cares for me
Some people want it all
But I don't want nothing at all
If it ain't you baby
If I ain't got you baby
Some people want diamond rings
Some just want everything
But everything means nothing
If I ain't got you, you, you
If I ain't got you with me baby
So nothing in this whole wide world don't mean a thing
If I ain't got you with me baby
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Bo.
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This Is Love 
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Thor
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mmmm, nice pics Bo, that looks like love to me too
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Love is my soul
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whatthef__k
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Do you know Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love?
He said that love consists of three different elements:
- intimacy (feelings of (mental) closeness, connectedness)
- passion (physical attraction and sexual consummation)
- commitment (in the short term, the decision to remain with another, and in the long term, the shared achievements and plans made with that other).
The type of love one experiences depends on how present the elements are in a relationship. That means that there are actually seven types of love:
- nonlove: absence of all three components of love
- liking (friendship): intimacy
Intimate liking characterizes true friendships, in which a person feels a bondedness, a warmth, and a closeness with another but not intense passion or long-term commitment.
- infatuated love: passion
Romantic relationships often start out as infatuated love and become romantic love as intimacy develops over time. However, without developing intimacy or commitment, infatuated love may disappear suddenly.
- empty love: commitment
Sometimes, a stronger love deteriorates into empty love. In cultures in which arranged marriages are common, relationships often begin as empty love and develop into one of the other forms with the passing of time.
- romantic love: intimacy + passion
It bonds individuals emotionally through intimacy and physically through passionate arousal.
- companionate love: intimacy + commitment
It is an intimate, non-passionate type of love that is stronger than friendship because of the element of long-term commitment. Sexual desire is not an element of companionate love. This type of love is often found in marriages in which the passion has gone out of the relationship but a deep affection and commitment remain. The love ideally shared between family members is a form of companionate love, as is the love between close friends who have a platonic but strong friendship.
- fatuous love: passion + commitment
It can be exemplified by a whirlwind courtship and marriage in which a commitment is motivated largely by passion without the stabilizing influence of intimacy.
- consummate love: intimacy + passion + commitment
It is the complete form of love, representing an "ideal" relationship toward which most people strive. Maintaining a consummate love may be even harder than achieving it. Thus, consummate love may not be permanent. If passion is lost over time, it may change into companionate love.
I really like Sternberg's theory because it is simple, easy to understand, and it is useful to explain the most important changes in the experience of love over time.
People may start with feeling physically attracted and having sex (infatuated love). After a while, they may get to know each other better and notice that there is also intimacy between them (romantic love). Then, if they decide to remain with another, consummate love can develop. After many years spent together, there may develop a lack of passion. The consummate love changes into a companionate love.
It also helps to identify possible reasons why people are unhappy in a relationship.
Please notice that consummate love is not necessarily the best or most desirable type of love. It depends on what partners expect for themselves and from one another.
He said that love consists of three different elements:
- intimacy (feelings of (mental) closeness, connectedness)
- passion (physical attraction and sexual consummation)
- commitment (in the short term, the decision to remain with another, and in the long term, the shared achievements and plans made with that other).
The type of love one experiences depends on how present the elements are in a relationship. That means that there are actually seven types of love:
- nonlove: absence of all three components of love
- liking (friendship): intimacy
Intimate liking characterizes true friendships, in which a person feels a bondedness, a warmth, and a closeness with another but not intense passion or long-term commitment.
- infatuated love: passion
Romantic relationships often start out as infatuated love and become romantic love as intimacy develops over time. However, without developing intimacy or commitment, infatuated love may disappear suddenly.
- empty love: commitment
Sometimes, a stronger love deteriorates into empty love. In cultures in which arranged marriages are common, relationships often begin as empty love and develop into one of the other forms with the passing of time.
- romantic love: intimacy + passion
It bonds individuals emotionally through intimacy and physically through passionate arousal.
- companionate love: intimacy + commitment
It is an intimate, non-passionate type of love that is stronger than friendship because of the element of long-term commitment. Sexual desire is not an element of companionate love. This type of love is often found in marriages in which the passion has gone out of the relationship but a deep affection and commitment remain. The love ideally shared between family members is a form of companionate love, as is the love between close friends who have a platonic but strong friendship.
