what is love?

[etilit]

can you explain?

 

[Daedalus]

 

[JonnyFantastico]

LMAO You would find something Putin related... )

But I actually like the thought process behind this song... seriously. Give it a listen.

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[dudemeister098]

true love is willingly giving someone the ability to hurt you in the worst way possible and hoping, praying, wishing, that they never do

 

[Bixel]

LOL I was just gonna post the same thing. XD

 

[hawtsean]

true love is willingly giving someone the ability to hurt you in the worst way possible and hoping, praying, wishing, that they never do

Yeah, trust plays a large part of true love. Only those with a broken (or seriously chipped) heart can relate to that.

 

[terb56]

Love

Love is a two way street. We need to love others like we want to be loved. It's kind of the Golden Rule. Be kind because we want others to be kind to us. Be giving because we want others to be giving to us. Forgive because we want to be forgiven. etc.

 

[zortek]

was originally going to reply with many words, but then thought 'no, keep it simple,' .... so



ACCEPTANCE

 

[lhardwick69]

when you are with someone accept him for his strengths as well as his weaknesses- from likes and dislikes in music movies and hobbies ---then as you grow together and one day you cant see yourself living without him/her-- not just in a friend way but as a companion--then you are in love

sure the part about cant see yourself living without that person can mean your parents brothers sisters but this is a different kind of feeling you have--i fell in love once hated when we broke up after that its been hard to find another guy wanting to be in love with something other than his dick

 

[hawtsean]

there is no love. Love doesn't exist. No one will ever love me!!!!

That's not reality. There is always someone, often more than just one someone, who will love another person. Perhaps you haven't been looking in the right places, or haven't been lovable when someone came looking.

 

[hawtsean]

I am just not ready to find someone who can love me...

I see. That is quite a bit different from saying that nobody would ever love you.

 

[SimplyJakeAndAlex]

can you explain?

You want the very unethical scientific definition and process of love or you want the most romantic version ?

 

[SimplyJakeAndAlex]

I am just not ready to find someone who can love me...

There is no such things at being ready to find someone who's going to love you... someone is going to find you or you'll find somebody and from there you cannot really predict what will happens. First you're most of the time physically attracted to somebody and if your attraction goes beyond his/her physical envelop this is normally the first sign of love or if you prefer idyllic attraction. And once the love machine has started my dear little friend be ready for suffering land :rofl:

 

[lhardwick69]

i been looking but no one seems to want it--west virginia ne1 hehehe

 

[etilit]

there is no love. Love doesn't exist. No one will ever love me!!!!

loves all around us we just have to except it keep looking babe!! lol

i fell in love once hated when we broke up after that its been hard to find another guy wanting to be in love with something other than his dick

heres hopeing you keep trying sweetie:heart:

You want the very unethical scientific definition and process of love or you want the most romantic version ?

hmmmm ill take both jake would love to know unethical scientific definition lol

 

[SimplyJakeAndAlex]

hmmmm ill take both jake would love to know unethical scientific definition lol

Well I'm pretty certain that you know already the scientific version... because depending of your age you might have had biology class where you kind of study quickly some function of the human body and in particular "the brain". We all know that the brain is the master of everything... right now your brain is processing what I've wrote and you're brain is telling you to scratch yourself a this right moment right? If you didn't you will in a second...it's a normal reflex. So the brain is a big circuit board where neurons, sugar, salt, electricity is traveling at the speed of light (if not faster) and it's telling you right now: What the the fuck that dude is talking about... where the fuck is he going with that. And my brain is telling you... shut the fuck up and keep reading.l

The first stage of romantic love begins with attraction. But why are we attracted to some people and not to others? Some research and experimentation suggests that pheromones play a role in attraction.

What's pheromones: it is secreted or excreted chemical factor that triggers a social response in members of the same species. Pheromones are chemicals capable of acting outside the body of the secreting individual to impact the behavior of the receiving individual.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pheromone#cite_note-0 There are alarm pheromones, food trail pheromones, sex pheromones, and many others that affect behavior or physiology.

However, whether or not pheromones exist, they are not the only reason we are attracted to an individual. Other factors such as social and environmental influences, genetic information, and past experience contribute to who we are and who we find attractive physically and emotionally.

Our genetic information might play a role in whether or not someone is desirable in order to avoid inbreeding or, on the other end of the spectrum, to avoid the loss of desirable gene combinations. Inevitably, however, it is our brain that processes another individual's appearance, lifestyle, how they relate to past individuals we have met, and, possibly, their pheromones. Then, based on this information, we decide, within our brain, whether or not this person is worth getting to know.

It is uncontroversial that when someone experiences an attraction for someone else, their brain triggers the release of certain chemicals. These adrenaline-like chemicals include phenylethylamine (PEA) which speeds up the flow of information between nerve cells, dopamine, and norepinephrine (both of which are similar to amphetamines). Dopamine makes you feel good and norepinephrine stimulates the production of adrenaline. Together, these chemicals explain why when we are around someone we are attracted to we feel a "rush" and our heart beats faster. However, if you have ever been in love, you know that these feelings somewhat subside as you become more comfortable with someone and move from that attraction and "lust" stage to love.

So what is the role of the brain in the stage of love? One chemical, oxytocin, plays an important role in romantic love as a sexual arousal hormone and makes women and men calmer and more sensitive to the feelings of others. Physical and emotional cues, processed through the brain, trigger the release of oxytocin. For example, a partner's voice, look or even a sexual thought can trigger its release. Attachment to someone has been linked to chemicals released from the brain known as endorphins that produce feelings of tranquility, reduced anxiety, and comfort. These chemicals are not as exciting as those released during the attraction stage, but they are more addictive and are part of what makes us want to keep being around that person we are in love with. In fact, the absence of these chemicals when we lose a loved one plays a part in why we feel so sad. But is that it? Are chemical releases triggered by the brain when we think of or are in the presence of our partner all there really is behind those "I love you's"?

Other areas of the brain that have been associated with love include the septal area, which has been associated with pleasure, and the frontal lobe, the most highly evolved part of our brain, which has been associated with higher mental functions such as trust, respect, desire for companionship, etc. Finally, the amygdala, which has direct and extensive connections with all the sensory systems of the brain and with the hypothalamus, is considered to be the emotional center of the brain. Therefore, it most likely also plays a role in the emotions surrounding love. Consequently, it is highly likely that as we become more attached to someone through experience and time together, our love for them is processed and stored in our brain.

So if everyone in love is experiencing the same chemicals and activating the same areas of the brain, what makes love such a special experience? What makes your feelings any different from anyone else's? It is that person that you have fallen in love with. It is them and only them that can do or say the right things and touch you the right way so that those chemicals are released and those areas of the brain are activated. Finally, is love just a function of our brains? As shown by the experiment with college students, the pattern within the brain that formed when they saw their loved ones was complex, as are our brains. Although it is your partner's brain that enables them to act or say those things that trigger your brain to respond with those chemicals of attraction and attachment, everyone's brain is individual and makes up an individual "you" and that unique and special experience that we call love. Although this does not rule out other areas that many believe play a role in love, such as the soul, it shows that the brain does play a vital, if not ultimate role in all aspects of love and that this role is extremely complex and unique.

This is coming from my first year book of psychology... yes we do study that crap in psycho... so this gives you the scientific part... the non scientific part to me is very simple. KNOW WHAT THE FUCK YOU WANT AND LEARN TO CONVEY IT ADEQUATELY TO YOUR PARTNER this in short equals COMMUNICATION

 

[hawtsean]

Nicely researched response, Jake.

So the brain is a big circuit board where neurons, sugar, salt, electricity is traveling at the speed of light

Well that's totally true for me on most days; however some times, the speed more resembles an aging turtle caught in sticky mud.:duh:

 

[SimplyJakeAndAlex]

Nicely researched response, Jake.
Well that's totally true for me on most days; however some times, the speed more resembles an aging turtle caught in sticky mud.:duh:

You know me by now I cannot leave my profession and my profession cannot leave me LOL. :rofl:

See according to that same research coming from one of my 1000 books in psychology (yeah yeah a thousand), pheromones does shrink their secretion with age... older you become less you'll be interested in loving someone new.

 

[Tom]

Love is having the cuteist dog in the world jump up and greet you every time you come in to the house.

Love is sharing your time with each other, falling a sleep together.