- fatuous love: passion + commitment
It can be exemplified by a whirlwind courtship and marriage in which a commitment is motivated largely by passion without the stabilizing influence of intimacy.
- consummate love: intimacy + passion + commitment
It is the complete form of love, representing an "ideal" relationship toward which most people strive. Maintaining a consummate love may be even harder than achieving it. Thus, consummate love may not be permanent. If passion is lost over time, it may change into companionate love.
I really like Sternberg's theory because it is simple, easy to understand, and it is useful to explain the most important changes in the experience of love over time.
People may start with feeling physically attracted and having sex (infatuated love). After a while, they may get to know each other better and notice that there is also intimacy between them (romantic love). Then, if they decide to remain with another, consummate love can develop. After many years spent together, there may develop a lack of passion. The consummate love changes into a companionate love.
It also helps to identify possible reasons why people are unhappy in a relationship.
Please notice that consummate love is not necessarily the best or most desirable type of love. It depends on what partners expect for themselves and from one another.
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Shadow
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Perhaps love is like a resting place
A shelter from the storm
It exists to give you comfort
It is there to keep you warm
And in those times of trouble
When you are most alone
The memory of love will bring you home
Perhaps love is like a window
Perhaps an open door
It invites you to come closer
It wants to show you more
And even if you lose yourself
And don't know what to do
The memory of love will see you through
Love to some is like a cloud
To some as strong as steel
For some a way of living
For some a way to feel
And some say love is holding on
And some say letting go
And some say love is everything
And some say they don't know
A shelter from the storm
It exists to give you comfort
It is there to keep you warm
And in those times of trouble
When you are most alone
The memory of love will bring you home
Perhaps love is like a window
Perhaps an open door
It invites you to come closer
It wants to show you more
And even if you lose yourself
And don't know what to do
The memory of love will see you through
Love to some is like a cloud
To some as strong as steel
For some a way of living
For some a way to feel
And some say love is holding on
And some say letting go
And some say love is everything
And some say they don't know
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What is love... but a kiss on a rainy day?
A smile that won't go away; a safe place to run.
What is love... but a complicated simple truth
A bond between me and you... the number one.
Oh, that's love...
Sorry, one of my favorite songs and it fits well here; here's a video for it (sorry, the video isn't allowed to be embedded, but it's on YouTube and it's worth it:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ooIHJ3Mqjj8
A smile that won't go away; a safe place to run.
What is love... but a complicated simple truth
A bond between me and you... the number one.
Oh, that's love...
Sorry, one of my favorite songs and it fits well here; here's a video for it (sorry, the video isn't allowed to be embedded, but it's on YouTube and it's worth it:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ooIHJ3Mqjj8
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What is love?
Here's a nice vid that asks just that question:
On a more serious note I suppose true love (between two people who have chosen to be together always) should be defined in terms of longevity, stability, honesty, empathy and passion. Physical passion? Hopefully, but the human body is limited, so sex and sexual pleasure should not be considered the basis for a meaningful and lasting, loving friendship. Emotional passion? Certainly, but it should be a passion for the other person in their entirety, not just in the heat of the moment or for their body alone. :thinking:
More questions:
How do we define love when the element of sex doesn't apply, e.g. the love we might feel towards family members or just close platonic friends.
An elderly couple (without access to viagra) can still love each other, even though sex is no longer happening. How might this change their views of love? I would say that although sex might not happen, there is still intimacy. How do folks define intimacy then? What is non-physical intimacy? :?
Here's a nice vid that asks just that question:
On a more serious note I suppose true love (between two people who have chosen to be together always) should be defined in terms of longevity, stability, honesty, empathy and passion. Physical passion? Hopefully, but the human body is limited, so sex and sexual pleasure should not be considered the basis for a meaningful and lasting, loving friendship. Emotional passion? Certainly, but it should be a passion for the other person in their entirety, not just in the heat of the moment or for their body alone. :thinking:
More questions:
How do we define love when the element of sex doesn't apply, e.g. the love we might feel towards family members or just close platonic friends.
An elderly couple (without access to viagra) can still love each other, even though sex is no longer happening. How might this change their views of love? I would say that although sex might not happen, there is still intimacy. How do folks define intimacy then? What is non-physical intimacy? :?
